Well, I actually saw a paternity test on the shelf of walgreens the other day. You send it in to a lab but it gives you the matrials to get the samples. Not sure how good that is of course. As for the baby.. do you want to keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption? I mean think of the worse case scenerio.. if it isn't his baby and he says he wants to leave then basically hell prolly leave one way or another because this is always going to be on his mind. I went through a similiar situation with my ex. He thought I cheated on him and wanted a paternity test or he was going to leave me and take our daughter. I told him that he knew where the door was. Of course I knew my son was his I hadn't cheated (I don't know your story) so if he walked awy he would be saying good bye to his son and me and since he signed the BC then he would have to pay four hundred to test to find out it was his anyways. He got over it I suppose and we tried to make it work but his fear kept coming back and he started getting high and drunk everyday so he had to go. I would do what is in YOURS and YOUR CHILDRENS best interest. Oh and on a side note, in the state of florida neither parent has custody until someone files for it, so if my bd were to take my child then there is nothing I can really do about it except for file the paperwork. I found this out recently when this girl I knew never got full custody of her baby girl and he bd ran off to another state for three months with her son and there was nothing they could do
Oh Hun please get an attorney don't let him leave with your son get your partial custody so that he has to get permission to leave and u get visitation too idk what state u live in but some places favor fathers and some mothers but just get the costody taken care of before the dna and whatever u chose is your choice but if u decide u wanna keep your baby u need to take precautions
He's going to feel like an ass if the baby is his...you should let him know that if he can't accept your child then he can't accept you either. If I were u, I'd take both of my kids and leave! Good look to u and whatever you decide to do!!
I don't think u should give ur baby away or even consider its not the fault. And who is to say you do, your husband can still walk away from you. I'm not in ur situation so I don't know the deal but that's a new baby ur baby needs u..I believe u will do the right thing...GOOD LUCK TO U!! DON'T FORGET A BABY IS A BLESSING! ! @praying4our3rd. I see where u ate coming from but I would deal with my husband leaving me cause I messed up than to leave MY CHILD ..no matter who is the father THAT'S MY CHILD.
@praying4our3rd I agree with you on that fact, she's the one who cheated and we would all act that way if our so cheated . The situation is a horrible one..
But still I think its wrong to pick her man over her innocent child.
@praying4our3rd, I totally agree. If my husband not only cheated, but impregnated another woman, I couldn't stay. The betrayal would be too much and our household would become a tension filled nightmare. Would I ask him to not be a father to his child? Never! But I couldn't be his wife. I'd fully expect the same reaction from him if I did the same. The child is innocent in all this, so the parent should handle the responsibility. However, if the situation is just too much, she should consider adoption for the greater good of that poor baby who deserves to be loved fully and not treated like a mistake. Get an attorney, explain the whole situation, they'll get a DNA done, handle the custodial issues, and even handle the adoption if necessary. Trust me, our firm does this stuff all the time. Sad but true.
Its sad but look at the pics of the kid feeding the baby. Shes gonna break those kids hearts too. I dunno either way more thought on both parents parts needs to happen. ...I asked my hubby he said yea he would b. Hurt n upset but its a helpless baby he would stick around mistakes happen
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As for the baby.. do you want to keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption? I mean think of the worse case scenerio.. if it isn't his baby and he says he wants to leave then basically hell prolly leave one way or another because this is always going to be on his mind. I went through a similiar situation with my ex. He thought I cheated on him and wanted a paternity test or he was going to leave me and take our daughter. I told him that he knew where the door was. Of course I knew my son was his I hadn't cheated (I don't know your story) so if he walked awy he would be saying good bye to his son and me and since he signed the BC then he would have to pay four hundred to test to find out it was his anyways. He got over it I suppose and we tried to make it work but his fear kept coming back and he started getting high and drunk everyday so he had to go.
I would do what is in YOURS and YOUR CHILDRENS best interest.
Oh and on a side note, in the state of florida neither parent has custody until someone files for it, so if my bd were to take my child then there is nothing I can really do about it except for file the paperwork. I found this out recently when this girl I knew never got full custody of her baby girl and he bd ran off to another state for three months with her son and there was nothing they could do
@praying4our3rd. I see where u ate coming from but I would deal with my husband leaving me cause I messed up than to leave MY CHILD ..no matter who is the father THAT'S MY CHILD.
But still I think its wrong to pick her man over her innocent child.
Horrible horrible situation..