sad and depressd confused

new_mommy2benew_mommy2be
edited May 2011 in Teen moms
Well I'm 19and pregnant I'm due jan 17 bt I've Been pregnant before twice by the same guy i felt like i loved him bt he verbaly and physically abuses me he always says he Is not the father he thru a toaster n hit me n the back a few weeks ago... I'm learning this isn't Love. He respects everyone but me and tells me its always me that Is in the wrong i wana cry cuz i hate wat I'm Going thru i have no friends to talk to abt it i dnt know if i should get another abortion or not i just need advice and or texting buddies. No negative comments plz

Comments

  • garagebandfangaragebandfan
    Text me all you want honey ill send you a message...key word of advice..get out now, it will be way easier now than later!
  • namelessnameless
    I think you should leave him..change your# and get away.
  • new_mommy2benew_mommy2be
    i leave him all the time then he makes excuses i feel like I'm not a strong woman anymore i cnt stop crying
  • TeenMommyTeenMommy
    You should leave him! If you want to text let me know and I'll give you my number
  • namelessnameless
    Its easier said then done..but leave again and dont listen to what he has to say..like I said change your# and ignore his calls and text..dont accept any gifts or any kind of apology..he will keep doing this to you and may even get worst..
  • garagebandfangaragebandfan
    stop listening to his excuses first off...if he is hurting you already who knows what he will do to the baby..what happened to the other times you were pregnant...
  • garagebandfangaragebandfan
    like I said I've been where you are, its hard to leave they make you feel worthless that no one else will love you that your scum... just know that your none of those things!!
  • artistmammaartistmamma
    You are far too young, & no woman at ANY age should ever put up with an abusive man. At 19, you have many years ahead of you to find a good one & enjoy your life with him, but as it stands right now, you're much better off just being single. So honey, PLEASE do yourself a huge favor & drop that a**hole like the piece of garbage he is. Real love doesn't involve degradation, humiliation, verbal abuse, physical violence, no support...real love is about equality, compassion, communication, listening, etc. I don't know what's wrong with your man that he feels it's cool to treat a woman this way, but he's wrong, & you deserve better! Be strong...we women have so much inner strength & most of us don't even realize it! :)

    As for abortion, it is not my place to judge another woman's situation or reasoning. These are our bodies, & I do believe what we do with them are our personal, private choices. I can understand why you might not want to have a child to a man like him, but this baby had no say in who his/her father was going to be. I personally would not let a man drive me to abortion. This child is still a part of you & will love you unconditionally. You have other options, like adoption, though I know that's a difficult choice, as well. What is your heart telling you? I'm here to listen if you need to talk - no judgements. I promise you that.

    Best wishes, hun. Stay strong!! <3
  • new_mommy2benew_mommy2be
    @teenmommy my number Is 4049575687 and @Beatrice1436 yea i know I've changed my number already but he keeps getting it I'm just sofed up
  • new_mommy2benew_mommy2be
    I had abortions according to my mother i had to or i wuld b ruining my life. N that's how it seems now @artistmamma thanks for the advice
  • new_mommy2benew_mommy2be
    My number Is 4049575687...anybody that wants to text me
  • namelessnameless
    Are you giving it to him..or someone else? My friend had to change her# like4 or 5 times..and he still got it..now she has a prepaid under someones name i think so he cant get it.
  • anadoll92anadoll92
    Get out now.
  • MikeandRonAdoptMikeandRonAdopt
    @new_mommy2be ... there is nothing more important than your safety. No real man hits a woman. period. You deserve better. I'm sure you have family somerhwere that will help you, if not, there are shelters and programs for abused women who need a helping hand with starting over. No one should be talking you into having an abortion if it's not what you want. Your body = your choice. If you've ever thought about adoption, there are lots of families out there (like ours) who could give your baby a great home. All our best to you!
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
    edited May 2011
    You need to leave that alone...coming from a woman that has been in an abusive relationship, it never changes!

    Idc how much he cries and apologizes....once the cycle has started it doesn't end only gets worse.

    Im pro-life so of course I'm going to push adoption or stepping up to your responsibilities and raising your child. But I'm rooting for you and I hope you come to a healthy conclusion. Im here if you ever need to talk. Btw I'm 20 so I'm not just somebody that doesn't understand the struggles.
  • kimbo13kimbo13
    I was once in ur position exactly the same thing. if u wana talk message me. ull be so much better off without him and udeserve nothing but the best.
  • novmthumper11novmthumper11
    Hey girl. Im actually going through the same thing right now but I had the courage to leave his crazy ass... im pregnant with his baby and haven't heard from him in almost two months... this will be my second baby tho I have a son with another guy who sees him still... but I think its just me n this baby this time around.. u can do it. It will be hard but think of the baby and u will love it no matter what.I believe in you.
  • pooh22pooh22
    I have no problem talking to u no judgements here really I feel so bad for u n its hard for me to say get an abortion but if it were me n only me not u n anyway I would I wouldn't want an abusive bd cuz if u leave him I can almost guarantee he will still abuse u telling u its ur fault for everything a young child goes thru n that's no far. Ex. I mean like he/she falls na break scrape watever its ur fault he/she might get a bad grade its ur fault n its hard enough being a single mother n u dnt need anyone to b abusive I can promise u the abuse is not going to stop I have witnessed my mother b abused for all of my life n my father thinks the dummiest shit about her like she talks down about him n trust me its the other way around I jus dnt think that u need the stress at such a young age
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