I had my tubes tied in November....and now im PREGNANT

live_laugh_love4live_laugh_love4
edited March 2011 in November 2011
I am 8wks pregnant with my 4th child. I am 24 and still trying 2 finish college. My bf keeps telling me we can't afford it. I am having so many emotions towards this. He don't wanna have it but I cnt do it by myself. I'm even due on his b-day. I feel like I'm being punished instead of this being a blessing. I tried to prevent getting pregnant but now all I do is cry

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  • NeekNeek
    edited March 2011
    I feel like there is a reason for this baby Tu b here.... Idk ur religion I'm not very religious but I do believe in God and I say that he wouldn't put you through anything that u couldn't handle..... and ur EDD being on his birthday is very ironic.... I say keep it.... I'm pregnant and in school as well its going to be hard but what about how happy you will b when u finish.... and u did it with a struggle but still get Tu see your smiling bundle of joy.... I think u r blessed ... and this just goes to show that we are not in control of things God is.... being as though your tubes were tied
  • BeautifulOneBeautifulOne
    It is a blessing hun, never a punishment. Im in school as well and I always think about my baby. I'm doing everything for my baby. I don't want my child to want for anything. I didn't think I would get pregnant this early either, but I am and I have to do what I have to do and so do you. It's going to be hard, but it's worth it. Keep your head up! It's going to be alright!
  • mommyblissmommybliss
    I had my first daughter while I was trying to finish nursing school. I'm not saying it wont be hard, but I certainly pushed myself harder thanks to her! I had to be structured and I think that worked out better for me! I had no chance to put off studying when she napped. It will work out!
  • Rodeoqueen13Rodeoqueen13
    I Would def keep it, our at least birth it & consider adoption. If u think about how many ppl out there would give anything to become pregnant or at last be able to adopt a healthy baby
  • marriedwith_4marriedwith_4
    Maybe it was ment to be. U had ur tubes tied n now ur pregnant!!! Hubby & I have wonderful jobs n I can't afford me. (lol) u will definitely get thru it. Over all do what's best for YOU!
  • mommyof3tobemommyof3tobe
    What the.....your tubes were tied and you still got prego!!! Omg. Well I'm prego too, unplanned as well. This is my third and I'm not married. I have a very long story but to sum it all up, I'm keeping my third baby and I am happy and sad all-day everyday.
  • mommyof3tobemommyof3tobe
    Ok one more thing I just thought ...you have to have thia child! ! What r the chances someone getting pregnant with tubes tied? This sounds like a true blessing to me! Unless the dr that tied ur tubes was a wacko, either way I still think its a true blessing! ! I went with a friend to go get an abortion, amd the power went out while she was getting ready to have it done. There was no bad weather either just that one building. Needless to say she had a beautiful baby girl!! :-)
  • wallieheadbaby3wallieheadbaby3
    Girl you need to do what is right for you! Follow your own heart. Everyone is going to put in there two cents but it will all come down to what you feel is right for you and your family. Im having my tubes tied after this baby... I hope it works... Jeeze this is a really hard situation for you! I can't even imagine how u must be feeling. Keep your head up!
  • momof5momof5
    I am getting my tubes tied after this pregnancy and the way the doc explained it to me is that even tho you have them tied 3 or 4 women out of 100 will get pregnant within the first year of having them tied. The only way not to get pregnant is to either not have sex or get a full hysterectomy. This is my 5th child so I really don't want no more but if I would get pregnant again I know that it would be a blessing from God. Everything will work out. Lots of prayers to you and your unborn.
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    @momof5 does he mean if they are burned too? This babe is my 4th n final pregnancy. My plan o'action is having a tubal, but seriously! I wld be freaking out like @live_laugh_love4
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    Hugs to you honey!! idk how I wld cope getting pregnant after tubal..how long ago was your last child?
  • momof5momof5
    At was fothr everything. I asked that to and he said that they don't just tie the tube anymore that they cut tie and burn that way it sticks but within the first year they can still join back together since its so new. I'm kinda worried abt having it done and it not working but if it happens it happens. Lol.
  • magcawmagcaw
    I finished my bachelors with three kids (when I graduated they were 2, 4, and 7) and now I'm working on my master's unexpectedly prego with number 4. It's hard, yeah, but it can be done. Don't let getting your degree get in the way of having your baby--go with your heart.
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    Omg! Guess backup bc will always have to be used. I can't keep falling preggers every 10 years lol colleges are expensive!!
  • kritten_octoberbbykritten_octoberbby
    All i can say is good luck..tubes almost always get untied...maybe you should do something diferent...
  • ashabashashabash
    If your tubes are tied then wouldn't that be dangerous to the baby?
  • fourandoneonthewayfourandoneontheway
    Can't nothing stop what god has planned..... I. Myself do not believe in abortion that baby has a purpose in life like we all do...... I know it's hard but God won't put nothing on u that you can't handle. ..I'll keep u and family in prayer
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    My fiancees sister is here even after my mother in la got her tubes tied(: hes 18 shes 2...imagine my mother in laws surprise. Shes such a blessing though. Every baby has a purpose
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    Aww I'm happy your family loves the little one @mommytob1
    I'm nervous bout my age difference. Son's almost 16 this baby boy will be so far apart. Hoping older one will b a great role model for his lil brother.
  • MelissaMelissa
    edited March 2011
    Its a mericle... if its a girl that should be her name... god deffinately has something special planned... don't be sad about what you BD is saying or doing look to the future in your childrens eyes... can u imagine life without them? It wil be the same when this little one comes for the both of you and surprises are always a good thing... it will be ok OOOOOHUGSOOOOO....
    @jaime77.. had my youngest son last yr he's 16 years and 15 yrs apart from his older bros... now haveing my first lil girl... can you imagine when she gets to be 16 and dating what the poor boys will have to go through not sure if dad is the one to worry about...lol
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    I know someone who also had her tubes tied after her first son, and 17 years later came jessica and jennifer (twins) she was so surprised but like she said god does things for a reason, and getting tubes tied can always come apart and surprise.. the only thing thats 100% sure is burning your tubes.. congrats and think this a miracle baby, god sent...
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    @Jamie77 my fiancee absolutely adores his little sister even with the 16 year age difference...and hes her favorite person! I'm sure your little ones will get along(:
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