getting depressed when thinking it may be a boy

Amj2486Amj2486
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
due oct 11, and we are both pretty excited. nervous at first but now my fiance and I are doing better. Until we start talking about if it will be a boy or girl. It may be the emotional pregnant side of me but I start panicing at the thought of having a boy. I feel like I could not bond with a boy like I could with a girl. We are pretty convinced it will in fact be a boy since my fiance comes from a long line if mainly males. I even had a dream that I abandoned the baby boy and his dad had to breastfeed him lol. please help with any ideas. thanks so much!

Comments

  • billye910billye910
    It's just preggo nerves...even if its a goat lol u will love the heck out if it. I think it can b natural to have a preference esp if u gravitate to one more than the other but once u get over initial shock u get used to idea...don't feel bad tho ur just being honest bout what u want...
  • jcmommyjcmommy
    edited February 2011
    Boys are so much easier in my eyes. I'm having my 2nd boy and I figured I would be upset but once I saw him, I was so filled with love. I'm not trying for a girl. It would be nice to dress them up and do girl things but I'm too impatient for their whines and sassyness. Just be glad the baby is happy and healthy, you will love them no matter the gender. Good luck.
  • mamanorthmamanorth
    Ya prego nerves.. me and my husband came from families with a long line of boys and with our generations we started to have girls popping up more im on my third pregnancy my first two r girls we r hoping atleast this one is a boy
  • boofacebooface
    I have twin step kids (boy and girl) that j may as well have given birth to myself. I'm 12 weeks pregnant right now and really want a boy. Let me tell you from experience, that your heart will instantly melt if you happen to have a little man. I have an equally strong bond with both my kids. My son is the spitting image of his dad, stubborn, hot tempered, and the most caring, loving, and affectionate child you could ever meet. he still wakes up every morning and climbs into bed with me and gives me a hug and a kiss. They're seven now. Trust me you'll be in love the second you meet your child, regardless of the sex. Just relax and think of all the fun you could have being a crazy baseball, football, and soccer mom!
  • billye910billye910
    I was disappointed when I found out my second was another boy but by time she wiped the gel off I was fine...now this third time it might b a lil harder if its another boy but even so ill get over it fast and pray for healthy baby. I just reallydont wanna have to try again for fourth
  • billye910billye910
    i type this as my boy #2 just held his arms out for me....u fall so n love so fast
  • jojo30jojo30
    I was the same with my first pg. But now I can't imagine having a girl. I love my son so much and I'm convinced I am having a boy this time I can't wait! And after seeing my nieces grow up I kind of agree with @jcmommy they look like hard work lol x
  • momof5momof5
    Oh hunny it will all be okay. I didn't think I could bond with a boy either but my first child was a boy and the instant love was overwhelming. I am now getting ready to have my 5th baby and all are boys. I can't imagine my life without my boys. And the bond with each of them grow stronger and stronger everyday.
  • Amj2486Amj2486
    Thanks everyone! @booface really put in in perspective at the end lol. his daddy may teach him the sports but I def would be the crazy soccer mom! haha il probably keep trying until I do have a girl. I know id love them either way but the bond still makes me nervous. ha maybe it was just the dream
  • ElleMarieElleMarie
    Once that little one is in your arms you won't care if it's a boy, a girl, with hair, bald, cute, not so cute, etc... You will love him or her more than you can imagine!
  • billye910billye910
    Plus they say a sons lv
  • Landynplus1mommaLandynplus1momma
    @amyj2486 there is no bond like a mommy and son bond boys love there mommies like crazy you will absolutely b the light of his life not until they are older do they wanna do the gut things trust me its the most amazing feeling in this world and there will b no way u will abandon your child u will know the minute you feel the first kick your child is your child no matter what good luck :)
  • Landynplus1mommaLandynplus1momma
    Guy not gut**
  • mamadeleon0302mamadeleon0302
    Boys always bond more with mommy hense mamas boys lol im expecting my first one and its a boy and I was soooo excited to know how much we will bond now and in the future... Girls are DADDYS little girls and they bond with daddy as daddy loves them and protects them more either way you will love what god gives you...
  • billye910billye910
    Sorry meant sons love is so deep for their mommy
  • bettybetty
    edited February 2011
    @Amj...look at it this way... Youre been Blessed with a bby NO MATTER what it is.... Some mommies here have lost babies unexpectally.... I always dram twins and im havn a girl... ive been on bedrest it has been a harddd pregnacy but anything to keep her still cooking in the oven for a healthy princess!!
    Just be thankful mommy!!
    Good Luck!!
  • nicksmommynicksmommy
    i think you should just be worry about having a healthy baby. not if your going to bond or not its ur kid and i am sure you will bond if its a boy or girl. just thank god ur pregnant and have a healthy baby. good luck!
  • bwhite55019bwhite55019
    Be thankful you are pregnant there are so many people that are not blessed enough to have kids or loose the baby once pregnant
  • lucky7lucky7
    I had 2 girls n then found out I was having a boy n was devasted I thought how am I gona do this idk wht to do everyone kept sayin just wait he's gona b mommas boy n as soon as he was born I started hysterical crying n feel in love he is mommas boy.then I got preg again n wanted another boy n got one he's is the most attached to me now preg again idk wht it is yet but id like a girl bc I love girly stuff and don't want to boys close in age bc the get rough but no matter wht baby is as long as its healthy ill b fine.
  • Mnbaby3Mnbaby3
    I wouldn't worry about bonding with the baby. Dreams can freak you out but doesn't mean you won't love a lil boy. I have two boys 5 and 3 and I am super close to them. Now my 5 yr old thinks he needs to protect mom and its so cute. The other day he looked at my hubby and says "mama really needs to eat more..she has a baby in her tummy you know..she has to feed both." Lol then he tried spooning some food in my mouth haha I don't know what this baby is but regardless I will love and cherish the gift I've been given :-) main thing is don't stress and pray for a healthy baby..the rest will fall into place trust me :-) good luck and congratulations!!
  • kendrakendra
    Unless you are an awful parent you will love and cherish your boy as you would a girl. But think how bad you will feel when your son is born and you think about how you felt about him. Just be happy you have him and pray he is a healthy and happy child.
  • mamabederkamamabederka
    Everyone has a preference while they are pregnant. We all dream of what we want and who he or she will look like. But i can promise you, as soon as you give birth, to your son or daughter, nothing else matters. You will care less if it is male or female or who or what it looks like. I promise.
  • magcawmagcaw
    I felt the same way with my first pregnancy-I desperately wanted a girl and felt like a boy would be horrible. Fast-forward 4 years and I now have 2 boys (no girls), and tho I still would love for this baby to be a girl, I am soooo grateful that I got to experience being a mother to a son. I honestly can't put into words how amazing sons are, and having a boy really makes you look at men a little bit differently. If you find, after your baby is here, that you truly are having issues with accepting the sex, be sure that you talk to your doctor-but give yourself time, sometimes bonding and emotional attachment take a while. I think, tho, that once you get to know your little bundle you will fall in love regardless of the sex.
  • MomE2A09X11MomE2A09X11
    I love my children no matter what they are. I thank God to have them. The only thing I ever worry about is them being healthy. My heart goes out to mothers that can't have or lose babies.
  • coolbabybeanscoolbabybeans
    Before we found out what the gender was, I told my hubby I think I will be really depressed if its a girl. I was a little sad when we found out it was a girl but now I'm super excited. Once you pick the babys name and feel it kicking, your gonna fall in love and the excitement will be almost unbearable. I'm just afraid now I won't bond as deeply with her as I did with my son. Wish you luck
  • AnnieAnnie
    Being a mom of two boys is a wonderfull gift,i woudnt traid it 4 anything in the world. I would love 2 hve a girl,but being able 2 hve a healthy kid out ways anything.i went through allot 2 hve my sons,so just being a mommy is the greatest thing.
  • PalomitaPalomita
    Boys are great too :) but the greatest gift is having a healthy baby!!
  • Amj2486Amj2486
    I am very blessed to have become pregnant. ive seen many families try and try to conceive and it breaks my heart. Its my first baby and im just nervous of failing because of a special bond. I do appreciate all comments :)
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