I feel the same way, I don't think it has sunken in yet and plus I'm barely about to be 5weeks. Hopefully after I do the blood test it'll be more real to my hubby. We also planned it, but didn't expect it to happen so quickly.
I found out I was pregnant a month after we broke up so it was definitely unplanned & unexpected. & he's only 20 so he's jus definitely no ready. He's calmed down now cuz he's jus pretty much accepted the fact but in the beginning he was freakin out. I'm 13 wks today and he STILL hasn't told his parents! Even tho it was unplanned & we're not together I still hope he gets excited soon.
@oc86 oh dont feel bad. Me & my bd are still together plus we have been planning this for several months now & he is STILL afraid to tell his mother! Not to mention we live together so she doesnt support him in any way!
@supermomof3 I hope so because im not feeling this at all. About a week ago I was cramping & was thinkin about going to the er. He didnt even seem interested when I told him.
The only thing I can say in a mans defense is that they are more visual humans. When that baby is born, you'll see they're excited....women on the other hand are excited (well most) from the day that stick reads positive! We carry the baby so its a constant reminder everyday.men on the other hand don't carry or feel it kick everyday...my bd doesn't seem excited either which hurts my feelings...but I know once I start shwing and he can feel our baby kick and see it eventually....he will be excited!
@supermom3 yea it sucks. I guess we are different. I already refer to myself as a mommy but I guess men dont think theyre dads until the head peeps out the vagina.lol
I would have to say, what tenille said is true... men are more visual humans..! I will be 19 weeks on Tuesday and my fiance hasn't really seemed excited so I finally said something to him.. he responded with "babe I'm excited its just, ill be more excited & happy once the baby is born" lol I know all men are different but it seems to be the problem here with the women on this post... also @mimibrowneyez; your technically not supposed to talk about your pregnancy till your 15 weeks.. its bad luck... so maybe he's superstitious? & @supermomof3; my fiance cried when he seen the ultrasound.. it became real to him when he seen the tiny little baby & seen the heartbeat lol.... but GOOD LUCK to all you ladies!
@anthonys_mommy no I dont think he is very superstitious when it comes to the baby. I believe God has a plan & he wont intefere just because we talk about it. Especially not just talking to each other about it. Youre not even suppose to talk to the significant other about it? But yes I believe they are just more visual. I did catch him reading up on some things I wasnt suppose to eat tho so I guess thats a start.
I feel the same too of course! it was unplanned but we have a strong relationship with lots of love. he never talks about it. when i bring it up or say anything about the baby he gets all quiet and trys to go off topic. at first he wanted me to abort it, then adopt it and now that i decided to keep it he thinks it a bad choice. im 19 and he is 20 but i have my life on track..he doesnt maybe thats why They say: **** a women becomes a mom when she becomes prego , a man becomes a dad when he holds his child for the first time .
It takes time for a man to realize your preggo in the early stage. It took mine 15 weeks to realize. Men are babies they get scared and nervous too. Woman are more verbal with our feelings.
My fiancee is like this, and just rolls his eyes if i speak aboutbthe baby, on the day of the u.s i thought he would be really exciyed we argued all day, ffs. He seems to think hes not a dad untill baby is born.
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But yes I believe they are just more visual. I did catch him reading up on some things I wasnt suppose to eat tho so I guess thats a start.
How far along are you?