Knowing..

xxtorrxxtorr
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
I'm 17 years old and will be 8 weeks on Tuesday. Because I'm only 17, I'm debating what the best option will be for me and the baby (keeping it or not). I feel like I should just know what to do, like a "mom sense," but I don't. This will be the toughest decision I've ever made before in my life and I'm terrified I'm going to make the wrong one.. Did anybody else have to choose what to do and now automatically know you were going to keep your baby?

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  • xxtorrxxtorr
    So you didn't keep it? And its so hard because my boyfriend wants me too but my mom doesn't and I live with her.
  • TagensmommyTagensmommy
    Both times I gout pregnant I didn't even think about choices..I have a wonderful 4 year old little rotten boy I would never change a thing..I was 15 when I got pregnant with him I'm now 8 weeks with my second and can't wait to get his or her room painted and filled up! I'm not judging at all trust me ... I could never do n abortion no matter what you got pregnant for a reason and trust me my son is the best thing that happen ed to me :)
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    My mom wants an abortion and sometimes I think that's what I want too but then it seems like every time I leave my house I seem a toddler or baby and it almost feels like a slap in the face because deep down I know I should keep it. I just don't understand why this is so hard for me. I'm scared of disappointing everybody and that I'm going to fail.
  • TagensmommyTagensmommy
    Your not going to fail! This is about you and your baby not anyone else..if you deep down you know then you know things will somehow work out..I've ben a single mom since the day my son was born...I dont regret a day..I own my own 4 bedroom house suv and my kids won't want for anything:) and of was younger than you things will get better
  • BeardreamsBeardreams
    Its a living thing in you that depends on you. Your mom may want whats "best" for you but it doesnt change the fact she is asking you to kill your first child. Move in with your bf and start a family. You will never regret the little bundle of joy or the experience of feeling it respond to you inside your belly with kicks when your farther along
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    I'm very proud of you I can't imagine going through this at 15. I feel so pressured though. What did your parents want you to do? My mom will support me no matter what she just keeps telling me its going to be unbelievably hard
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    @beardreams he's 18, neither one us have jobs and live a small town so its hard to find one, without a car, and he lives with a friend because he doesn't get along with his dad so that's not exactly an option. I think my biggest problem is I'm just afraid.
  • TagensmommyTagensmommy
    My mother would never in a million years allowed me to have an abortion she sayyid if of didn't want the baby shed take it lol she was very supportive she's not perfect but when it comes to my kids she's right there..my dad asked what I thought about abortion and of cussed him out then told my mom and she did the same lol neither me our my bd back then had jobs..I started working at my familys pizza shop and he wouldn't get a job or try he went in the marines to get away from us
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    Awh that's terrible I'm sorry. My bd and I are actually saying right now how it would be so much netters if we lived together but we know that can't happen. I wish we can a family business I could work at. I know my mom will support me no matter what and once the baby got here shed fall in love but she just says she always saw so much better for me. I know its my decision but its hard putting her through this. And its hard to watch my bd hurt for not knowing 100% that I want his child.
  • BeardreamsBeardreams
    :-S its hard being afraid. Its so scary finding out your pregnant. Maybe make some calls the government will help you until you two get on your feet maybe? What has your doctor said, they're connected to all the resources a pregnant woman needs. Best of luck!
  • kaylababy007kaylababy007
    O was in the same place 3 years ago, 17 a senior in high school my mother also wanted me to have an abortion. I chose not to have an abortion. I now have a 3 year old son who my mother loves to death. I say keep the baby & I'm sure your mother will acme around.
  • Rodeoqueen13Rodeoqueen13
    I Don't know if adoption is an option? But watch Juno. May not seem like a serious movie, but could give u a new perspective
  • TagensmommyTagensmommy
    it is scary and depending on what state you live in they have housing for young moms
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    She actually hasn't taken me to a doctor yet. We've talked about abortion and she thinks thats what I want because I thought it was but I'm having second thoughts. I know ill be make to do it I just need that support from my mom now.

    And @kaylababy007 I think I'm in the same position you were in only I'm a junior. How did you decide what to do?
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    Illinois in the middle of nowhere. It's a very small town close to the Indiana border
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    @rodeoqueen13 I don't think I'd be strong enough to do that. bd says no but he has an enormous family and they all love kids so I'm starting to wonder if one of them would adopt it or get temporary custody until we are ready to raise it on our own
  • Rodeoqueen13Rodeoqueen13
    @Xxtorr that is a great idea to have family help. BD might just change his mind later along too. I just wanted to add that even@8 weeks the baby is already like a little person. That's when I had my first US and saw little arms & legs & it moving. Also had a very strong heart beat. Best wishes for u in whatever u choose
  • tinka1326tinka1326
    Don't let anyone influence your decision. Your the one that has to this and if you dont think keeping the baby is what's best for you don't, but if you don't think you could go through with a termination and would possibly regret the decision later then you should keep the baby.
    If you decide to keep your child look up the silent scream online and get your mum to watch it, it show via ultrasound what happens to the baby in an abortion. I showed it to my mum and within 2 mins she asked me to turn it off and never mentioned it again.
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    @tinka1326 I watched that video.. I had no idea how exactly they did abortions. I feel so bad about even thinking about having one. I cried and cried and cried. Thank you for telling me about it. I now have a new outlook on what to do. We are going to try to get one of his family members to take custody until we graduate high school. Does that make us bad parents though because the baby wouldn't be living with us??
  • tinka1326tinka1326
    No sweetie as long as your doing whatever you think is right for you all. But keep in mind that as your pregnancy develops you may become too attached to your baby and not feel that you can even partially give it up. Honestly this is a decision you need to make without people influencing you though. In your heart you know what's right for you
  • xxtorrxxtorr
    My heart is soo confused right now. I wish this could be easy but its not. I know I'm going to have to face it eventually but I'm not ready too yet. I'm 8 weeks today too.
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