Feeling lonely. Military spouses

bradford2

My husband is at AIT is will be gone for at lest 4 more months. We have at five month old baby girl and I just found out I am pregnant again. I will be 8 week's on my birthday feb 8 and I am starting to feel very lonely, I just want to cry all the time. Anyone have any advice on how to deal with a situation like this

imeanbzns

I hope you are feeling better
I am and haven't been in your situation but I would suggest to surround yourself with loved ones and friends. Don't isolate yourself it will worsen the situation. If you need a new friend or somebody to talk just feel free to say hi
I just found out I'm pregnant :-)

sgthalesbabies

If you're having problems with a 6 month separation, maybe you or he should rethink the Army career path. Deployments can last anywhere from a year to 2 years, and its a lot harder when they're in a war zone as opposed to a school. Keep in touch email, phone calls, visitation days, etc and use the love of family and friends to help you through. You need to talk to him about this as well. Being a military spouse is one if the hardest jobs in the world, and when you add being a "single" mother to the equation, its just more than some can bare. He will deploy, I can guarantee that, so you need to decide if this is the life you want NOW, before it gets harder. My hubby has been in 3 tours (not to mention field training and schools) and my best friend since age 10 is military as well and has been on three tours to Iraq alone. You'll have more resources one you get your first assignment, like chaplains and the FRG. Good luck....

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Idk how you do it. You are so strong! My fiancee was inches away to signing our life away to the army last week...so glad he didn't, don't know how id do this without him! Good luck and congratulations(:

bradford2

I am not sure if the separation nothing me. I had some complication with my last pregnancy and was on bed rest half my pregnancy and the thought of no help is making it feel lonely. I am trying to be strong for my daughter and I and sometimes its a little overwhelming.

mommy3

Being a military wife gets harder as it goes.. my husband leaves not even a month after the baby is born for Afghanistan.. its getting ugly over there.. he'll miss so much! I'm gonna go home during his deployment to be with family, support is everything! You support your man & let family support you when he's away.. you'll need it! & making friends with couples when you get stationed somewhere is great! I've made plenty of friends here.. id just rather be home during that time.. its not easy! But if you need support.. we're all here (:

sgthalesbabies

Thanks...I could give you a ton of advice about this life, so if have any questions, shoot me an email. Good luck and congratulations to you as well. I've been dealing with this army life 5 years now. The soldier is briefed constantly and has time to adjust to military life with the transition of basic and AIT to ease them into this lifestyle, where as we are thrown to the "sharks" and expected to sink or swim. I also recommend going to the library or bookstore because there are some great books on being a military spouse and help explaining to your little ones what's going on with daddy.

MommmyX3

My husband was in the Marine Corps for the past 6 years. He just got out but already wants to go back in. I feel the opposite as mommy3...i feel it got easier as time went on. His first deployment crushed me. I was so lost and told myself there was no way I could live like that. He came home for 7 months then went back to Iraq for a second deployment. That one was sooo much easier. We only had 1 daughter at the time. I didnt see it as being a single mom while he was gone..it was more like my daughter kept me verrry busy and made time fly. This is only the beginning for you guys so its scary and new. You will adjust. Hang in there!!