taking my baby

ginaa412ginaa412
edited May 2011 in Pregnant
OK so as of now me n my boyfriend are together. And we been fighting a lot I said I was unsure if we should stay together. And he explained to me that if we'd ever break up he'd take me to court to take the baby. He would do everything he could to get him n his dads a cop so they know all the state rules and what to say. I have no problem for him to see the baby even every day but I wanna be sure he always comes back to me. That he lives with me. So what would I have to file to make sure I always keep my son. Also he said he'd say the house isn't cleaned and anything he can think of to keep the baby

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  • caroline8_pcaroline8_p
    I dont know any of the rules.. But breastfeeding will post pon things, a judge isnt gunna take a breastfeeding baby away. They judge will give primary custody to the person who is 'more fit'
  • IttybittyIttybitty
    if you give the baby his last name then he can take the baby out of state and everything and there is nothing you can do about it.. so if he keeps saying all of that then dont give the baby his last name
  • valentinasmommyvalentinasmommy
    How can he prove that house isn't clean?mess it up and take pics?wtf! But how can he prove that your unstable? I really think he's trying to scare you.
  • AKmommyAKmommy
    He would have to prove you're unfit, so unless you cannot provide food, clothing, and shelter and don't do drugs or anything like that he doesn't have a big chance. Don't let him imitate you dear, his dad being a cop doesn't mean anything. This would only be between you two. don't stress love just make sure that you file custody immediately or don't put his name on the bc cause then he has to go above and beyond to prove its his before he can do anything. make it clear to the judge that you have no hard feelings that you want the baby to have a relationship with his father so you look better. Keep all of his voicemails/texts/emails and write down details of fights. Don't send him bad texts, voicemail or emails and keep as calm as possible. Don't overreact, hit him, threaten anything cause he will/can use it against you. Good luck dear!
  • ginaa412ginaa412
    See like I wanna be together and so does he just said if I left him he'd take the baby right now we live together. I was planning to name my son Jr. After him. But what would make me unfit. I don't have a job. N my brother smokes weed like I just wanna make sure I always keep my son.
  • one5oneone5one
    He's a bully who insecure enuf to threaten you to stay. See if you can record everything going on. Have people around you when he speak like this to you. Evidence!! Also talk to someone now about this. So wat if dads a cop. Dads not a custody court judge!
  • cocoamayacocoamaya
    Hmmm, it may seem mean, but I would give baby your last name and don't put his name on the birth certificate. He would have to prove paternity, which takes time and money. But the flip side is that financially you will be on your own. Best of wishes to you.
  • Babymamma18Babymamma18
    @ginaa412. im not ganna say dont name your baby after him....but my friend did it. & she didnt give the baby his last name. so it wsnt really a JR. & also....her & her BD arent together sooo she just hates that, thats the babys name now...
    my mom did the same thing. but my brothers a jr. but we dont ever see his dad & he always asks why hes named after his daddy but he isnt around to share their name....
    just a thaught.....
  • rockinmommarockinmomma
    There's no way to guarantee that you'll always have your son. If you guys do split he will get some percentage of custody, but it wont be an easy thing for him to get 100%. He can't just say the house is dirty he has to prove it. Just be as prepared as you can be, do your research! Good luck I hope you guys stay together and avoid this mess :)
  • Babyluv_3Babyluv_3
    Even if they say. Things aGainst u a state person comes n investagate ...only thing ill worry bout is his dad n his cop friends pullinng u over n planting shit on u believe me I knw had a ex bf that's was like that ....
  • ginaa412ginaa412
    I just want everything to work out I just wanna be prepared if it doesn't. Like I don't get why he thinks he should have my child. Like I love him we Been together almost 5 years but lately its been getting hard. I just don't want my child taken from me. Like it makes me hate him that he would even try that. And I do plan to breast feed I just want what's best for the baby and I feel I'm the best he smokes weed he's not responsible to take care of a child. N what I don't get is why if we don't work out can't the baby live with me n he can see him any day he wants just as long as at the end of the night he comes back to me. And I know for a fact hell always be apart of the baby's life that's why Jr wasn't a problem.
  • ginaa412ginaa412
    Another thing his sister just went for partical cousty She said it was 300 and it says that the child comes back to her when ever she wanted
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