Kinda just need some support & encouragement..

mommy3mommy3
edited February 2011 in Pregnant
I'm due August 2nd.. first time mommy!! My husband is a Marine! Well.. we got news this week that his deployment got moved up.. meaning unless the baby comes early, he'll miss it. He could've deployed in March-Sep, but we wanted him to be there for the birth & he decided to deploy Sep-April.. well now that he's gonna miss it either way, a part of me wants him to try going in March so he can at least be there shortly after the baby comes! I just don't know what to expect really & our parents will be their on delivery day, so I'm very thankful.. but him being there means a lot too.. and I'm just all upset ):

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  • mommy2audreymommy2audrey
    Aww sorry girl military life can be hard. But I think him commin home right after is the best choice. He will miss your belly growing and your mood swings but he will be there to help change diapers and watch your lill baby grow.

    Get involved in things on base with other mothers it helps make time go by faster
  • mommy3mommy3
    Well the thing is.. he's not sure if he can still join the unit to leave in March, but we're gonna see.. & when he deploys, I'm going back home. He said he wouldn't feel good about leaving me here with people we just met in October & he won't be able to talk to me much to check in, so I'll be going home. Its just the not knowing when & the confusion that's getting me all worked up ya know? I just wanna know the plan & be organzied, its hard doing that with the military!
  • geminiforggeminiforg
    It is a sacrafice being a military wife... But freedom isnt free... He loves u and wants to be there but it sounds like it is now out of his control... U will have a support group of family a1ound you so that will help... You can video record the birth to watch together later.
    Take lots of pictures and videos every day of baby and make a scrap book to share with him...u r a mom it seems hard now but will be behind u one day
  • mommy3mommy3
    I mean, I know he can't help it.. but being since I just got this news this week, I don't think I can accept it or being okay with it just yet ya know? I don't think I could video the birth haha it seems too creepy to me, but if he actually wanted me to have it on video, I would... A scrap book is a good/fun idea though (:
  • lovebeingamomlovebeingamom
    I heard on the news that they video streamed it to the father. Skype. Then he was able to talk to his wife and baby after. But not sure how that works with the dad getting permission . But hope it works out for you! Best wishes! And congrats on your baby!
  • mommy3mommy3
    @lovebeingamom I'm gonna mention that to him & we might just have to figure it out (: thank you!
  • lovebeingamomlovebeingamom
    Yeah no problem! I thought it was a great way when I saw it on the news! :)
  • mommy3mommy3
    I think soo too (: maybe he'll like the idea too!
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    Military life is hard for sure... so God bless ya for doing it to begin with (I did it for 4 yrs). Sounds like a tough situation... and although you want him to feel the baby move, watch your belly grow, and just plain be there for you... I bet having him there sooner once the baby Is born would be better? Its gonna be hard no matter what so I hope you have a great support group around you!

    My friend is able to Skype once in a while I believe... I can ask but assuming you're around other military families, I'd ask! Keep a journal along with the scrapbook and pics. Or, write to him ever night and send it out every week or two so that he can feel like a bigger part of your progress while he's gone... along with hopefully making you feel like he's a little closer!


    Good luck, and Congrats on the bean! :)
  • mommy3mommy3
    @mrsrocketfield1221 Thank you! That helped me a bit.. & I also think him leaving next month would be better, but we aren't sure if he's still able to do that ): That's the frustrating part of it all.. just not knowing the plan. But I'll be sending letters, videos, pictures, & all kinds of things!!! I even have my aunt (she's very artistic & creative) starting on the pregnancy scrapbook & when baby comes I'm going to add to it & send to him (: Thanks again for your support!
  • mrsrocketfield1221mrsrocketfield1221
    Well please keep us posted and if he goes... you've for some pregly friends here for ya that somewhat know what its like! Good luck! :)
  • mommy3mommy3
    I will for sure let you know, & this really means a lot! Thank you & everyone else so much (:
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