HELP!!!!

marysa10 · March 2011

So me and my baby daddy broke up right after I became prego and he's sayin he doesn't want anything to do with me untill the babys born...I told him that if he isn't gonna be around to at least spend like a half hr a day then he's not gonna b around at all...I feel kinda bad for telling him that but I don't think its ok that he wants to party through the whole pregnancy part then wanna be a dad when he's born...idk what do u guys think!

rockinmomma · March 2011

If he wants to be there for the baby then I say let him. Don't cheat your baby out of having its dad just because he wasn't there for you. Now thats just my opinion, but ultimately you've got to do what you feel is best for you and your baby. Good luck!

momofSOONtobe7 · March 2011

I wouldn't have anything to do with him forget that! Sounds like he just wanted the pleasure of making the baby and that's about it. If he can't be there for you during then what's to say he's going to be there after. You can't be a part time dad!!! Just my opinion. It sounds like you can do A LOT better girl!! And yes people are right you can't male him be there and if he signs the bc and all he can get visitation rights. But yeah I woulnt strip the baby of his/hers father. Unless he's out partying and not being there for the baby like he should be.

NaliiBBy · March 2011

Ur right!! Not him! What a dooch!!!! Yea it doesn't work that way buddy! Why doesn't he wann b witt u?? I'm srry hun.. Jus stay strong n stick it out though.. For u nd bby

if hes even there after or not!!!! u can fall into depression easy witt all these hormonez.. Jus stay positive kk !! Hell come around!!? Hopefully!!! Aggh I'm sorry.. Jus do u..nd ur own thing.. Don't fall for his lil lies nd BS!!! Aghh done guys r juss horrible!!

graciensmommy · March 2011

What do u expect him to do? Pregnancy is up to us, fair or unfair there's nothing he can do right now. I think your fighting a losing battle on that. Now once the baby is here u have every right to require certain behavior of him while the baby is around but on his own time he's a grown man and you can't control him it'll only cause u extra stress to try. Trust me I've been there.

Vseminora1 · March 2011

I'm going through this with my husband, he had been fighting with his daughters mom to see his baby she wont let him see her because they didnt work out. Its not about you two now its about baby. It takes two parents to raise kid.

marysa10 · March 2011

@momofsoontobe7
I told him he couldn't be a part time dad and he just tells me that I'm crazy and he duznt need to be around me untill the babys born...this is my first kid so wen we first got prego I pictured it being perfect...and its far from it!he has 2 other daughters that he never took care of and I'm scared he's gonna ditch on my kid...

momofSOONtobe7 · March 2011

Awe im sorry to hear that. That's so my ex!!!!! We have two daughters together that he gave up rights to but I still allow him to see and found out he had a son also while we were married 7 years after words. If that makes since. He didn't know he had another one until the kids turned 7 or he just played stupid. I am divorced from him bit I still throw it in his face that he cheated on me while we were just married a few weeks. He doesn't know anything about the kid wants to give up righs to him and plus he has another son that he also doesn't see and wants to give up rights to. He just doesn't want to pay support or be in there lives. He wants it on his terms. It hurts the kids more that waybthen just doing without. A mommy an do both rolls daddy and mommy!!!! You don't NEED a man in your life for u and ur child to be happy. I know here in ohio a mom pretty much has rights to the child after birth regardless of baby daddy being on the bc. They have to go to court for visitation rights. Just because they are paying support also doesn't mean they hav visitation rights either or at that even any rights. My ex had be proven by dna to hav all 4 kids and he sees none of them but my two here and there. I only do it for my daughters though or I wouldn't do it at all. He's a douch and a worthless father. I know he would never hurt my kids physically but I still don't let him have them alone. I make him go to his moms house the girls gmas and they see him there.

IsItFallYet · March 2011

I don't think you can really make him spend time with you daily. Especially if your both not getting along, daily time together could be stressful.
Should maybe attend the doctor appointments though.

IsItFallYet · March 2011

Sorry, didn't mean to make multiple posts.

marysa10 · March 2011

Aaahhhh I hate him...not really I'm in love with him...I've been with him since I was 14 and picture my whole life with him...it hurts so bad that he duznt want me anymore...he sed I bitch too much...but after we broke up I found out he was cheating on me the whole time with this lil ugly slut with fucked up teeth.lol it makes me feel better to talk shit on her! Anyways I just called him and told him that I'm done waiting on him to grow up and if he wants to be a dad then he can but I'm not calling him for anything he can call me to find out about apts and shit...it hurts that he duznt care...he ses he'll be here for the baby when its born...I told him he's gonna have to prove that to me... haaaaaa I just need to breath! Thanx for all the advise

sunshinelove · March 2011

Honestly, if he's not going to be there.for the pregnancy don't let him see the kid... I would sue the hell out of him for custody and find some one who isn't a worthless pos.

sunshinelove · March 2011

Btw, the smartest and most wonderful kids I know were raised by a single mom, it does not take two parents to raise a child it takes one loving person that is willing to pot herself on the line for their baby.

marysa10 · March 2011

Ya I have 3 siblings and no one but my mom raised us our whole life and ide say were pretty succesful...

Kateee10 · March 2011

My daughters Dad was like that, so I didn't let him around at all. She's almost three now & still has no idea who her real Father is. But, we have had a wonderful man for quite some time now. So, I think it was the right choice for us by far! Good luck. In my eyes you need to be there the whole time or no time. I never got any in between & neither should he.

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