guess im the bitch :(
Lilly is almost 8 months old and her dad is a good dad. We live together, share $, I stay home like I always wanted and over all I think were pretty happy. But I do a lot as most sahm do. I tried to tell him that I feel like when's he's here sometimes, he's not very engaged with Lilly, like he puts her in her little excer-saucer thing and goes out for a smoke. She's safe and happy but he does it a lot and its starting to bother me more and more. He doesn't get how much I do..laundry, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills on time, dealing with the realitor and the house we have been trying to get for 5 months now! (Fuck bank of america and their short sale underwriters, that's a whole different story) *sigh* so he says I never let him do what he wants to do and he's better off just not trying to be himself cause I just get mad. I love him but I feel like he's being really childish and self involved. I feed, bathe, change and play with Lilly all day everyday and when I ask for 15 mins for a shower he rolls his eyes, says 'can I have a smoke first?' And takes 20 minutes outside playing on his phone. I could have showered with her playing in the bath room by then! Just feeing like he doesn't get it. I know he works hard and I appreciate that but his job doesn't end at 5 when he clocks out. Sorry I'm all over the place, just bummed and no one to talk too 
he went for a drive to clear his head.
he went for a drive to clear his head.
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@smcox I have even used the same 'clocking out' analogy and he says I have time when the baby sleeps o_O ok..I guess..that's a long 15-30 minutes every 5 hours to get stuff done, lemme tell ya. It is 24/7 and Lillys been up several tmes at night cause she's teething and getting a cold. She's so stuffy..poor little thing