silently freaking out (my baby's nightmares) crazy m.i.l (HELP!!!)
So during the last month my baby has been acting different. Ever since she spent her first weekend away from me her sleep schedule and attitude has been so off. I was told by my husband that his mom said my baby didn't cry once the weekend she was there but the other day my s.i.l. told me that when she was there she had been pulling her hair and yelling her head off, at least once. No one has said anything to me about that weekend but i feel some kind of way because a few times I have woken up to the sound of my baby whimpering/hyperventilating in her sleep. I'm not sure how to describe it but the easiest way I can tell you lovely ladies is....you know the sound little kids makes after they have cried or gotten in troubled or discipline, when they're huffing and puffing with the whole bottom lip getting sucked in???? That's the sound she's made, on one occasion a tear even slipped out her eyes. Whenever this happens its hard to get her to wake up and she's even more clingy then she was before her visit to my m.i.l. But after finding out that my daughter had a fit or two things started to make sense. She won't let my m.i.l hold her anymore, every time she tries my daughter will just cry & cry until I get her back. Sometimes its so bad that my m.i.l. isn't even able to touch her without my baby crying. I don't really care that my daughter is distancing herself from my m.i.l. because this woman is just too clingy and I still think she assumes that she is the mom. Her attitude has always irritated me but now i'm really wondering what she did to make my child change like this. If my daughter were rejecting everyone then I wouldn't have a problem but she's getting CLOSER to everyone else. Even though I never wanted to let her out my sight, i'm even more against my m.i.l having her. She told me the other day that she's ready to have her for a whole week because 2 1/2 isn't enough but my child is only 5 months and I never said I would dropping her off every time my m.i.l has a few days off from work. Now that I'm having twins I know she's going to even more baby crazy and I already know once the lil ones come she's going to assume that my daughter will be at her house all the time which will never be the case. I didn't get pregnant to just be a part-time mom or babysitter and that's how she seems to want it. I don't know how to approach my husband with this because he's very much a mama's boy (who's trying to distance himself but she's not trying to let go). It already hurts him that I'm not close to his mom or as eager to be around her We're just two completely different people and I seem to be the only one willing to make any kind of compromises.
I'm going to be living with my mom this pregnancy so that I can be stress-free & near a better hospital so his mom won't be able to see my daughter that often and I frankly don't care but I already know its going to cause issues. I just hope she doesn't try to get in contact with my mom and try to plan something behind my back because that's all she ever does. She'll talk to everyone else about her plans for my child EXCEPT with me UNLESS she finds out I already have something planned then she'll be like "oh, i want to......" X( I need to stop because I will end up venting and this discussion will never end lol but seriously I need help, this is scaring me, my baby use to be so happy now she's only happy in my arms and its almost the only way she'll sleep.
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I'm going to be living with my mom this pregnancy so that I can be stress-free & near a better hospital so his mom won't be able to see my daughter that often and I frankly don't care but I already know its going to cause issues. I just hope she doesn't try to get in contact with my mom and try to plan something behind my back because that's all she ever does. She'll talk to everyone else about her plans for my child EXCEPT with me UNLESS she finds out I already have something planned then she'll be like "oh, i want to......" X( I need to stop because I will end up venting and this discussion will never end lol but seriously I need help, this is scaring me, my baby use to be so happy now she's only happy in my arms and its almost the only way she'll sleep.
@abbys_mommy @SalasMommy @MrsG (Hep)
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As far as your baby it seems like its time to ask your mil what the heck happened! She tells your hubby your baby didnt cry but your sil says way different.. Sounds like shes trying to hide something. Also its your child and you mil needs to respect the way you raise her and not just change things up on the poor girl when she keeps her! I dont blame you for not wanting your mil around her, your baby is telling you something and im glad your listening!! I hope you hubby does too!
Personally, for me, I think 5 months is too young to be spending whole weekends away from you. And I would tell that to both your hubby and your MIL if it gets brought up again. She's just not ready. You could offer to compromise and let her stay during the day, but until she's old enough to understand that you're going to come back for her, I wouldn't leave her there for a weekend. Your MIL probably didn't intentionally mean to harm her, but I'm guessing it was a pretty traumatic weekend for her.
instead of dropping hints or making comments about when my daughter will be coming to her house to stay now its "whenever you're ready, there's no rush" i don't really buy the excuse i was given but oh well. needless to say there won't be any weekend trips anytime soon
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@kayleigh27 not every mil is like that, i hope you don't have to worry about it though