Baby daddy is mean

BabyKiyah2011BabyKiyah2011
edited February 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
so right now im not sure who my baby daddy is and neither of them wants anything to do with me...I'm not a bad person and i didn't have that baby out of spite..what do I do...they both ignite me and I just keep them informed of everything that goes on even though they dont comment..what do i do?

Comments

  • Little1CashewLittle1Cashew
    Just enjoy this baby all to your self, have a support network of friends and family. Don't talk to or update either guy. Only when the baby is here does it matter to get paternity tests for your baby to know which one is the sperm donor and your choice for child support. Single moms never regret having their baby, many guys will date a single mom, so focus on you and once the baby is here find a guy worthy of your baby.
  • myowndisaster23myowndisaster23
    Right now your baby is all yours, you don't have to share him or her with anyone else so just enjoy bonding with your baby and enjoy being pregnant... you don't need to do them any favors if they arent doing you any.
  • mommy2audreymommy2audrey
    Yes I agree with above^^ don't waste ur time on those jerks. Wait till ur lill bean is born then make em pay ;)
  • BabyKiyah2011BabyKiyah2011
    Thx yall i needed that...just always had the thought of baby daddy needs to b baby life..ay least b friends u know
  • Momma2joeMomma2joe
    I think as long as they are taking your calls and listening to you its worth your time to inform them. I know its hard but put yourself in their shoes. This may be hard for them too. No one wants to build a bond with a baby only to find out its not theirs. They would be setting themselves up for a heartbreak. If they are still talking to you they might really want to know they just don't want to get too attatched. I could be wrong and they just don't care but I think if you just try and look at it this way it will ease your stress. You never really know what someone is really feeling. I wouldn't give up on the babys daddy until they are given the test. Then once the issue is cleared up they need to step up or step out. But for now just be hopeful and positive. Your baby feels what you feel!!! Good luck and I wish you the best.
  • TechGirlPaTechGirlPa
    I agree with momma. Ya can't expect someone to bond with a child when they don't even believe Its theirs. You're right to believe the baby should be with their dad too. Fathers responsible for all types of social learning in a child and the children we have on today's society who are forced to be fatherless often end up with emotional damage. A father is NOT an excuse for a woman to not provide for herself and should be treated equally on all parenting aspects for the health of the child. I also believe that financially parents should be responsible for a child when they are with them And neither parent should lose their livelyhood to the other. We have an epidemic of children who are parentless (including mothers) simply because the paying parent makes the most money. This is because local government offices receive federal funds for every dollar they collect and its in their best interest to give more custody to the parent with less money. I've read the welfare act myself and have talked to many parents including mother's who can't be with their kids like they should due to the corruption of the system.
  • BabyKiyah2011BabyKiyah2011
    I feel u i dont expect neither of them to do extra but at least act like they care about what's going on cuz it could be
    Either one of theirs...and dont ignore me like I was wrong in keeping the baby..it makes me seem like a bad person and I'm not
  • gettinnervousgettinnervous
    BabyKiyah2001....you didn't say how far along you are. BUT, as a side note, if you are having an amniocentesis, they can do paternity test from the amino fluid. I had an 11 day difference between my ex n another one. The test was $475, but completely worth it!!! Now, keep in mind the risks of an amino, but it was totally worth the answer I got!!
  • lovemyangelbabyslovemyangelbabys
    I'm sorry I know u probably r just so excited about the baby u want someone to share it with I didn't kno who my baby dad was cuz me n my boyfriend were on n off however both guys n even an ex who wasn't even in the pic steped up which made it a lot harder becuz I knew it was gonna hurt one of them a lot well I ended up with the right guy our son looks just like him we never got a test n we just had our daughter on the 17th :) just to give u sum hope n urs will work out to don't worry
  • BabyKiyah2011BabyKiyah2011
    Well gettinnervous...Im 25 weeks today and im not sure if medicade covers the amniocentesis and my doctor talked like she didn't wanna do one for me and she says u can get a DNA with blood only
  • FirstTimeDaddyFirstTimeDaddy
    hm. wait till the baby is born. get a, paternity test. also the father w child support. some guys need to learn the hard way. n yea u can find someone who is better. who will make a good father for ur lil one. I met my gf as a single mom. n we r now having our first child. her baby has a real father in his life. me (: just hang in there
  • BabyKiyah2011BabyKiyah2011
    Thanks...that means alot...that was my original plan was to take the loser CS...i dont deserve this
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