I need help and advice on what to do!?
So I'm 18 weeks today and have been really stressed and depressed all because of my boyfriends mother. I have known my boyfriend since we met at the age of 17. We are 27 now and started officially dating about a year ago. His mother seemed happy until I found out we were pregnant. We moved in together and was pregnant 3 months later. This will be my second child and his first. I have a 7 year old son. The day we told her she looked ok but I could tell she wasn't happy. He said he was going to tell his little sister and as soon as he left she gets close to my face and looks dead in my eyes and says "this isn't over, I will finish this" I told my bf after we left and told him that he was not to leave me alone with her ever again because it made me feel very uncomfortable. We have this mutual guy friend who is my best friend. My bf works a lot and hardly is home so he knows and tells our mutual friend to hang with me so I'm not alone and to make sure I'm ok. Well we all have a mutual friend that lives across the street from my bfs mother. Apparantly a couple weeks ago she told them that her son was stupid to think that this was his child because she knew for a fact that it was sonnys (our mutual best friend who's been watching me) and started spreading that she was going to break us up because it wasn't my bfs child. This really upset me and we didn't know how to confront her about this without involving the couple that said it. She comes over and acts like my best friend and then runs her mouth about me when she leaves. Well she had a memorial day party (she is a partier she parties every weekend) and apparantly the whole house hold is saying it now along with her and family friends. Their all saying there is no way its jeffs baby...it was confirmed because the neighbor (our mutual friend) was invited. I'm severly pissed and what to say something but jeff keeps saying no. Well I had a friend bbq last night and found out that now my bf is talking negative about me....I don't know what he was saying my gf is supposed to talk to her hubby about what he said then tell me...I'm stressin out big time because I finally ignored her like he said and now I'm depressed because I'm doing nothin and being attacked...what do I do? How can I confront her about this? I need help cause I'm going crazy! And now him! I don't know what to think...all I can do is cry...I'm finally in love and its blowing up in my face. =( sorry so long but I don't know what to do.......
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@lexi34 @Jaime77
@msharhir - I don't think I could handle her being in the same room with me let alone a BBQ or something. Only because I would want to get it out and in the open right away and I have a feeling when we do let her know that we know what is being said she is going to start a major fight...she is the type. And if not then it's going to be all awkward and will be so pissed off at her, I don't really wanna look at her. And I found out that Jeff (my bf) was just saying that i complain to much or something like that..I don't know really how to explain it but all it was, was miscommunication. We both talked about it and I apologized to him for the way I was trying to explain something came out so wrong and he apologized for not coming to me instead. And he totally says he knows its his kid and loves me and knows I love him. He said that after we talk to her and she still keeps acting the same way then we are deleting her permanently out of Joseph's life because we want to start our family with a positive life and not with a negative person. So he is totally on my side with this.
I just don't know how to bring this up to her when we do talk to her. I think we are both going to call her and put her on the speaker phone and talk to her that way....