@heather3rdgirl I told him why I was mad he said ” I don't even know what you're talking about, I'm not coming home since you're just going to start a fight” He's guilty and doesn't want to face me!
wtffffffffffffffffffffffffff im just reading this now, i'd love to lay them both out for you lol. i hate home wrecking whores grr. your man is a douche. !!!!!!!!
He would have never woke up, if it were me. I would leave him for sure. I mean this in the nicest way so please don't be offended but, you sound desperate when you talk like that. No way should he even have the chance to explain anything. He obviously has no respect for you or your children. He is putting everyone at risk of std and at risk for his whore to get jealous and that puts his family at risk. If you've ever seen "obsessed" you know what I'm talking about. You deserve soo much better and for you to even think you should settle for him is beyond crazy to me. leave him I'm sure there is somewhere you can go. Even if you sister just moved in with her bf I'm sure she would be willing to help you until you can figure something else out. Please don't be afraid to ask for help from family. My aunt has been going through this for 25 years. She won't leave him and it's never changed its actually worse now. You giving him the opportunity to talk and him saying he is not coming home proves he is not going to change.
He finally came home around 7:30 about 3hr's after he'd left, and confessed. He told me he was sorry and that he was stupid for even talking to her, or hanging out..I didn't know this but she works at the headshop up the street..so I'm going to,keep an eye on him, and see if he ever comes home smelling like it. Until then he's in serious lock down, and I'm going to be driving him to work and taking our car when I want so he doesn't have a chance to act like a douche anymore. I'm still pretty pissed, but since he confessed with out me having to scream at him it makes me feel a little better.
And yes @armahnismommy I did keep her number..so if this shit happens again she's going to have a VERY angry pregnant chick calling!
That's deff a good idea take the car you drop him off brilliant. He should change his phone and where was he this whole time you think with her you should get him to call her onfront of you on speaker and say its over
What I've done: Wake him up and tell him he needed to leave now....then got up and start throwing his clothes at him saying "get your shit and get the fuck out" ...sorry for cursing on here, but that's what I did LOL
If that girl is messing with ur man knowing hes with u. She would just play along with the break up n just make him make it up to her later.. I had to Deal with this stupid shyt in the beginning of my relationship. When a whore wants ur man she dont Care what u have to say. Ur man have to want to cut her loose & id b on him like white on rice for f'n up.
If someone wants to cheat, nothing will stop them. The constant control, watching him, hovering, driving him to work...it won't stop him. I consider it to be even more detrimental to the relationship. Maybe getting counseling, individual AND couples, can help sort out why this happened and how to prevent it happening again?
People don't cheat for the hell of it. There is ALWAYS a reason. Something underneath. You don't get the underlying issue solved, it will happen again.
Some things to keep in mind about surviving infidelity:
Many couples are able to recover from infidelity and can develop a stronger relationship with more intimacy and closeness.
Several factors influence how successful couples are at saving a relationships after an affair: the quality of the relationship prior to the discovery of infidelity, both partner’s commitment to making a relationship work, effective communication skills, and counseling are critical to successful recovery (see, is relationship worth saving).
The true motivation underlying infidelity can sometimes be hard to identify. As such, couples may come up with explanations which do not adequately explain what happened (see, why people cheat). If this is the case, the underlying problem does not get addressed and cheating is likely to happen again. Even ending a relationship may not resolve the problem because infidelity can often follow individuals into their next relationship.
Serial cheating is much more difficult to resolve than a onetime affair as it is often linked to personality characteristics, which can be very difficult to change (see, who is likely to cheat).
While infidelity often occurs in healthy relationships, infidelity can also be an indicator of larger relational problems such as a fundamental incompatibility or a lack of love and companionship.
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He finally came home around 7:30 about 3hr's after he'd left, and confessed. He told me he was sorry and that he was stupid for even talking to her, or hanging out..I didn't know this but she works at the headshop up the street..so I'm going to,keep an eye on him, and see if he ever comes home smelling like it. Until then he's in serious lock down, and I'm going to be driving him to work and taking our car when I want so he doesn't have a chance to act like a douche anymore. I'm still pretty pissed, but since he confessed with out me having to scream at him it makes me feel a little better.
And yes @armahnismommy I did keep her number..so if this shit happens again she's going to have a VERY angry pregnant chick calling!
If someone wants to cheat, nothing will stop them. The constant control, watching him, hovering, driving him to work...it won't stop him. I consider it to be even more detrimental to the relationship. Maybe getting counseling, individual AND couples, can help sort out why this happened and how to prevent it happening again?
Some things to keep in mind about surviving infidelity:
Many couples are able to recover from infidelity and can develop a stronger relationship with more intimacy and closeness.
Several factors influence how successful couples are at saving a relationships after an affair: the quality of the relationship prior to the discovery of infidelity, both partner’s commitment to making a relationship work, effective communication skills, and counseling are critical to successful recovery (see, is relationship worth saving).
The true motivation underlying infidelity can sometimes be hard to identify. As such, couples may come up with explanations which do not adequately explain what happened (see, why people cheat). If this is the case, the underlying problem does not get addressed and cheating is likely to happen again. Even ending a relationship may not resolve the problem because infidelity can often follow individuals into their next relationship.
Serial cheating is much more difficult to resolve than a onetime affair as it is often linked to personality characteristics, which can be very difficult to change (see, who is likely to cheat).
While infidelity often occurs in healthy relationships, infidelity can also be an indicator of larger relational problems such as a fundamental incompatibility or a lack of love and companionship.
http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/recovery-and-repair/surviving-infidelity.html