@fingerscrossed Haha funny u should mention that cuz its been almost 6yrs from when we broke up and he still doesn't have a girl and I know some of his porn addiction is the reason y. I'm just soo glad I found my hubby cuz he's great and we listen to each other :-)
Men are going to be men. My husband loves looking at porn which sometimes I do not mind but if I start to see the same girl in different movies I will get upset n band him from watching her. Our husbands r married to us, so they need some kind of outlet sometimes, could be porn, looking at naked girl pics, or sometimes their buddies might even send them the pics... If they dont have those outlet sometimes they might end up doin worse. My husband has pics of big booty girls in his ipod, I was pissed n said how the hell u have these damn big booty hoes on here n u dont have no pics of me. So out of respect he deleted them off of there but he still has them saved to his laptop but he had pics of me, family, n friends so it didnt hurt as much. If ur husband knoes it will hurt u he shouldnt have saved them but then again if he has to do it behind ur back n be sneaky about it, then u got to think what else is he doing???best of luck to u.
I have to say I'm so surprised to all the responses a lot of you are ok with it or willing to be ok with it because he is not actually sleeping with someone but I'm not a person willing to settle for anything less then I deserve or want so if he married me then I should not have to feel gratefully that he is not sleeping around on me. I'm very thankful for all your opinions.
@cfa You are welcome. I am sorry if I came across as though I was "grateful" my fiance is not sleeping around on me because it looks at pornography - or if I implied in any way you should be grateful your husband is not sleeping around on you. Since this is a non-issue for my fiance and I, I do not feel like I am getting any less than I deserve because of our previously established mutual understanding. I should have been a little more clear on my part, as he and I are both terribly, chronically loyal to each other, so I meant by my comment to imply I am all right with pornography but not so much with cheating (read: at ALL with cheating). Some people equate looking at pornography as non-physical cheating, and I wanted make a point that I do not believe it is, specific to our situation.
You are very, very right in saying you should never have to settle for anything less you deserve or want, and since this goes against what you want, the issue should be addressed because it is NOT a mutual understanding. It is not the right thing in your situation, and he should be open to hearing your side of things. I am quite glad you are steadfast in your beliefs. Too many people nowadays let themselves be walked on because they would rather settle than cause conflict, and I have respect for strong women who stand up for what they believe in, no matter what the belief is. I hope you two are able to work things out in a mutually beneficial way. Hopefully he realizes that, for you, this is a matter of respect and trust, and he listens to you with an open heart. He should never make you feel insecure by his actions, and if he does, he should be willing to understand by those actions made you feel that way. As @kingsmama suggested, you might want to address this problem before he heads to work again so it does not hold a negative cloud over your head while he is away. A happy @cfa is a relaxed @cfa.
I wish you the best, and please let us know how it goes! I know the women here, myself included, are more than willing to offer advice in any way possible in hopes to help a fellow Pregly user!
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You are very, very right in saying you should never have to settle for anything less you deserve or want, and since this goes against what you want, the issue should be addressed because it is NOT a mutual understanding. It is not the right thing in your situation, and he should be open to hearing your side of things. I am quite glad you are steadfast in your beliefs.
I wish you the best, and please let us know how it goes! I know the women here, myself included, are more than willing to offer advice in any way possible in hopes to help a fellow Pregly user!