Strip Club NPR Need to get this off my chest!
So me and my husband went out to eat with one of his married male friends and they started talking about how they are going to Vegas for work. They are both in the Air Force and they HAVE to go. Its not for a few months but they are going to be there for a few weeks.... Well they talked about it and we ended up having a "discussion" about it. By discussion, I mean that I wasnt being open-minded and I didnt understand and blah blah blah. I mean I literally felt like I was being attacked... But I feel like a married man has no place in a strip club... You'd think that my feelings about it and my opinion would have an effect on the decision... But no, hes going to be going with other guys and this would be a great bonding experience and they dont wanna be the guy who stays by himself all the time. HELLO I'm not saying you cant hang out with them, but why the hell do you have to look at naked women...
Not to mention I'll be home alone with a new born baby.... I cant go to Vegas with him and I probably never will go to Vegas.... It just makes me mad. I really felt like I was being attacked and stuff. I'm really mad.... If you want to get hard and fantasize about other women then maybe you should have listened to everyone when they said we were 'too young' to get married and commit ourselves to eachother. I mean to me, its the same as cheating if your having a physical attraction to another women who is in the room and you can in fact touch. Ugh. I mean dont get me wrong, I completely trust my husband and I know he would NEVER cheat on me.... But why does that make it okay to do this?
I'm just super aggravated because I feel like he shouldnt even have to ask..... He should just not go since I dont even feel like this is debateable. I really wish that my feelings were held to a higher regard that "but they'll make me and blah blah I have to be a DD for them so I HAVE to go in the strip clubs and cum in my pants to other women."
I'm just so mad. I feel like we shouldnt even have to talk about this. I mean I'm pregnant and my hormones dont exactly help me be calm about this. UGH. If you wanted to go to a strip club then maybe you should have married someone who was okay with it instead of marrying me when you knew how I felt and then tried to tell me I'm wrong later!!!!
RANT OVER. Sorry. But I feel a little better now.
Not to mention I'll be home alone with a new born baby.... I cant go to Vegas with him and I probably never will go to Vegas.... It just makes me mad. I really felt like I was being attacked and stuff. I'm really mad.... If you want to get hard and fantasize about other women then maybe you should have listened to everyone when they said we were 'too young' to get married and commit ourselves to eachother. I mean to me, its the same as cheating if your having a physical attraction to another women who is in the room and you can in fact touch. Ugh. I mean dont get me wrong, I completely trust my husband and I know he would NEVER cheat on me.... But why does that make it okay to do this?
I'm just super aggravated because I feel like he shouldnt even have to ask..... He should just not go since I dont even feel like this is debateable. I really wish that my feelings were held to a higher regard that "but they'll make me and blah blah I have to be a DD for them so I HAVE to go in the strip clubs and cum in my pants to other women."
I'm just so mad. I feel like we shouldnt even have to talk about this. I mean I'm pregnant and my hormones dont exactly help me be calm about this. UGH. If you wanted to go to a strip club then maybe you should have married someone who was okay with it instead of marrying me when you knew how I felt and then tried to tell me I'm wrong later!!!!
RANT OVER. Sorry. But I feel a little better now.
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All tge best with resolving it peacefully.
@dadof2n1togo Yeah I know.... I cant tell if he's using his friends as an excuse to go or if he really feels pressured into going.... I'm sure he wants to go... I just have a hard time understanding the guy perspective of things! I try though lol men just make it hard.... It just kinda hurts my self esteem that he feels the need to look at other women. Ugh. I hope it gets resolved peacefully to!
Thanks for the input everyone! Pregly keeps me from murdering my husband sometimes lol :P
My husband has gone with his friends when he was in tech school (hes in the af also). I told him to have fun. Its like watching porn. Which I dont have a problem either cause no matter what he comes home to me and I trust him 100%.
My husband will only be 20 when they go... So he wont be able to drink... But he will be able to go to some strip clubs... It just makes me mad... Like this isnt the only time youre ever going to Vegas. I want to go eventually so its not like youre missing out on a lifetimes oppurtunity. Youre just missing out on naked women dancing.... UGH I just cant get over this... I mean I feel unattractive being pregnant as is... and his nagging and stuff about strip clubs just really hurts my feelings.... I mean he already turned down his friends about it once, whats the problem doing it again?!