Am I the only idiot...

adri805adri805
edited August 2011 in Pregnant
Who doesn't check n e male out whether its in.person, pics, or tv??? I know its normal for guys to look at females but it makes me feel stupid that I'm that dedicated n satisfied with my bf/bd n its probably a 1 way street. Maybe its just pregnancy making me.feel this way....or not. I doubt it. Just intensifies how I feel. Done venting.
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  • EmmalouiseEmmalouise
    Im the same!! my partner is always eyeing up other women. even eyes them up and down!! O feel silly and feel like i shouldn't look!!
  • adri805adri805
    @emmalouise im.glad I'm not alone. He doesn't check n e female out or comments in front of me or n e thing like that. But I strongly dislike feeling like I'm more into us n him then he is into me.
  • Beautiful_AltarBeautiful_Altar
    I dont. Im married for a reason.
  • loveourlittleoneloveourlittleone
    edited August 2011
    If an attractive guy catches my eye I'll check him out but I definitely don't go looking. It's natural to find other people attractive. But it's only disrespectful when your eyes start pooping out of your head, you are actively looking for people to get all googly eyed at, or you act on it.
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  • monkeymammonkeymam
    @kristaf22 .....lol....u make me laugh....I just have eyes for my hubby :"> and like @Beautiful_Altar Im married for a reason...but I have to be honest....I think this pregnancy "did something to my sex appear" bc many men always have to say something "nice" about me...lol :p
  • adri805adri805
    @nova @beautiful_altar @loveourlittleone @marinesangel @kristaf22 @monkeymam @2ndbutfirst
    thank u ladies for responding. I just wish that he felt the same way. Maybe its bc I'm.preg n my insecurities r playing into it. It's not like I'm completly insecure but I have my days. It would b nice to know that he doesnt feel the need to check out girls either bc i.should b more then.enough. I know its natural but if I don't feel the need to b checking out guys bc I'm satisfied then y can't it b the same?? If I wasn't I would b single.We got into an argument bc he thinks what I said is like outrageous or something. I don't get to c him until Friday n he's 45 minutes away so I can't just go over to talk about it.
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    I do. Some guys are really hard to miss. Like the new Conan, you know Khal Drogo from the Game of Thrones. Wow!
  • TishJ330TishJ330
    @kristaf22, don't be embarrassed hun, I did the same doggone thing lol! I was at my office and Terrence was coming to take me to lunch. Well, I went downstairs to the lobby to wait and people watch. I glanced over and I see this guy and I'm like "Wow, he's cute!" Yup, it was my hubby lol! I told him and he was so tickled. But other than him, I really don't notice other men.
    @blueberrysmom, I made Terrence find that guy for me because of you LOL! He's seems so big...I just don't know. You know he's Lisa Bonet's baby daddy right? She's his cougar lol
  • Mrs4cMrs4c
    I don't check dudes out either. It's a respect thing and it's not as fun as thinking about my husband anyways! He's sooooo much more attractive to me then any guy I'd even considered to be in the attractive club. Lol. My husband is the same way. We both can still appreciate the beauty in the opposite sex but everyone else is 2nd best and therefore almost non existent. :)
  • DawnwaarsBabyDawnwaarsBaby
    I didnt use to check out other guys... I was completely into my husband until... Now I check out all other guys, right in his face... But thats becuz our marriage has failed... so my situation is a bit different...
  • adri805adri805
    @dawnwaarsbaby yes ur situation is diff therefore I don't think it matters, I'm sorry about ur marriage :(

    @blueberrysmom LOL!!!! Now I'm gonna look.him up

    @Mrs4c I totally agree, I feel the same way!!!!

  • kdanielskdaniels
    No hun ur not and certainly not an idiot bc u don't. You're one of the very few females that still respect the idea of commitment. When I'm in a relationship I don't even try to look at other guys even when I'm alone. It feels like I'm cheating if I were to do that. If a guy hit on me at my job it would make me sick to my stomach and I always corrected them flashed my engagement ring and even embarrassed a few by repeating what I say all the time. My fiance this my fiance that I'm pregnant like geez it wasn't very noticeable then but I believe the way u act has everything to do with the way ppl react to you. If u appear to be flirting then they will think ur single bc ur acting that way. I don't even look some ppl in the eye if they're my age unless I'm greeting them or wishing them a good day. And my hubby is the same way he makes it known that he has a pregnant fiance back home that he loves and is cooking him something lol the other day this girl was staring at him walking out of the bank and she was like hey you and smiled and he said sorry I don't date sluts that dress like u I'm happily taken and she's having my baby lol I just laughed bc her face was priceless. I hate how some women have no respect anymore. For themselves mostly but as well as for other ppls relationships. U know?
  • kdanielskdaniels
    ssorry that's long but I'm just *releived that there are still some women out there like me.
  • Alwayzbeenurz2008Alwayzbeenurz2008
    I think its a chick thing cuz i dont check anyone out either..
  • myHEARTZx3myHEARTZx3
    I don't. All my friends n family do..i just don't really care lol. I thought I was the only one hahaha jk
  • CristinaLynnCristinaLynn
    Of course if there is an attractive man walking past me I might think in my head "he's cute" or even on a not so attractive man and he has a beautiful feature I'll think "wow his eyes are beautiful" but it honestly doesn't go past that...unless it's Trey Songz...in which sometimes I drool just a little lol but my Fiance knows I'd never do more then just a nice thought. Maybe it's because I comment on womens features too lol idk. I apprecite beauty, and if I see a beautiful smile, eyes or whatever it may be, of course I'm going to think "wow that persons ---- is beautiful" or what not. It's definitely normal either way! :-)
  • adri805adri805
    @kdaniels thanks for making me feel better. Awww that's so sweet n funny that ur man is like that!!!! I would have loved to.c.that. did she even say n e thing? Lol

    @alwayzbeenurz2008 @myheartzx3
    our men r lucky!!!!!! All my old friends did too.

    @cristinalynn lol!!!!! Love his music!
  • kdanielskdaniels
    Haha no she just kinda went hmph. And made a face and walked away. And no hun stand by what u believe. It's what makes us strong women bc we know if something down the road makes us look back on our actions we know we made the right decisions and feel better about ourselves. :) my man tries hard to be the best for me so he deserves the same from me. We were in the checkout line at the grocery store I was scratching his back he used to always ask me to its become a second nature and the old ladies behind us said wow he must really love u for that and I said well he deserves it he's one of the only ones left that still opens doors and pulls out chairs even way before I got pregnant and has never stopped even if were fighting I can be so pissed and he stares at me as he opens my door and we both burst out laughing bc fighting seems so silly at that point. I got lucky by finding him I wouldn't do anything to screw that up :)
  • adri805adri805
    @kdaniels wow, he's Def a rare type!!!!! It's good to know there r still men left that r.just DD good to.their woman as their woman is to them!
  • myowndisaster23myowndisaster23
    I still check out my hubby.. when he showers after work I'll go into the bathroom and watch him. I usually pretend its just to talk to him about his day. (: he lost weight recently too, so I find it hard to keep my hands off his flat stomach... he is still my fantasy. He never looks at other girls or comments about them so I think that makes him even sexier.
  • myowndisaster23myowndisaster23
    edited August 2011
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  • kdanielskdaniels
    @myowndisaster lol I do the same thing I just sit on the toilet and watch him though. He calls me a creeper and I giggle and agree :)

    @adri805 yea I just wish ppl would appreciate what they have u know? Like we do bc when they don't is when men just give up. I don't blame them.
  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    I don't check out guys, but I've always been really picky about men. I check out girls tho. Idk why, but I think black women are gorgeous. When a particularly sexy lady goes by, I'll go "Damn! She was hot!" My husband just laughs.
    He'll look at other girls, but when he does it, he'll say to me, "Did you see her tights? Those were so sexy!" He has a stocking fetish and I know that he's not looking at the person, he's looking at the clothes. Honestly, it could be a girl with a face like a pig but if she's wearing some cool tights or shoes, my hubby will notice. Hell, he even checks out what other guys are wearing. He just has a thing for fashion. :))
  • adri805adri805
    @Victoriab LOL!!!!!

    @Oregonmama Omg lol I nvr heard that 1 before

    @kdaniels yeah ur right. It bothers me.bc I feel like I'm not good enough that he has to look at some other female. Maybe I'm being unrealistic on wanting to b the only female he checks out in that way...I feel like I already said this. If I did I apologize. I'm so emotional right now bc its getting to me. He is mad bc he says I think too much about bs. N it just makes me more upset bc I wna b understood. I want my feelings to b validated n know that I'm.not being an over reacting cry baby. I just wna feel that special n feel like I'm enough like how I feel about him.
  • adri805adri805
    @myowndisaster23 I do the same.thing!!!!!
  • kdanielskdaniels
    I had that feeling with a lot of my relationships. Not this one. I got lucky and its mutual. But with it comes the fear on both our sides that it won't last or something will Fuck it up so that spurs jealousy and arguments. Can't have everything I guess... I had a miscarriage in 2008 and in that relationship I always felt like you do now, but u realized later that when I was pregnant I still had that feeling just more intense, bc I felt vulnerable bc now he would b part of my life forever and I wanted that part to change but somehow knew it wouldn't so.I had to come to terms with it and when I finally got over my anxiety that he may never just be attracted to me and the fear of being pregnant and started talking to the baby and even thought of a name was when I lost it. I wasn't further than 11 weeks and that whole experience was fucked up. I ended up carrying at home passing the baby in the toilet and didn't know how far along I was bc I was young and had no medical insurance and hadn't even home to the first appt yet. I was in denial while going thru labor and bleeding profusely I'm lucky I didn't die my sis in law got pregnant same time I did and she came over and took me to the hospital bc my douchebag ex refused to. When I got there they said my hcg levels wet still very high they think I just had an incompetent cervix but I've been fine this pregnancy so ill never know. Oops I ran off on another topic sorry. My point is, u are not thinking rationally, your feelings are the same as before u were pregnant, they're just way stronger now and harder to sort out in your head. Try to sit and calmly have a talk with him about it and if he gets loud remind him you're trying things the rational way and if be can't stay calm too ur done talking and end the conversation. It's not fair forhim to shut u down u will still feel these feelings after the babies born. Just keep repeating how much u love him and see him above everyone else so he will pay attention bc some guys are like kids it has to have a positive side or they shut down. Keep your head up chica and focus on the positive for now like he doesn't cheat and he loves u things like that. :)
  • kdanielskdaniels
    I had that feeling with a lot of my relationships. Not this one. I got lucky and its mutual. But with it comes the fear on both our sides that it won't last or something will Fuck it up so that spurs jealousy and arguments. Can't have everything I guess... I had a miscarriage in 2008 and in that relationship I always felt like you do now, but u realized later that when I was pregnant I still had that feeling just more intense, bc I felt vulnerable bc now he would b part of my life forever and I wanted that part to change but somehow knew it wouldn't so.I had to come to terms with it and when I finally got over my anxiety that he may never just be attracted to me and the fear of being pregnant and started talking to the baby and even thought of a name was when I lost it. I wasn't further than 11 weeks and that whole experience was fucked up. I ended up carrying at home passing the baby in the toilet and didn't know how far along I was bc I was young and had no medical insurance and hadn't even home to the first appt yet. I was in denial while going thru labor and bleeding profusely I'm lucky I didn't die my sis in law got pregnant same time I did and she came over and took me to the hospital bc my douchebag ex refused to. When I got there they said my hcg levels wet still very high they think I just
  • kdanielskdaniels
    *its not that you're not thinking rationally
  • kdanielskdaniels
    *its not that you're not thinking rationally
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