is it just me or

edited January 2012 in Breastfeeding
Does almost every teen mom nowadays bottle feed babies? Not bashing it its just I realized that watching teen mom today. I'm 17, and I breast feed. And there is always pumping. And its not like these girls are going to school- they are getting GEDs?

Anyways I hate it because I enjoy breastfeeding. My daughter and I have an amazing bond :)

Feedback what do you guys think (no negative things please- no one wants to get defensive or hurt- I'm not bashing or want anyone else to) if you are / was a teen mom what did you do, why?, and what did you think of other options?
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  • I was 18 and married when I had my first son. I bottle fed because I am permanently on pain meds (spinal issues) and I also take anti anxiety meds that are very dangerous to babies. I think I would have at least tried breastfeeding otherwise, though im completely happy with my bottle fed babies. I dont feel like I missed out on bonding because I could still stare into his eyes during feedings & feel our bond.
  • I had my son at 17 I looked ay boobs back then as a sexual thing and I was uncomfortable with but now I dont. My sis had her first baby at 20 and she breast feeds. Idk I guess it has alit to do with maturity. Even tho I was married and everything I just wasn't comfortable but after I had my daughter I pumped and was planning on breast feeding until my daughter passed at 2 days old
  • I was 17 when i had my son. Please don't bash, but i didn't want him. I wanted to give him up for adoption but my mother wouldn't let me. I thought at the time that i couldn't do it. Throughout my pregnancy i wasn't emotionally attached or excited in any way. I was extremely depressed and was cutting myself. Breast feeding had never crossed my mind. I tried to just stay focused on school. I went to school and got straight A's. Don't get me wrong, i love my son to death and would never trade him for the world, but i was at a time in my life when i really wasn't sure if i could do it. I was afraid of being a fuck up. If i could go back there's alot of things i would change.
  • I was 17 when I got pregnant with my oldest son. I bottle fed him. I was raised with NO female role models. I didn't have a mom, grandma, my dad was an only child so no aunts. My at the time boy friend was also raised by only his dad. Breastfeeding wasn't something I was comfortable with, knowledgeable about, and defiantly didn't have a strong support system. I am now married to a man with an AMAZING mom, sister, and step-mom that are willing to answer every dumb question that pops in my head. So now with baby number 4 I have the support and comfort I needed to breastfeed and I am excited to do it. Just the wait on Mr. Aldon to arrive.
  • I was 18 And married a bf all my kids can't think doing it another way
  • Oh my ( @Steph_due_101611 ) I am so sorry that happened I would never bash you; you are so strong for hanging in. And doing what you felt was right. Much love.

    @mommyof4boys I'm so sorry you didn't have the support Hun. No bashing.

    The only reason I posted this is bc I was watching teen mom and most I saw on there COULD do it just cared more about other things that weren't necessary / girls at my school who drop their kids on their parents so they can party and smoke weed.

    And to the people who responded sexual or immaturity - my mother in law was like that with all her kids. Unlike ALL THE WOMEN in my family who bfed on baby's demand til they weaned themselves.
  • And @ripkaydence I send my prayers that is heartbreaking ; I hope you are blessed with another daughter!
  • I was 15 when I had my son three months ago. I breastfeed but I don't know anybody my age that does. The nurses at the hospitals were encouraging me to bottlefeed.
  • I'm 17 and breast feed my almost 6 month old. Never wanted to bottle feed unless for some reason it was necessary. We had latching issues the first two weeks because he was born with a short frenulum but we had his pediatrician clip it and I had to teach him how to latch. Now he's a pro :)
  • Thanks for posting this. I've often thought about that as well while watching the show. I guess it could have to do with them being filmed while doing it, I think that it'd make me a touch uncomfortable and I'm all for breastfeeding!
  • @rhonda why on earth would they do that? What state are you in?
    I have breast fed 2 out of 3 of my kids. My first was bottle fed..I was 19 then. I wanted to nurse him, I knew some about breastfeeding but I had him at 35 weeks so he had to be in the nicu. I told the nurses I wanted to nurse him or at least pump while he was hospitalized and they told me I couldn't do that!
    I didn't know where to find a pump at all and there were no LCs at that hospital and it was an area with low breastfeeding rates 9 years ago.
  • @bentleysmommy716 if you dont mind me asking what's a fenulum?
  • Ok I Googled it.
  • @Bahamamama4828 I'm from Indiana I'm guessing that they thought I was too young and wouldn't be able to do it. It was difficult at first but after a few weeks it got easier. The hardest part was when I had to go back to school, but I am allowed to go to the nurses office to pump.
  • I was 19 when I had my son and I wanted to nurse. While at the hospital I was severely engorged and the nurse told me since he wouldn't latch right he would starve and I should just give him a bottle. I didn't know about pumping. So I gave him formula. I kept trying to bf but he wouldn't latch for me and I was so scared that he would starve because he was losing weight so I gave up. With my daughter I have a great support system and I did more research so she had been bf for 10 months and counting!
  • I nursed both kids had my first at 16. Never felt weird about it.
  • Im 20 and always knew I would at least try to breastfeed
  • I did not have my baby as a teen mom, not even close to being a teen lol BUT I clearly remember as a teen thinking "ew I will never breastfeed my babies" ...kinda shows the lack of maturity many teens have. Not ALL but many.
  • When I had my first child I was 17 and BFing was overwhelming because I never got "me" time. I was young and immature. Looking back on it now i see it selfish. I BF only for 4 months.
  • I try to bf as much as possible now but it gets hard sometimes. Im always soo busy. Getting 2kids ready for school. Driving to 2 different schools in 2 different cities and taking care of a 3month old. Not to mention cleaning.
  • I wasn't a teen mum and had my son at 22 but I was too selfish and immature to really push to be able to feed. I dont think I would have succeeded anyway since my son couldn't latch... But second time around only 2 years later my daughter is 11 weeks and ebf because I have given up so much for my kids already, to give up the luxurys I miss out on while bf just dont seem so important now. Sometimes its not the age just that being a ftm is very daunting without added pressure to bf...
  • I wasnt a teen mom either. I had our oldest when i was 22. I never saw a woman bf before i had my daughter. No one ever talked about it. Bottle feeding w formula was the only thing i knew... So to me that was natural. I was going to try to bf her but i ended up having a ton of complications after she was born so it ended up being best to formula feed. With my 2nd and 3rd formula feeding was what i knew so i formula fed them too. We r ttc baby number 4 and if we get pregnant i will try to bf this baby thanks to pregly... I never ever learned or heard anything about breastfeeding so i think that maybe a huge problem for a lot of people. Breastfeeding should really be promoted more. Im not sure why it has to b such a hush hush thing. Good for all of u ladies that do it!!!
  • O agree I only saw one attemt it
  • I was 15 when I had my first son & I didn't know very much about breastfeeding but I thought it would be weird to have a baby on my boob... I was 16 when I had my second son & I still didn't want to have a baby on my boob but I really wanted to pump, which ending as a fail & I was really upset. I was in school with both of them.

    With my third at 18 I wanted to, then my husband talked me out of it because I think he was weirded out by it & with my fourthbat 20 I didn't care what anyone thought, I really wanted to try for my baby. Unfortunately it didn't work out, but I'm glad I tried.
  • @rhonda I have the utmost respect for you. I cannot even to begin to explain (as a complete stranger) how much respect just flew into me, just by reading your TWO comments. Kudos.
  • I wish i could tag all of you to comment but idk how; anyways I wanna make a shout out to @conreeaght bc your story caught me off guard. I'm so sorry the nurse told you that. It took my daughter Jocelynn 3 weeks to successfully bf & finally gained weight. She didn't starve. That nurse is so wrong. It was frustrating YES. but the nurses were so supportive and the LC gave me her card and I called her every other day. My daughter also had really bad jaundice and wouldn't wake up for feedings. That's when my mom told me to let her sleep and when she's hungry you'll know it.
  • I'm 17 and I breastfeed my son is two months old and I love it .. especially the bond
  • @erikamrscollins OMG me too when was your son born? My girl was born October 27th :)
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