when to tell siblings????

missthiggymissthiggy
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
So me and the hubby are butting heads. I am 6w 2d. We have told family and a limited # of friends. I am dying to tell my boys who are 8 7 and 4 that they are gonna have another bro or sis coming. However my hubby wants to wait another month. He is scared if something happens they wudnt understand. I feel that it wud be a life lesson if we lose this baby to help them uderstand heaven and that god chose this baby to come live with him right away cause he/she was so special. I am also afraid of someone mentioning it to them before we do and we lose that special moment. So my question is when did u tell ur children u were pregnant??

Comments

  • survivormommie3survivormommie3
    Wow. U are early to be telling ppl. But that's up to you regardless. I understand where your hubby is coming from. We told our kids at 11 wks and family at 12 wks. So I think compromise and maybe wait till 8 wks?
  • mommy2audreymommy2audrey
    My mother always waited till she was showing a lill... I'm sure if something did happen I'm sure ur boys would understand. They have a way of suprizing ya ;)
  • mommy3mommy3
    My mom always waited to tell me, because after some of her miscarriages (she had 6 before my sister came along) they would tell me that the baby lived with God now & they'd try bringing me a new one, but with all the other moms having babies & my little friends being brothers & sisters, I always got mad/upset that everyone else was getting to have baby siblings & I wasn't. So they started waiting to tell me, just in case!!
  • fitmamafitmama
    My boys are 7 and 10 and I told them at 11 weeks ( I was dying to tell them earlier).
  • KaycieNTNKaycieNTN
    We told my 3 yr old last year at 6 weeks...that pregnancy ended up being an ectopic that I had to have emergency surgery for.....very hard for a 3 yr old brain....he still asks occasionally where the baby went:(
    We are now 8 weeks with a healthy intrauterine pregnancy but are still waiting until 12 weeks to tell our now 4 yr old ....
    Kids are surprisingly able to take bad news alot of times...but why expose them to reality if they don't have to be is our thought....
    Our family and friends that do know totally respect our wishes and would never say anything to him....
    Good luck in your pregnancy whatever you decide!!
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