would like your opinion please

sweetsurprise

My sis an I are very close. She moved 5 states away ( her hubby is in the navy) . They experienced a miscarrige a year ago so me being pregnant has been a little hard on her. That and the fact that she's so far away she feels like she won't have as close a relationship w/ this baby as she does w/ my daughter. I want to schedule an u/s for when she's here in may but now I'm thinking it might be a little insensative because of her mc. What do you ladies think?

finallypregnant2

I think you should she said she wants to be close to your new baby as well so let her and give her encourageing words for her own pregnancy success.

firstmama

I would ask her first. Sometimes it takes a while for ppl to just get past grieving and it may be hard on her. But at the same time, she may be one of those blessed sweet sis and want to share your excitement. Does she have other children? Make sure u ask her if its ok first.

Josie749

when I had my first miscarriage at 16 weeks I was devastated but it still meant alot to me when my sister in law asked me to go to with her to her baby's 4d u/s a few months later, it was painful I'm not going to deny it but still very sweet to share that moment with her, I suggest you ask her and see how she feels good luck

kalasthename

Ask her what's she thinks and if she wants to be there then schedule it around her schedule...if not don't be upset...its just hard on her but keep her involved...as much as she's grieving she's still your sister and she more than likely still wants to be part of it...she just needs time to heal...

sweetsurprise

At first I thought it was a great idea and was just going to surprise her but lately she's been a little frustrated because two girls she works with just found out they're pregnant. She wants so bad to be a mommy. She doesn't have any kids yet. I know she wants to be close w/ baby but I think seeing an u/s might be too much. I'm so sad. She was w/ me every step w/ my daughter.

sweetsurprise

Thanks ladies! You're a big help.

kalasthename

I have a really good friend that's been trying for a baby for 10 years now...3 failed attempts of in vitro...I almost felt guilty when I told her I was pregnant with my 2nd healthy baby...she was excited for us tho and she's one of the best babysitter ever...

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i know exactly how you feel. my best friend/co worker at that just had a mc 2 weeks ago. before her mc all we did was talk about baby stuff and we were both really excited since we were only about 2 months apart. when she came back to work after healing, its sad, but we dont even talk anymore. i tried talking to her saying hi and trying to start conversations but it doesnt feel the same anymore. its all about finding the right words. im sure your sister is soo happy for you. just dont forget "pregnancy" will be a very touchy subject.

sweetsurprise

Pregnancy has always been a touchy subject. She had stomach issues since she was 15. She had her colon removed and docs told her her body may not be strong enought to carry a baby. We've always joked that I would always be pregnant cause I would have to carry her babies for her. I think I'm going to forego the u/s and save the money to get her a plane ticket for when the baby is actually here.

DawnwaarsBaby

@sweetsurprise... the same thing happened with me and my bf 2 years ago... I lost the baby and she has a beautiful baby boy... it was difficult for me but I was always happy for her... Share ur happiness, don't gloat even though that's what we want to do when were prego... I cried most of her remaining prego, not becuz I was envious but becuz I was sad that I lost mine... eventually, she will be better...