My husband just does not care and im tired of dealing with it.

edited April 2011 in Pregnant
I dont even know how to feel anymore. THis has happened everytime I get pregnant. Im going to deliver my son in a week, and my husband is being a complete jerk. This all started because I asked him to make the girls breakfast because i am not feeling well. I ended up making them breakfast and I was so mad that I started slamming anything i could in the kitchen. Then i threw our daughters eczema medicine at him. Im thinking the least you can do is that. out of 7 days in the week, he act like he cant make the girls breakfast on one of his days off. He really believes that I should do everything. That he should be able to just sit on his ass and punch a time card. Well i have a job too, and I handle the finances, and I do mostly everything for our girls. I did not enter into this marriage to be the only one taking care of our family. This is supposed to be a partnership. I even tried to divide everything 50/50. But he still dont get it. All he is worried about is the next time we are going to have sex. Y would I want to give myself to a man that does not value the family he made. So I left him alone and came into the room, and he gets dressed and leaves. Taking the car that barely has enough gas in it for us to make it through the week. He knows we are broke, but he rather be selfish. I might as well be doing this on my own, since thats what it feels like. I dont plan on saying anything to him if he decides to come back. I dont even want him at the birth of our son. I dont feel like he's earned the privillage. But im supposed to name my son after him as well. I am so fed up, i dont know what to do with myself. I dont care where he goes. Maybe its best for me and my kids that he just leaves us alone.

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  • I am almost the exact same boat as you girl. Its hard, u want to be a family but the way they act and the stuff they do literally makes u want to vomit! My hubby is laid off and I go to work all day then get home and after he sits at home all day as soon as I walk in the door he is like I am hungry... wtf! I just want to punch him.. I sometimes wish to walk away, but we have a family and u have to realuze what is the main thing that is making u fight (us is money) and just realize if that factor is worth ruining the love you share or just stick it out and let him know what it is that bothers you. As long as he knows what the problem is and if he never changes it, then you know you have tried, and that's all we can do. I hope things get better for you, I just wanted to show u some love and just know ur not the only one >:D<
  • Sorry your in such a tight position!
    It's not going to get easier on you once the baby is here. Until u clearly make it known you are fed up( perhaps go to a relatives for the night) he's just going to blame it on pregnancy hormones. Maybe pack a suitcase for him and say leave for the weekend. Let him truly know u had enuff laziness.
  • I feel the same way sometimes more often then not. I don't work but I do take care of our daughter n my step daughter, clean, cook all that n he acts like I don't do a d@mn thing. I am a full time student n life is hard. He doesn't understand what its like being pregnant n if I happen to not feel good one day I'm lying. He is 14 years older than me n we have been together 7 years. He stuck by me through 2 1/2 years of incarceration and raised our daughter. I have been out 10 months n things just aren't what they were before or what I thought they would b. I'm tired of having his kids over on the weekends (he has 13 not including mine n the one on the way) not that their all here at once n they act like they have nosense. He will leave for 5-6 hours n he's supposed to b spending time with them, they aren't here to c me. I'm just frustrated n want to leave n go on with my life, I love him yes but love isn't enough. I just don't have the means of providing for myself n two kids. As soon as the baby is born I'm doing just that because its not worth being unhappy. I'm just venting with u
  • N I n same boat more or less. Good luck Hun it will all work out for the best.
  • thanks, i mostly argue about his interaction with the kids, his beef with me is the lack of sex. I keep telling him the way into my heart is to do right by his family. zhe still halsnt came back, im using this time to show myself that i can be okay with out him.......
  • In the bible it says wives respect your husbands, husbands love your wives. Seems easy to do but more often than not its tuff. If your feeling unloved..bc of lack of involvement how you going to show respect! Men crave sex bc it's how they show love, affection, control sometimes. Woman crave intamacy. I'm like u kittie, I withheld my bod if I felt any disrespect. ((hugs)) give it serious thought before you decide to leave your husband. Can he change? I believe with alot of work he would.
  • @Jaime77, i dont know if he can ever really change. Everytime i feel like we have made some progress he does or says something to let me know that its bull crap. I have been in this reletionship for 9 years, 6 years married on the 26th of this month ironically. Im just so tired of settling. He keeps saying...im not going anywhere as a way to let me know he dont want to be with anyone else.......well who would want to leave a first class fool like me!!!!
  • @bribri im sorry to hear that, its really difficult to finally just say thats IT and move on. Can you imagine 2 more years going by and you wake up in the same position your in right now??? That is my worst fear. I feel like im wasting away in this marriage. Like im never going to feel at ease, comfortable, settled. The end result, is the end result in my book no matter how long it takes to get there. In my case I really dont see us being together anymore.
  • I told him not to come back this time....and he just walked in the house! should of set a bag outside and put a chair by the door!
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