i need help

TeriSue

Ok so I need some advice... I've been together with my now husband for 8 1/2 yrs..we've been married for 4 yrs. We have two kids already and I'm pregnant with the #3 due in july. He cheated on me about 3 months after we got married, now ever since then I have been losing my feeling for him. At this point I don't know why I'm still with him. All we do is fight over everything. He doesn't like to help me with the kids now soo obviously he's not gonna help me with this next one. I don't know what to do..should I ask him for a divorce???

TechGirlPa

Hi Hon. Well I guess maybe you should try to really picture yourself living without him. If the thoughts make you happy then maybe you should. If in the end you feel sad about Not being with him then maybe you should hold off. Sometimes we don't know what we really want until it stares us in the face. Also if you feel that way because you don't trust him its not likely to change at least for a long time.

TeriSue

Well we've been married for 4 yrs and I have never been able to trust him again.
. And I don't think I ever will.. plus he left for a month and everyone kept telling me that they say the the difference in me..that I was happier.

TechGirlPa

Well then there's your answer. If you believe you were happier then likely you were. Since i read your post I asked myself if I would ever trust my partner again and the answer for me is no. If you're like me at all, I personally wouldn't be happy spending every day wondering When it might happen again. You have to do what makes you happy. A lot of people say stay together for the kids, but kids pick up on the unhappiness.

MommaCass

I'm in the exact same boat as you. Except I left for 2yrs..back now and really wondering why. Oh and to add he may actually have a child with the other girl, but refuses a paternity test. We have 2 kids and one on the way July 19th..after that I'm out.

vette_devil

I agree with @TechGirlPa... there's never an easy answer, but a quote that stuck in my head from years ago goes "Children would rather be FROM a broken home than IN one"... hope that helps & good luck

TeriSue

@MommaCass
I think that's what I might do. I'm due july 18 th

TeriSue

@TechGirlPa thank you for your advice it helps a lot. I know my kids can tell that I'm not happy.

MommaCass

@vette_devil that is great advice.. and @ TeriSue thanks for posting this..I needed advice too but was unsure how to go about it.

MommaCass

@vette_devil that is great advice.. and @TeriSue thanks for posting this..I needed advice too but was unsure how to go about it.

TeriSue

Yea I think a lot if pregnant women are in this situation and are dying for good advice.

TechGirlPa

You're welcome Hon. My partners kids witnessed him being abused and I've seen the damage its done to his oldest son. I think kids should be in a home full of love not sadness.