just need to share. :(

magcawmagcaw
edited April 2011 in Pregnant
So I found out on Monday that I'm having a son...again. :/ This is my third and last baby, and my husband's fourth, and ALL OF THEM are boys! I'm excited--don't get me wrong. I absolutely love having sons; my boys are the most amazing part of my life, and this little man will be no different. BUT!!! I'm really disappointed. Not so much with the child that I have, but with the child I know that I will never have, if that makes sense. Part of me is really excited about my son, but it's constantly overshadowed by this very deep sadness at the fact that I will never have a daughter. To be honest, I'm not sure how much I wanted a girl and how much I wanted girl stuff (as ridiculous as that may sound), but still. I'm not at all surprised at this outcome, and I knew how I'd feel about it, but none of that helped prepare me for the emotional part and I'm really bummed. I don't really have anyone to talk to about how I'm feeling, so I thought I'd post it here and see if that made me feel any better.

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  • marie0907marie0907
    I'm sorry, I don't have any advice for you. But, I do understand how you could feel that way.
    I'm sure it must feel a little like a loss, but I'm sure that will pass soon. Like you said, you are excited about your new son. Pretty soon I bet that excitement will overtake that bit of sadness you feel.
  • TheSmilingBeautyTheSmilingBeauty
    Well... I was secretly hoping for a boy; we're having a girl in July. It's both our first. Perhaps, I'll get my boy on the next round... I've wanted a boy, since before I was even childbearing age...

    BTW, you don't sound ridiculous...
  • jpmommyjpmommy
    @magcaw I feel the same way I found out 2 weeks ago that i am having my third son I still keep hoping they were wrong cause I was only 16 weeks and I go for another ultrasound on monday and I kinda hope they say its a girl I really don't feel like I'm having another boy my hubby has 2 girls from a previous one of whom lives with us and I love them like my own but at the same time I just really want a little girl of my own if that makes sence lol I just know my hubby doesn't want any more kids and I feel like I won't be complete without my own baby girl
  • magcawmagcaw
    Thanks, @thesmilingbeauty and @marie0907. You made me feel better. :) @jpmommy, yeah, I know what you mean about not feeling complete. All of my boys were really hoping for a little sister, too. My 4 year old was really disappointed. I think the only one who was hoping for another boy was my husband, lol. I almost passed out during my u/s from lying on my back (NOT because of what they told me, lol), and they couldn't get all the measurements they needed. I have another one scheduled for my next appointment, and I keep thinking that maybe they made a mistake...but as soon as his penis came on the screen I could tell what it was, so I'm certain there's no mistaking this one. My sons are all well endowed (lucky for them) and at all of their ultrasounds the tech has commented on it.
  • MommaCassMommaCass
    @magcaw
    You'll have lots and lots of girl grandbabies :">
  • MommaCassMommaCass
    Lol, not the smiley face I was going for. My phone has a mind of its own at times.
  • magcawmagcaw
    haha!
  • mommyto1soontob2mommyto1soontob2
    Some ppl can't have a girl in the sense they are ao used to boys,trucks,rough housing,dirt etc. My friends mom had three boys babysat my daughter and said it was so different. It's fun to play but not to have lol. Another friend is a family of all girls they had a boy when my friend turned 20 and its just weird. He is babied n is a puss. Excuse my French but he's a cry baby
  • mistydawnmistydawn
    I understand exactly how you feel @magcaw. I have 3 boys (16, almost 4, and 2) and just found out last friday that this one is a boy as well. We decided this one would be our last (since I am 36) before we found out the sex. Now I want to reconsider....it's hard to give up on having that baby girl. Just not sure my body can handle another one.
  • Mnbaby3Mnbaby3
    @magcaw I understand how you feel. This is my third boy as well. This baby was a surprise and I doubt I could convince my hubby to have one more.(i always wanted 4) People tend to think you are a bad person like you don't love the baby you are having when that isn't it at all! It's the knowing you won't have your own lil girl to do girl things with. No hair and nails, no prom dress or wedding dress shopping, no barbies! Lol for me its all dirtbikes and monster trucks and toy guns for pretend hunting lol I love my boys more then anything and I don't regret any one of them..but I think a part of me will always feel incomplete without my own lil girl. Maybe that will change someday, maybe not. I am grateful that I was able to have my babies when so many can't, but doesn't mean we aren't hurting in a different way..if that makes sense? anyway just wanted to let you know you aren't alone or a bad mom..just human :-)
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  • NylasMommyNylasMommy
    My friend n her husband has been dying for a lil boy. This is her 3rd n last n its a girl again. Maybe in a couple if yrs u guys decide to try n have a lil princess uve always wanted.... Best wishes
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