when the babys born

kimbo13kimbo13
edited April 2011 in Single moms
If your a single mama and your relationship ended bad with your ex(babies dad).and well he just hates ur guts? Will you call him when the baby is about to be born?.. I have a situation where my babys father broke up with me over alittle arguement. And I come to find out that he was talking to this girl while we were together.and three weeks after the break up he makes it official with her. He was always back and forth with me saying he was gona be there for his daughter then he would say he wasn't,basically couldn't make his mind up.. we haven't talked for a month he doesn't call to ask how everythn is going with his daughter. So my question is. Would any of you call when the time comes? When the baby is born. ?

Comments

  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    Well, I'd personally call after the baby is born no matter how much I hated him/he hated me. Maybe text him a picture of the baby too. The baby is his too so as a father I think he does have the right to know when the baby is born. If he doesn't pick up or show up or anything, its his loss and you'll know you did the right thing by trying.
  • Jaime77Jaime77
    If there's really bad blood between you both, and you think he would just disturb you during delivery, I would have a relative call him after she is born. Especially since he's not being supportive now.
  • BeauTiifuLLmOmA2beeBeauTiifuLLmOmA2bee
    Yes call him to join yhue &n tell him its nt abt us its abt tha bby so dnt bring tha drama &n if he dnt come thts his loss
  • luvmysonluvmyson
    What if he hasn't done nething for u or the baby the entire pregnancy? Does he really deserve to b there? Or even know bc he doesn't seem to care at all
  • Karla_with_a_KKarla_with_a_K
    With my son, his dad and I were not together. I was scheduled to be induced and I told bd about it. He said congradulations. I was like ummm excuse me?? So no, I did not call him when he was born.
  • MikeandRonAdoptMikeandRonAdopt
    @kimbo13 ... I would tell him but then bottom line him and tell him what you expect of him now. He is lucky enough to be a father and that honor comes with responsibilities. Good luck!
  • tinkertinker
    I'm n the same boat... my bd told me yesterday he wasn't sure if he wanted to b with me.. n I think its becuz he has someone else.. cuz we had been having problems before but he was wanting to do watever to make it Wrk .. then out of no we're he changes his mind n starts acting weird.. he wuldnt answer my kalls or txt.. no matter how much it hurts me I'm just move on n leave him alone.. wen he decides wat he wants hopefully it ain't to late.. he hasn't done nothing for me or the baby not even buy her nothing.. but I still want him to b apart her birth.. that's if he even decides to go.. I'm going to b 23 weeks I'm due sept 23 so well see wat happens from here..
  • RoxyRoxy
    I say call its hes kid to
  • lovingmyunbornlovingmyunborn
    I say call just so you know you did your job leaving the door open for him to do the right thing....dont get your hopes up, if he comes he comes, if he doesnt he doesnt.....if he doesnt show up i wouldnt text him or send him pics or any of that...plus all guys like that do w/ pics is show their fam and friends asking if the baby looks like them...smh
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    I can relate to this a lot.
    My ex walked out the day i found out i was pregnant and it was a really ugly breakup he never came around the entire pregnancy didn't help with ANYTHING at all. I was in he hospital for 4 days due to complications and had no intentions of calling him. After the 4 days my dr decided to give me steroids to mature my babys lungs and we were going to induce 2 days from then. Apparently my aunt reached out to my ex and told him something was wrong with our son and my ex actually showed up at the hospital to visit me. Coincendentally i had an emergency c section later that night and my ex was the only person who made it in time to go in the o.r. with me. So in the end it was just us 2 together when our son was born, and as mad as i am at him for all the stress an hurt i wouldnt have it any other way.
    So i think u should give your ex the opportunity to see his childs birth, it could change his views on everything. It changed my ex completley. Unfortunately my son Is now 20 days old and his father is back to being an asshole to me but he absolutely loves his boy and at least he is here for him and i wouldn't be able to forgive myself if i denied him the experience of seeing his sons birth
  • adriens_mommyadriens_mommy
    And if he doesnt taake the opportunity to be there than it is his loss!
  • teuyteuy
    I say have a relative text him and let him know when you're in delivery. Don't deal with any of that stuff while you're in labor you don't want to have any extra stress. I know if I was in that situation I would let him know but if he has already shown that he doesn't want anything to do with the two of you I wouldn't break my neck .
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