in love but no ring yet...
Me and my boyfriend are expecting our first child in June. We are both madly in love, living together, and happier than ever for our child... but he hasn't proposed. I know he wants to but wont be financially able till May. The fact that he hasn't proposed doesn't bother me, its the fact that im already getting judgement from people and by may I will be huge and don't want even more judgment from random people when they see a baby bump and no sparkle on my left hand. I thought about a fake ring till he proposes but I don't want to insult him. Anybody else going through this or have advice? Katie
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2. If the concern is money- engagements only cost as much as you let them. I worked in a high end jewelry store when I got engaged and married so I understand the pressures to have a big rock, but the point of marriage is to show your love and commitment for each other. So if a small ring is a deal breaker I would say your already in trouble. My opinion what could be better than your babys birthstone. Assuming your dd works for that or just a simple band.
3. Don't get married because society says you have to.
Good luck in what ever you decided.
"Those that care, don't matter. Those that matter, don't care!"
I went to dinner with my bf and when the server was pressuring wine and drinks on me, I told him I was pregnant...I felt it rude for him to say first that I wasn't showing...well no shit sherlock, still can't have wine!
then he asked how long we've been married, we both looked at him shocked he would even ask such a thing! Assuming and judging like he was! My bf almost told him something like "oh I'm not the baby daddy, I'm just her boyfriend" or something, just to get him riled up and weirded out.
Point is: its none of their business to judge or assume ... you are who you are and are happy with it and no one should dampen that.
And trust me I understand what ur going through. My bf and I r totally in love but not engaged either and I don't think he has any intention of getting married. He had just finalized a really rough divorce when we started dating and I think that totally put him off the whole idea of marriage. Although his mother is pushing the issue just because of the baby and that is just making him even more marriage phobic. And I've been getting the same looks from ppl, its hard but I've mostly learned to ignore them. Cause both of us r thrilled to be having our first child and in love and that's really all that matters.