That's tough because if you choose your child, he or she now has no mother and could potentially harbor the same thoughts that "Vega" from "my girl" felt.."I killed my mother". I pray no one is faced w that decision because I don't know how I would live without my child, or how I could go not knowing how his life will be. I know he would be ok, but he needs me. But if I came home from the hospital without my son, I would go crazy (literally). I don't like this post @caroline8_p
I'm sorry you don't like the post. It's not really meant to like or dislike. Just a [hard] question that my brain came across, I wanted to see how other people felt. I know, we would all have our reasons for one choice or the other, that's why no answer here is right or wrong.
I would absolutely without a doubt choose my baby! I believe my husband is perfectly capable of caring for our baby alone or not...that's why I'm having a child with him! And as she got older i would want my child to know that i loved her so much that i gave my life for her. .she is that special... in my opinion sure anyone can just "make another baby" but each baby has a soul and was placed here by god and the minute i became pregnant he passed the responsibility to me to protect this soul with my life as i am her mother! And then if god wants to take me then so be it. ... just my opinion
I would also chose me and hubby agrees. We have two kids now that are very attached to me and would be lost without me. I know hubby would be fine its our kids that would be lost. I am our son logans best friend he for some reason didnt really bond with his daddy like his brother did.
I would choose for them to save my baby... I know my family would help my fiance with the baby and at 18 yrs old I think id feel awful the rest of my life. I wouldn't want to live after losing my first child. After growing this piece of myself for 9 months. I know my baby would be taken care of.
i have to save myself.. i couldnt leave my other kids behind.. its my reasponsibility to take care of them.. and there is no one in my family i would want to raise my boys.. they always try and save the mom first anyway .. its protocal of course i wouldnt want to choose but if i had to i would choose me..
I have told my mom to let my baby live and she said she cannot do that. Her reasoning being I'm her daughter and I already have 2 kids that need me and how would this baby ever know the love of his mother if I wasn't there...so I can't answer this honestly
If forced to choose. Myself. My husband would probably blame her for my death *just being honest* and I don't believe he could raise our toddler let alone an infant and a toddler *he loves our son but so doesn't have the patience * so they would go to other family members. Our families would fight each other for the children, whoever got them would raise them in ways I don't agree with. I can't even garentee they would be raised together.
This is definitely a heart wrenching thought and I pray that Noone has to make that decision. My first instinct is of course to save my child. But as other people have posted, I have two children who are young and need their mother. I think if this was my first child , I would have no second thoughts about it and it would be my child over me. But knowing that I have other children to think about as well, they need to factor into the decision as well and so I would save myself. I know that if the decision was left to my husband, he would save me also. And I also know that if I was unable to make it, he would raise our children well and how we always planned. They would grow knowing me as their mom and love me. But they need me. And if there is a choice, I couldn't deprive them of having their mom around for their lives. I think with a lot of the posts, it mostly depends on whether you have children currently or not. At least that is what it seems as I read the posts.
id have to choose bub, I had a chance at life now its bubs turn. they have a father n alot of extended family that would pitch in I told hubby o save bub n he said no hed save me but oh well im done havin kids now 23 with 3 lol n im done sounds silly n e way
I was reading this post when hubby came home from work today. And honestly I was bawling my eyes out. I know with out a doubt I would choose my son. However, that is only because I have no other children. And naturally hubby wanted to know what was wrong so I explained this post to him. He then says well if it comes down to it I hope ur able to tell them because I won't be able to choose. I told him he's not choosing I've already made the choose. Is it wrong of us to expect our other half to follow threw with our wishes on something like this?
@mama0811 I honestly don't know, or have an answer for that.
I suppise this would depend on a few factors..
How well we trust, or can believe in our other half. If we have another child or children already Who would take care of it, I'm sure nobody wants the baby or their other children in foster care Personal beliefs And basically, just the individual person.
I never hear the term single parent. I am a single parent and yes i would choose my life because of the two little ones i would leave without a mother which is the most important parental figure in a child's life.
I think deep down inside almost everyone would choose to save themselves. Everyone situation is different, whether it fear of the bd or a family member taking care of out kid. Or because we have other kids to think about. Truly that is a hard decision. My honest thoughts(and no bashing pls) is it would be selfish to choose the baby over you. B/c like most people said you can make a new baby you cant make a new you. And yes it would kill you everyday not having him or her in your life. But the truth is they will always be with you. I have a 4yr old and I can't imagine what he would feel or think if he saw this new baby around and never saw mommy again. And I don't think my bd could do it all alone.
I think I'd choose myself, but I have a horrible fear of having a stillborn or losing my son to sids. I was thinking about that earlier and it made me want to cry and freak out. Oh the joys of anxiety...
If the choice were up to my husband, I'm positive that he would choose me. He says that he's glad that he's most likely going to die before me, which sucks on my end, but I get where he's coming from (hes 20 years older than me and a smoker). He loves our son, but he's crazy in love with me.
I have a 3 year old child and i would still choose to save my baby! My family is GREAT, his family is GREAT, my fiance is GREAT and i knw she would b taken care of! Everyone is saying , "my child(ren) need me" which im SURE they do! But this is the same question i asked myself when it was time for me to do my life insurance papers! "Who will my children go to"?? There has to b a answer.
@bebita86 I'm not positive that they don't give you a choice... but every time I have to get a biopsy they warn me that they will take the baby if it has spread. They have never asked me what I want.
My husband and I have discussed this and I said save the babies I trust him expicitly, but he said no, he's saving me. I tried argueing but he just said that he and our older daughters need me more than he needs to be a single dad. I now see both sides and I told him I'm ok with either decision. I can't be mad at him either way.
My husband and I had this conversation when we were pregnant for the first time. He said he would choose to save my life, and I asked him to save the baby if it came down to it. Now I'm pregnant with my third, and though I don't love this baby any less than my others, I would choose to save myself over my baby. Though I have absolute faith that my husband is capable of taking care of our children, and though we have a plan in place for who would take care of our kids should anything happen to us, I couldn't intentionally leave my sons without a mother. I just couldn't do it.
I think I would choose my baby. I have two other young kids as well, but couldnt live with myself if I chose myself over the baby. I think that my husband and both his family and mine would help him with anything if he needed it. I have lived a good life and would do anything for my kids even if it meant me not being with them to watch them grow-up.
When i read this post, i was actually just talking about this with my husband..creepy...i wouldn't even think twice about choosing my baby, but thats just me, i wanted this baby, and i don't know but most moms put their children before themselves, if i had to go it was just meant to be i guess. I totally respect everyones answers!
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@mama0811 I honestly don't know, or have an answer for that.
I suppise this would depend on a few factors..
How well we trust, or can believe in our other half.
If we have another child or children already
Who would take care of it, I'm sure nobody wants the baby or their other children in foster care
Personal beliefs
And basically, just the individual person.
If the choice were up to my husband, I'm positive that he would choose me. He says that he's glad that he's most likely going to die before me, which sucks on my end, but I get where he's coming from (hes 20 years older than me and a smoker). He loves our son, but he's crazy in love with me.