I feel that I myself have gotten reprimanded by a mod for stating a different opinion in congruence with defending myself and other moms like me to one of her pregly friends from before she became a moderator. I feel perhaps sometimes, a lot of times, a couple of mods forget they have been placed in position where favorites and friendships cannot and should not be welcome during a decision making moment. For this reason I do believe there should be an allotted day to vote to keep or elect new moderators. I will discuss this in an email to @Martin as well. If we as members can spot out how helpful, fun and fair other members are such as the overwhelming demand of yesterday's discussions. Then obviously we are able to elect members that would be positive, fun and fair. I also believe when we are reprimanded it should be done in a private message not a public post for the person which complained on you to get A personal moment of satisfaction. Is this not a requirement? If not could it be soon?
I received a message yesterday what I think was total out of place and I think to ignore other matters but adress me personally for something what wasn't bad to say and didn't go really against anyone.
@fingerscrossed Favoritism has gotta stop. Just because a mod likes this person they can break all rules. I feel we should have 3 warnings. One tell us EXACTLY what we done,where,and what is the reason its bad warning. Two the same but explaining the rules they broke and temp not allowed on unless they cool it. Third banned after review of everyone with all inputs. Some may see an opinion others may see just rudeness. Not to be banned cause personal reason just what they did. No apology then only after @martin makes decision. With all steps taken
@fingerscrossed We should have polls. Ask and vote. Reading comment after comment I feel like pregly the book lol. For things like spelling,names,opinions,themes,etc. It's fun and easy to see answered
My question again is where is Martin he has not said anything can we get three new mods and let us pergly vote to whom they should be? @ fingercrossed~ I feel you are a good mod you listen think and then act unlike the other ones thanks for listening.
@gabschillin i understand what you mean but you guys have to think that these people are just like use there pregnant women or moms that are going through the same thing. You have to remember they probably joined this site just like use pregnant and needed someone to talk to, and @martin saw what great advice they gave and how they were always on here helping that he offered them a mod position. They still have questions and concerns. So just b/c there mods are you saying they need to go to some other forum or resort to search the net for answers. I dont believe that is fair to them.
And your telling if you boss came up to you and knew you had been pregnant before and needed some advice on her pregnancy that you would tell her "oh your my boss I cant talk to you about that kind of personal stuff" What if she was scared and alone like some of us are? if it a male boss came up to a guy or girl employee and needed advice on helping his wife through her pregnant. Are you going to just look at him and laugh saying "good luck man" And walk away.
My point to all this is they are people just like us. They have questions and concerns and thoughts. Just like us they should have the right to question answers and give there opinions. They are not people that are getting paid for this. They are doing the mods spots b/c they want to help ppl.
No one is bashing @martin bc he has a wife and family to tend to so why bash these girls for just trying to help out.
I think @fingerscrossed needs to be the voice of @martin since he is too busy to monitor on a regular basis. The others can assist with keeping discussions tame but them banning when their opimions msy be tainted by friendships cannot continue. There are just too many hands in one pot!
@gabschillin (and to everyone on here) Not bashing you gabschillin yeah but the funny thing is that this forum shouldn't be about be professional it should and needs to be able supporting other pregnant woman. Maybe having mods that are not related to the site is something to think about but can you promise me that that mod has or is going through the same thing and can give me the advice and guidance that i need. No one can. With the mods that we have we can't expect them to help us if we are not going to help them. This is a support forum. We are not here to tell people what type of job to have. What do you consider professional, should the mods be doctors with years of experience of executives in business so they know how to run a group of people. Should the mods have college degree. I think being a mom is profession.
Think if use women as professional most of just are moms already. We are responsible for children(employees) we are the bosses. We are responsible for making sure that our (employees) we make sure there happy have everything they need.
Sorry went off subject for a min. but my point is this site truly isn't about being professional its about help other women/mothers. We are all in uncharter territory, some have been mothers before. Some are new at this and some of them are even 16 and pregnant with no one to talk to b/c there so young and think no one would listen. what if one of the mods was a teen mom and some teenage girl posts that she is so terrified to be a mom and need someone to help give her faith that she can do it. Is the mod suppose to be professional and not share there experiences. People come to this site to hear other women's advice and experience. Not to be told by professional some generic answer with not sensitivity
I think the moderators need rules. Them being able to delete posts and hid things they said or did is an abuse of powers and some how needs to be controlled because its obviously not...... @martin
*everyone* @martin is alive and well... as the moderators said he is very busy if you check his page you will see that he was on last night however, seeing as there are a bajillion requests from people tagging him in their comments it is hard to weed out what is what... he asked the moderators to help him because of the sole fact that this forum exploded... and with 8000+ people(women) there is bound to be some sort of drama especially when most are pregnant and hormonal... i agree that the moderators should be able to keep personal and "work" separate however even if they make another account that account won't keep them from feeling how they feel towards a person/situation. in fact it would probably make it worse because you wouldnt know who mod2 was or if they have a problem with a certain person. i do agree that every time a person gets banned all four moderators must discuss and vote with martin being the tie breaker for full banishment. and i also agree that once an agreement is reached with all 4 moderators then the original moderator must email the person or post on their wall why they were banned so they know and/or it can be seen by all who question the ban... i know not everyone is from the US but most are and we are a democracy... and the only way it works is if there is a system of checks and balances otherwise it turns into a 4/5 way communisim... not saying that any of you are communist just stating an opinion... @mama_kat@twin_angels@mrsdelrae@fingerscrossed
i hope this all gets resolved and everyone goes back to being happy because i like this forum
One last question .... if banned are you allowed to come back? Are you going to get banned again if people find out who your old screen name or if you come back being open about who you were? What are the rules on commingle back after banishment ? I would want to let everyone know I am ghettobetty but would that mean I get banned again because I wad banned previously? @fingerscrossed@martin
I wanted to check in and let everyone know I am not ignoring this thread, any tagged comments, private messages, or e-mails. I am a little swamped during the daylight hours today, but later tonight I will be dedicating at least two or so hours to answering all messages. I am aimming for roughly midnight central time, so keep them coming. Thank you for keeping respectful with all of your comments; it means a great deal to everyone involved that this discussion can remain civil as everyone's concerns and suggestions are addressed.
@fingerscrossed I am just commenting because I'm more of a reader then a commenter unless I'm well informed on the subject and I have never posted or made comments on "controversial" issues on this forum. I have been a member since this app was.only a couple months old... I'm on alot and read alot I havr and just keep myslef informed on the goings ons of pregly... I have noticed a huge change from the beginning and its sad not sure of tge shift but a big difference since mods have been added! I, love the mods and what they do but something has changed! And I respected kerridrn and she helped me out alot and gave amazing advice, pregly is not the same without her its frustrating to see one of the most active helpful and respectful members get banned without reasoning that wer know of... Kind of just went on a rant there just felt like I needed to say something
@navywife@fingerscrossed@martin I also believe we should be able to vote a moderator off. Im still confused as to how they became a moderator to begin with. They are extremely rude and unprofessional, and I know Im not the only one who feels this way, many members have discussed this person.
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Favoritism has gotta stop. Just because a mod likes this person they can break all rules. I feel we should have 3 warnings. One tell us EXACTLY what we done,where,and what is the reason its bad warning. Two the same but explaining the rules they broke and temp not allowed on unless they cool it. Third banned after review of everyone with all inputs. Some may see an opinion others may see just rudeness. Not to be banned cause personal reason just what they did. No apology then only after @martin makes decision. With all steps taken
We should have polls. Ask and vote. Reading comment after comment I feel like pregly the book lol. For things like spelling,names,opinions,themes,etc. It's fun and easy to see answered
And your telling if you boss came up to you and knew you had been pregnant before and needed some advice on her pregnancy that you would tell her "oh your my boss I cant talk to you about that kind of personal stuff" What if she was scared and alone like some of us are? if it a male boss came up to a guy or girl employee and needed advice on helping his wife through her pregnant. Are you going to just look at him and laugh saying "good luck man" And walk away.
My point to all this is they are people just like us. They have questions and concerns and thoughts. Just like us they should have the right to question answers and give there opinions. They are not people that are getting paid for this. They are doing the mods spots b/c they want to help ppl.
No one is bashing @martin bc he has a wife and family to tend to so why bash these girls for just trying to help out.
Think if use women as professional most of just are moms already. We are responsible for children(employees) we are the bosses. We are responsible for making sure that our (employees) we make sure there happy have everything they need.
Sorry went off subject for a min. but my point is this site truly isn't about being professional its about help other women/mothers. We are all in uncharter territory, some have been mothers before. Some are new at this and some of them are even 16 and pregnant with no one to talk to b/c there so young and think no one would listen. what if one of the mods was a teen mom and some teenage girl posts that she is so terrified to be a mom and need someone to help give her faith that she can do it. Is the mod suppose to be professional and not share there experiences. People come to this site to hear other women's advice and experience. Not to be told by professional some generic answer with not sensitivity
i hope this all gets resolved and everyone goes back to being happy because i like this forum
I would want to let everyone know I am ghettobetty but would that mean I get banned again because I wad banned previously? @fingerscrossed @martin
- Heather, Pregly Support Team