No one cares...(again, profanity.. I can't believe there are rules against it here!)
"No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care" Read that twice.
I HATE my doctor. He makes dry jokes about how he'd rather be eating his lunch or taking a nap than in the exam room with me. When, WHEN he takes the time to do a decent scan on me he ALWAYS says "Well, you're definitely pregnant" and "Still looks like a girl.. I don't see anything hanging out down there" he talks like Ben Stein and NEVER acknowledges my boyfriend who is always in the room with me. He will ask questions and the doctor will ignore him and look at me.. He takes pages and returns calls but you'd think he was just about to "B" his "L" in his wife when his pager went off or you prevented him from winning the lottery based on the tone in his voice when you get him on the phone.
I'm writing this post because I AM a resident doctor in Womens Medicine and I see a doctor who takes my insurance like everyone else, sure I could probably get checked up by a friend or colleague but frankly I'd rather avoid a friend or colleague taking a nice hard look at the ol' vagine. I'm also interested in gaining as much personal experience during my pregnancy as possible in order to be as useful a resource as I can to women in the future.. which leads me to my point.. and the quote that opened this post. "No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care." I don't want to be lied to, I'm not asking that my doctor sugarcoat anything but for f's sake at please pretend you give a shit. I have completed years of schooling and there are STILL things I am fearful about (for instance the bright yellow diarrhea I have had the past 2 days, so sorry TMI but anyone had this?), of course there are countless things I have yet to experience and countless things they don't tell you in books but there is one thing I know and I believe I would know regardless of my education, you should really care.
I'd rather hear my grandmother tell me I might be miscarrying than my doctor tell me I have a harmless but oddly located placenta because my grandmother freaking cares. I just don't think there is an excuse for an ob-gyn to have poor bedside manner, simple as. Too busy? Take less patients - you get paid exactly the same. Lost your passion? Go remove vericose veins or moles don't take it out on scared, clueless women who are feeling like Sigourney Weaver in Aliens.. (dramatic, sorry.. )
Can I get an Amen?!
I HATE my doctor. He makes dry jokes about how he'd rather be eating his lunch or taking a nap than in the exam room with me. When, WHEN he takes the time to do a decent scan on me he ALWAYS says "Well, you're definitely pregnant" and "Still looks like a girl.. I don't see anything hanging out down there" he talks like Ben Stein and NEVER acknowledges my boyfriend who is always in the room with me. He will ask questions and the doctor will ignore him and look at me.. He takes pages and returns calls but you'd think he was just about to "B" his "L" in his wife when his pager went off or you prevented him from winning the lottery based on the tone in his voice when you get him on the phone.
I'm writing this post because I AM a resident doctor in Womens Medicine and I see a doctor who takes my insurance like everyone else, sure I could probably get checked up by a friend or colleague but frankly I'd rather avoid a friend or colleague taking a nice hard look at the ol' vagine. I'm also interested in gaining as much personal experience during my pregnancy as possible in order to be as useful a resource as I can to women in the future.. which leads me to my point.. and the quote that opened this post. "No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care." I don't want to be lied to, I'm not asking that my doctor sugarcoat anything but for f's sake at please pretend you give a shit. I have completed years of schooling and there are STILL things I am fearful about (for instance the bright yellow diarrhea I have had the past 2 days, so sorry TMI but anyone had this?), of course there are countless things I have yet to experience and countless things they don't tell you in books but there is one thing I know and I believe I would know regardless of my education, you should really care.
I'd rather hear my grandmother tell me I might be miscarrying than my doctor tell me I have a harmless but oddly located placenta because my grandmother freaking cares. I just don't think there is an excuse for an ob-gyn to have poor bedside manner, simple as. Too busy? Take less patients - you get paid exactly the same. Lost your passion? Go remove vericose veins or moles don't take it out on scared, clueless women who are feeling like Sigourney Weaver in Aliens.. (dramatic, sorry.. )
Can I get an Amen?!
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I am SO thankful for the OB group I am with now. They know my name, my history, & they care. They may have also saved my life & my baby's. Can you switch your care, hun? Best of luck to you. Stay strong!!
Phew, I think I needed that!
@artistmamma, well, no one will take me. I've literally called and spoken to everyone that will talk to me - I've even gotten to the point where I've lied and said I was 23w pregnant and have had NO prenatal care and doctors literally say, "sorry, can't take anymore medicaid patients"
@bensmama thats INSANE. I would be so mad!!
Do you guys know the actual process one should go through to report a doctors irresponsible care? I'm asking because I don't actually know it and i'm having a hard time finding information or getting any answers from friends in the field.. - which is even crazier, right?
When it came to the clinic I was originally going to, I called the Patient Relations hotline at the hospital they deliver babies at. I complained loud & clear about the issues & problems, & all they really did was feed me bullsh*t about how they would be spoken to. If they were, nothing changed that I saw. But it did make me feel a bit better to complain. Lol!
I totally understand your position, because there are only two places in my area to go to for OB/Gyn care that accepts the state insurance I have: The horrible clinic, & the OB group I was able to get into. Me being high-risk made matters even more complicated. I was REALLY hoping this issue was resolved for you, hun. Have you tried calling your insurance & seeing if they can find you someone else who accepts your coverage?
I'll be thinking of you & best of luck, sweetie!!