men...ugh
I come home after work and picking up the kids. My fiance only has our son Wed during the day, one day a week. He drops him off at my moms then goes to work. Other days all he has to do is take our daughter to school, then he comes home and sleeps til work at 3pm.
So I get home and the house is a disaster. Sink full of dishes with food caked on, a diaper torn up all over the living room, the gel stuff from inside all over the floor. Bread smoshed on the couch. My son is getting into everything...I have to make dinner and also put wash in bc he was gonna do wash but our downstairs neighbors had some in so of course I'm left with wash. Plus he took some of my clean clothes bc he thought they were dirty and put them in the hamper so now I have to wash tgej bc they stink, mind you I only have 4 pairs of maternity pants so I usually have to wash twice a week. So anyway my son getting into things and house a mess I start crying bc I'm starving and there is so much to do...oh I forgot I still had to bathe my son bc he got a pen at my moms and started to draw on himself..ugh!
So mr wonderful calls on his break and asks how's it going? I'm quiet bc I know if I say what's wrong he will act like I'm being a bitch. So I'm quiet he keeps prying...I break down start crying again...and tell him. He gets mad and says well if its gonna be a bitch fest I'll let you go...bc he says he didn't have time to clean up. Ok, ?! I don't get it.really?! He works 3 to 11...home by 1130. Stays up til 230am...doing who knows what. Comes to bed gets up at 8 takes my daughter to school (only day he has our son is Wed in the morning then drops him off and my son naps for 2 hours during that time). Gets up at 130 goes to work. We have a room that needs to be finished in the next 15 days bc baby is coming and its not even close to being done. Also, not sure how you don't have time to clean up a bit before you leave...for work. Ugh, just needed to vent bc I'm so frustrated.
I can do ten times what he does Plus manage the kids and being 37 weeks pregnant...wtf!!!
So I get home and the house is a disaster. Sink full of dishes with food caked on, a diaper torn up all over the living room, the gel stuff from inside all over the floor. Bread smoshed on the couch. My son is getting into everything...I have to make dinner and also put wash in bc he was gonna do wash but our downstairs neighbors had some in so of course I'm left with wash. Plus he took some of my clean clothes bc he thought they were dirty and put them in the hamper so now I have to wash tgej bc they stink, mind you I only have 4 pairs of maternity pants so I usually have to wash twice a week. So anyway my son getting into things and house a mess I start crying bc I'm starving and there is so much to do...oh I forgot I still had to bathe my son bc he got a pen at my moms and started to draw on himself..ugh!
So mr wonderful calls on his break and asks how's it going? I'm quiet bc I know if I say what's wrong he will act like I'm being a bitch. So I'm quiet he keeps prying...I break down start crying again...and tell him. He gets mad and says well if its gonna be a bitch fest I'll let you go...bc he says he didn't have time to clean up. Ok, ?! I don't get it.really?! He works 3 to 11...home by 1130. Stays up til 230am...doing who knows what. Comes to bed gets up at 8 takes my daughter to school (only day he has our son is Wed in the morning then drops him off and my son naps for 2 hours during that time). Gets up at 130 goes to work. We have a room that needs to be finished in the next 15 days bc baby is coming and its not even close to being done. Also, not sure how you don't have time to clean up a bit before you leave...for work. Ugh, just needed to vent bc I'm so frustrated.
I can do ten times what he does Plus manage the kids and being 37 weeks pregnant...wtf!!!
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He is a good dad but sometimes I just want a little help, my 8 year daughter cleans more than he does if it wasn't for her tonight I prob would've really lost it. She said mom I'll do the dishes she cleaned up the toys and helped me get dinner started:):)
@Janet_2011 as always I agree, when I do try to talk to him he gets all defensive. I told him on the phone again and then that's when he said it was a bitch fest. Normally he calls me on second break and of course no call...he runs from any conversation I try to have about things like this. Or it turns into me being the problem not him, then I get all like well maybe it is my fault etc. I have thought about I am technically doing it on my own and actually doing it but in the past I've asked him to leave but he refuses. Tells me if we break up I'm the one who has to leave. Things got better for awhile and lately its been too stressful.
The whole bitch referral was him saying if the call we were having was gonna be a bitch fest then he was gonna let me go bc being at work he didn't want to get into it. Bc I know there are other people around. I did notice it getting worse as the baby due date comes closer...I am not trying to excuse the way he acts but do also know I am stressed and find myself really anxious lately bc I'm so scared I'm gonna have three kids and I'm really wondering if I can handle it. We were doing great prior to this pregnancy and he was still a man and lazy but his demeanor was different. He says he is happy about the baby but maybe has the same thoughts as me...I'm happy but soo scared:(
but he helps around the house and with the kids regardless if he works or not.. regardless if he is on his man period or not.
@sehra4177 oh wow , you must be so scared with all the stuff going on... And if he got a panic attack with two kids..I wonder how is going to be with 3. Girl we are made for this. You will do perfect:)