Personally. I see nothing wrong with child support watsoever. My father was a dead beat frm the start n my mom didnt want any part of him. Neither did i or my brother. We certainly didnt get a 700 check every month. We were lucky to get 50-80bucks a week for both of us. It helped a lot wen my mom wasnt able to wrk due to surgeries in her foot. No one was trying to hold onto him or make him pay out of spite. He had plenty of kids after us, some he didnt take care of n some he did. I never cared. My mom met a great man that has been my dad for 17 years but it was still hard for them. Nothing wrong with making ur childs father pay to support the child whether he sees them or not. I refuse to make my child struggle
Wow I hope not everyone feels this way, I'm actually kind of upset to know that there are women out there that think this way. I get absolutely NO government assistance nor have I ever. My mother also raised me to be very independent but being independent and being a complete idiot are 2 completely different things. Who would ever get public assistance and refuse to get child support? I didn't knock single mothers up nor should I pay for them so they can not be "spiteful" and live off my tax money while the deadbeat bd pays nothing. I rather pay to get the roads paved.(I do not have anything against people who get assistance if they need it). This just amazes me.@ anyone who feels its ok to get public assistance and not get child support because it is "spiteful" I pray to god for your child's sake and the tax payers sake you have a wonderful man that will never leave you and always support your child so we don't have to.
@saylorsmommy these comments just really piss me off. My bd is court ordered to pay me $150 a month( that has never been paid) that won't even pay 25% of what my husband pays to support my son put him through a good school and in sports. I stay home and my husband made a choice to support me and my child because he is the only father my son knows, but I can tell you if I woke him up and let him read that in a couple years he's going to be supporting these ladies children also he would be pretty livid lol when I see how much we pay in taxes it makes me sad but now that I know where it goes I want to get some kind of tax fraud going lol
I'm almost convinced veevee is an undercover man trying to turn pregly women against child support and towards welfare so they deadbeats of the world can just walk away no strings attached. ha do women really feel this way and if so what have the men of this world done to make them feel this way. I would feel much worse asking for help from someone who had no part in my pregnancy than the man that got the 5mins of fun with a consequence
@second_time_mommy7 lol yeah I have no problem with our taxes going towards moms n kids who truly need it but to think its women who didn't even try to make the person who's just as responsible for the child pay for him or her because its "spiteful" is ridiculous!
I agree w the child support ppl here...its about what's best for the child and providing the mom isn't using it for herself the extra money will help. My uncle got child support for him kids even tho he had money-the kids ended up w more than they needed . Ie video games and such but it went to them yet. The reason my aunt paid is bc she didn't want to go to court..but w/e. Even if the reason u file is a lil out of spite, as long as it helps the child who cares! It his/her baby too and both parents should pitch in whether or not they want the kid...if ur willing to have sex u better b willing to take care of anything that comes of it! I'm lucky enough to b married and not have to worry bout it-good luck to those who do. No judgement either way-just my opinion.
Ladies she has hope of still being with this Guy. Therefore she's not gonna want to put him on child support because she doesn't want to run him away forever or upset him. She's to me worried about their relationship n not the well being of the child.
@Mommie_McAtee ..You must've over-read my comments. I said I wasn't a big fan of ChildSupport cause I was raised to be independent ya know ..You can't force a man to do nothing he doesn't want to; Child Support can't even do that the majority of the time. But if I have to I will! Only because I still care alot for him, I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt throughout this pregnancy, which is why I asked for advice on should I try & mend things. If he doesn't come around, on CS support he goes & not to hold onto him, but to help me out w/what he helped me make ..&nd if he doesnt pay it, my child will still be well taken care of.
..I'm tapping out of this discussion; Good-Day Ladies, be nice, &nd thanx again for the 3rd time on all the inputs & opinions!
So I think you should call him but plann what you want to say maybe even out line points you want to talk about. I would personaly go for child suport it is not for you but you child. A friend of mines dad owed back child suport and that is what paid for her collage education. But if you feel that you don't want child suport make him sign over his perental right! If he doesn't want to be a dad. He should have no rights if he does he should pay child suport.
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@Mommie_McAtee ..You must've over-read my comments. I said I wasn't a big fan of ChildSupport cause I was raised to be independent ya know ..You can't force a man to do nothing he doesn't want to; Child Support can't even do that the majority of the time. But if I have to I will! Only because I still care alot for him, I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt throughout this pregnancy, which is why I asked for advice on should I try & mend things. If he doesn't come around, on CS support he goes & not to hold onto him, but to help me out w/what he helped me make ..&nd if he doesnt pay it, my child will still be well taken care of.
..I'm tapping out of this discussion; Good-Day Ladies, be nice, &nd thanx again for the 3rd time on all the inputs & opinions!
My discussion sparked alot of attention!
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