Why does something so WRONG, feel so RIGHT ?

esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
edited October 2011 in VENT (keep it peaceful!)
Okay well things between me & my BD are so dead,
we're together but I hate it,
- We argure A LOT
- We're always mad at each other
- Hes always gone
- I feel like a single parent
- ugh I hate haveing sex with him I feel disgusted ! >.<
- I love my daughter but IVE HAD ENOUGH !
so I sorta kinda talk to his friend hes so cute I mean he has his girlfriend but we have so much fun talking, we jst mess around we arent tryna be in love but grrrr it feels right.
i need some advice !
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  • Junebuggbabie85Junebuggbabie85
    There is never a reason to cheat if you arent happy then leave, and if his friend is in a relationship he just as bad cuz if he does it for you he will do it to you.
  • esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
    But we arent tryna be together thats the thing its like a friend with benefits type thing @junebuggbabie85
  • monkey_girlmonkey_girl
    If your unhappy you should move on. Are you afraid to be on your own financially?
  • Junebuggbabie85Junebuggbabie85
    but think about the example you are setting not only are you deceiving your bd you are allowing him to deceive his girl its just a big mess and someone is going to get hurt and it will most likely be your baby
  • Mimii36Mimii36
    Girlll..i been there ok! Except it wasnt my mans friend. Im not gon sit up here like everybody else & give you this lecture on how youre wrong..blah blah blah. Youre a grown woman & youre old enough to know that already. So heres my opinion. You decide whats best for you! If being with your bby daddy isnt what you want then move on. Speaking from experience. I thought my relationship was over..i felt the same way about him as you do about yours. So I went out & found me a "sideline man". It was all fun & games for a while until I realized how much it would hurt my man! I finally stopped what I was doing & came clean. I never seen man so hurt. But you know what...he forgave me! I figured if I could hurt him the way I did & he still find it in his heart to forgive me & still work on us..then I owed it to him to give it try too. It was the hardest thing weve ever had to overcome but we did & now we have let all that go & moved on! & I am the happiest ive ever been with a man & I KNOW he is the one for me.
    Now your situation may not end like this BUT im just saying you need to look into your heart & really find out where you wana be.
  • 1stWoodsBaby1stWoodsBaby
    I agree with Mimii26. You are a grown woman. You know what is right and wrong so I'm not going to tell you that I think you are wrong. I've been in the same position you are in. I'd tell you the story, but it ended up like Mimii's story. You really just need to sit down and decide if it is worth trying to work it out with your man now (if he is willing to try to make things better) or if it would be better to move on. I know people want to try to keep their families together, but if the parents aren't happy it usually isn't the best place for the kid. Lots of families work better when the parents arne't together but can be more civil than they were when they were together and arguing.
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  • 1stWoodsBaby1stWoodsBaby
    @mama0811 I had no idea she was just 17. If that had been stated it would have made a difference to my response. Yes, I think she definitely needs more advice then. Sorry!
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  • Mimii36Mimii36
    edited October 2011
    Ohh..ok I didnt know she was 16/17 either. @mama0811
  • Mimii36Mimii36
    On that note..girl youre young! Maybe you & your bd relationship just isnt mature enough to be stable. If youre not happy with him then end it. Just because you guys have a bby doesnt mean you HAVE to be together.
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  • mommyof3tobemommyof3tobe
    Just leave bd girl and his friend is trifling for messing with his boys bm, so leave his ass alone too and find something meaningful! Dang you young...lol
  • pinkbaby0930pinkbaby0930
    It probably feels right cuz u r so mad at bd. And the friend is giving u the fun and attention u need.
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    I agree the friend has proven himself not a good friend not a good bf and not a good influence on your baby. Id say leave him alone it may not be a meaningful relationship right now but when you want it to mean something you will end up hurt not him. And if you're unhappy with bd leave. No sense in being miserable. Good luck mamma.
  • esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
    Im 17 :) bdays Sept. 16
    & thanks ya'll actually helped, I just feel so alone my bd is 20 he has no job I support my babygirl yes im jst tryna have fun but he makes me sooo mad im better off alone :)
  • esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
    Thank you so much @samantha
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  • esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
    No hes out drinkin an smokeing then hes up all night cause hes coked out & sleeps all day.
  • MorgDeeBeeMorgDeeBee
    I think you need to walk away from both of them
  • MorgDeeBeeMorgDeeBee
    No offense to anyone, but why would you want someone around your child who is drunk and coked out?
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  • esperanzasmommyesperanzasmommy
    Its her dad I dont them apart I want her to have her dad.
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    I would leave personally. Your baby doesn't need that. If he loved her he wouldn't do it and maybe if you left it would be the incentive he needs to quit. Your babys safety comes first and he is not providing a safe environment and the other boy is all drama you don't need. But if you want to learn the hard way then stay and continue doing what you're doing or you can take advice from ladies that care are also moms and some that have been in your position. Life is hard no need to make it harder then what it is by staying in a situation you already know is wrong. Good luck honey.
  • Mimii36Mimii36
    She can still have a dad without u being with him hun!
  • smcoxsmcox
    Honestly, you need to just get away from the situation. Trust me, you don't want your daughter being around him if he's doing drugs and drinking. She will end up resenting him more. I got pregnant at 19 and the daddy was a meth head. I ended up miscarrying, but if I didn't I can garuntee he wouldn't be in her life. I did not want my daughter exposed to that! I know it's hard and will continue to be! But trust me leaving him will be the best thing you can do for your child! And messing around with his friend is unnecessary drama. You will only get hurt in the end. I hope everything works out for there best for you and your daughter!
  • Janet_2011Janet_2011
    edited October 2011
    You are too young to be putting your self in this situation. And besides you can't think of how right it feels, you have to put your daughter before your self now and i don't think she will benefit from this at all, get out of both guys.. your baby daddy is not good to have near your baby since he doesn't act like a real man does and his friend will probably do to you what he is doing to his gf with you. You are better off alone with your baby.
  • FweeFwee
    ive felt that way. i understand. ive been through boyfriends like i have underwear. ive found that when ive felt like that, that ive never missed them when they were gone and had no problem finding someone else. i would leave and be on your own.
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