Davey's Birth Story
After having 3 daughters, I finally have a son.
I planned to have a water birth with the encouragement of my midwife. On July 22nd, my water broke at 35 weeks, 3 days. Absolutely devastating. We left to the hospital and contractions started immediately. They did an ultrasound, baby looked good. They moved me to my own room and we played the waiting game from 1:30am until 7:30am. I had still planned to have a natural delivery. It was pretty painful, so I asked if I could get in the shower. "No, because you're in labor and this is your fourth baby. You have to stay in bed." I burst into tears. How was labor to progress if I had to stay in bed? How would I be able to relieve any pain if I'm laboring on my back? I cried for 30 minutes. My husband was so mad. All he could do was kiss me and apologize that I was having such a hard time. Labor and delivery of your child should be an amazing, memorable time. The doctor came in and "made a deal with me". She said if I let them start pitocin, I could move (on the bed) to my side and they would screw an internal monitor into my baby's head. UM NO! Nothing is being screwed into my son's head unless absolutely necessary. She decided that I needed pitocin anyways. If you don't know, pitocin is the most vile, painful, intense thing that you will ever come across. Before I let them start it, I talked to my husband privately and we were forced to the conclusion that if I were to get pitocin, combined with not being allowed to move, I would need drugs. I told the doctor that I wanted the Intrathecal before pitocin was started. Well, they don't have it. I opted for the Epidural, crying the whole time even just thinking about it. They gave me the Epidural, and started pitocin. My husband came to me with a card from the gift shop, here's what it said: "(Outside) Flowers love rain. (Inside) People, not so much. Just wait. Your blue skies are on their way. (Handwritten) Vinessa, I know things are not going your way right now, but just remember as long everything comes out right and Davey is healthy, then it's ok. I know you are going to do great!! I Love You Dear!!! And your blue sky (Davey) will be here soon! Love, Puffin." I cried and cried some more. He was so right. I drifted to sleep for 2 hours and 45 minutes. I couldn't feel a thing. They woke me up, checked me, and I was complete. Davey's head was actually in the birth canal, and visible. Time to push, I gave a half assed, slow, painless push (I still couldn't feel anything at all), and out he came weighing 5lbs, 13oz and 19½ inches long. He has his Daddy's lips, nose, eyebrows, HUGE feet and the longest fingers I have ever seen. And he picked up two dimples on his cheeks. Lady killer already. I am glad he's here and home with me, and so glad it's over. My family is complete.
I planned to have a water birth with the encouragement of my midwife. On July 22nd, my water broke at 35 weeks, 3 days. Absolutely devastating. We left to the hospital and contractions started immediately. They did an ultrasound, baby looked good. They moved me to my own room and we played the waiting game from 1:30am until 7:30am. I had still planned to have a natural delivery. It was pretty painful, so I asked if I could get in the shower. "No, because you're in labor and this is your fourth baby. You have to stay in bed." I burst into tears. How was labor to progress if I had to stay in bed? How would I be able to relieve any pain if I'm laboring on my back? I cried for 30 minutes. My husband was so mad. All he could do was kiss me and apologize that I was having such a hard time. Labor and delivery of your child should be an amazing, memorable time. The doctor came in and "made a deal with me". She said if I let them start pitocin, I could move (on the bed) to my side and they would screw an internal monitor into my baby's head. UM NO! Nothing is being screwed into my son's head unless absolutely necessary. She decided that I needed pitocin anyways. If you don't know, pitocin is the most vile, painful, intense thing that you will ever come across. Before I let them start it, I talked to my husband privately and we were forced to the conclusion that if I were to get pitocin, combined with not being allowed to move, I would need drugs. I told the doctor that I wanted the Intrathecal before pitocin was started. Well, they don't have it. I opted for the Epidural, crying the whole time even just thinking about it. They gave me the Epidural, and started pitocin. My husband came to me with a card from the gift shop, here's what it said: "(Outside) Flowers love rain. (Inside) People, not so much. Just wait. Your blue skies are on their way. (Handwritten) Vinessa, I know things are not going your way right now, but just remember as long everything comes out right and Davey is healthy, then it's ok. I know you are going to do great!! I Love You Dear!!! And your blue sky (Davey) will be here soon! Love, Puffin." I cried and cried some more. He was so right. I drifted to sleep for 2 hours and 45 minutes. I couldn't feel a thing. They woke me up, checked me, and I was complete. Davey's head was actually in the birth canal, and visible. Time to push, I gave a half assed, slow, painless push (I still couldn't feel anything at all), and out he came weighing 5lbs, 13oz and 19½ inches long. He has his Daddy's lips, nose, eyebrows, HUGE feet and the longest fingers I have ever seen. And he picked up two dimples on his cheeks. Lady killer already. I am glad he's here and home with me, and so glad it's over. My family is complete.
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Congratulations, he's perfect!
@HomeBirthAdvocate I expected a magical, relaxed labor, since he is my last baby. I never thought it would end this way. I want him back in my belly and to do things the way Davey and I planned. I promised everyday that his birth would be stress-free and it just didn't happen. I cried/slept through the entire thing. I wish I could go back. Also, I don't know if it's protocol or not, but they sent a social services worker to my room to talk to me about drugs the day after he was born. She kept repeating "I'll call you after you and the baby's blood tests results come back if anything shows up". Why do they assume I was on drugs? I realize I probably looked like death and I was most definitely being a pain in the ass, but I did everything they asked of me. They took my placenta, I had planned to encapsulate it.
@JoshnEviesmum He already brings me joy and I have a hard time putting him down. I didn't get to hold him or touch him at first. I understand that he was early, and needed assessed right away, but I wish I could have touched him. His Daddy didn't get to cut the cord, he's pretty upset about that. They even gave him a bath before I got to hold him.
Congrats again on a handsome man. Did u pose hin for that pic? My son would put his hand on his head like he was praying for strength to deal and he gave us the finger all the time.