LATINA WOMEN: Is "meanness" really associated with our character??

According to my BD, it is... ok.. lets review the meaning of being mean/meanness: SELFISH, UNKIND, STINGY, CRUEL, etc.

Ouch... if I was him, i would have left me a looong time ago! lol.. poor man smh.. But I'll take it if he can look me in the eye and call me selfish, unkind, stingy, and cruel aaand if he can back it up.. :-?

*Feisty: full of courage, spirited, agressive, excitable, out spoken, etc. HMMM... now this I can admit to and accept, I am/can be feisty if, it's called for.

I am undeniably Latina, South American, Bolivian to be exact. I was born and raised in Bolivia until the age of 13, and have been living here in the US ever since, I am now 22. So i guess you could say I'm not your typical Latina in a way. I'm not the typical submissive third world country Latina thats for sure.. no no no lol. Character wise, I value my independence as much as I value eveything I learned from my mother. I cook, I clean, I enjoy taking care of my man, I'm faithful and loyal, Im very family oriented, and hard working to name a few. BUT, you best believe I wont take any bullshit lol. I believe in giving and getting back equal respect. I stand up for what I believe in, I will fight to defend my family, myself, and whats mine if I have to (*lioness roar*) ..Therefore, I only let submission take its course where it counts and nowhere else.. b-e-d lol

I'm speaking for myself of course, but I know many "modern day" Latinas and others can relate..

But anyway... don't call us mean juts because we dont always agree with you or let you have your way... call us feisty if you want :* Besos..

Comments

  • Amen to that mama, my hubby calls me mean too, I just smile and say: yo no soy mala, soy honesta :) (i am not mean, just honest)
  • @Janet_2011 Exactly.. if they only realized what "mean" really meant right? lol
  • Mhm they know nothing, guys are half dumb most of the times :)
  • My hubby black and he says tu eres mala lol that im rude and loud but honest lol I tell him look u selfish black man lol im sweet but fiesty. lol
  • Im dominican & I dont deem myself as mean I just have a low tollerance for B.S but I can be a lil stingy with certain things
  • Im dominican & I dont deem myself as mean I just have a low tollerance for B.S but I can be a lil stingy with certain things
  • @anadoll92
    Morenos.. ayayay. My BD is African American as well lol.. sweet but feisty i like that
    @Sepermom405
    I do too...

    I know Im not mean. I might disagree, argue and get mad but i wont stop taking care of you and loving you basically
  • I'm dominican as well, just like @supermom405 said i just have a low tolerance for b.s!! Mas bueno que es haci!!lol
  • @momy2be4the1sttime Couldn't have said it better myself...

    "I know Im not mean. I might disagree, argue and get mad but i wont stop taking care of you and loving you basically"
  • @TwinMamaToBe
    Aww.. Thank you.. It really is how its been with BD and I. Our personal relationship is far from perfect at this point.. and I am hurt and mad at him for so many reasons, but I never stoped wanting to take care of him and, of course.. I still love him..
    it sucks lol.. but I would never turn my back on him..

    @lululov3.. Exactamente haha
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  • @MrsG... Yeah Im a team player myself, I like to run things together and not feel inferior to my partner or like I'm doing less. And... I'm the type that has a hard time brushing things off.. I forgive but I don't forget lol.

    I don't mean to get all technical with real definitions and all... but I know this man isn't calling me unkind, selfish, stingy, and all of the above by calling me mean knowing I can take care of him... Lol but of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion
  • Lmao I'm Puerto rican and my bd is black/white and he calls me evil just cuz I tell him straight up how I feel and don't like bs
  • I'm Mexican and I'm not mean but VERY opinionated and hardheaded. And VERY tempermental...

    But what exactly do you mean by "typical submissive 3rd world country latina"?
  • im Puerto Rican/Cuban & the set of words you used in the 'feisty' section described me perfectly!!! my BD says i got a slick a$$ mouth!!! i been working on it cuz i know he hates it, but dammit man its hard! :/ lol...deff a latin thing...
  • Ok so lets be honest.. We arent mean.. We just dont take bullshit from people , we are also highly honest.. To the point it bothers people
  • @addi386 So do I! :) But honestly ever since I've been pregnant I have calmed my temper and hotheadedness alot! :)
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  • @addi3886 Lol, my baby is gonna come out addicted to pizza, thats ALL I wanna eat lol. But hopefully he doesnt come out very hotheaded bcuz both his parents are stubborn hotheads!
  • ...awwww shiznit!!

    What the HELL?

    ...y'all all may not be mean...but...Lmmuthafuckinao!...I know my BM...

    ...she whups ass...and ask questions later...hahaa!...shit...I'm 6'2 195lbs of solid "BIG BLACK DUDE" muscle...and she had the audacity to "bitch-slap" me?!...LMAO!...

    *CRAZY

    ...if I say good morning...she says "WHATS SO GOOD ABOUT IT?"...hahaaa...

    *DERANGED

    ...ok ...she is a bunch of good stuff ...I'll admit...but...OVERLY DIFFICULT...is unreasonable...I shouldn't have to physically emphasise my perspective...but..she is very animated & "grabbie"...when we argue...plus...I'm always wrong...seriously?...always?...lol...I'd accept 94% wrong...lmao...but, 100%?

    ...all in all...no matter how fucked up things seem...I do love her & care...lmao..."trust completely"...is another topic...hahaa!...

    ...I know she's gonna be a great mom...& hopefully...she'll let me share our greatest creation...

    *love yo crazy ass...tú erés mí mamacita y te amo..siempre..con todo mí corázon...

    ...y te extrano...y Liberty...stop acting out...when I don't give you your way...GOD DAMN TEMPER TANTRUMS!

    ...besitos...un Largo y un pococito..para mís chicas..

    ...even though you're mean as a bear...LOL




  • @OMFGhe'smyBD

    moreno please... after 1983297624 years of life you should know actions speak louder than words by now [-(

    I dont throw temper tantrums, I just simply shouldnt have to lower my expectations, specially now. Besides, you know I dont ask much, and whatever I ask is always whithin reaching capability if the effort is there...

    oh and.. in case it skipped your mind

    I AM carrying your princess, the only other lady that will love you for who you are (..uy) besides your mom. And let's not forget I'm her mother either.. in other words, your Queen O:)

    *Y aunque aveces quiero sacarme los pelos de rabia por lo pelotudo que eres, te amo y te extrano mas que vos... besos
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