Got myself into a bit of a pickle here need advice.
it might be kind of long so stick with me. I have a 5 year old son from a previous relationship and his father is not involved in his life. I am now pregnant with my bf of almost of 2 years.. We were havin alot of ups and downs in past 6 months and tLked about breakin up alot. He was veryean to me and was never like a father figure to my son he always talked about how hr couldnt stand him so we decided to break up but then the next day we found out I was pregnant. He went crazy amd tild me to get a abortion.he finally got over the fact that he wasnt ready for this and came to grips with it and thought it would be a good thing for us and he wanted to.make it work with me and my son so I told him u need to change and change right noe or im nit doing this he agreed and its bern about 2 weeks and is doing alittle better but he always lasted a week or 2 and something always goy screwed up. Bit inbetween this time I met this guy about a week ago and he wants to be with me hes knows I have a child and hr k.ows im pregnant and he doesnt care he will support us all. Hes so much diffrent then.my bf now and it really takes a good man to want to b with a girl with all this baggage. I really want to give this guy a chance but at the dame time I feel wrong and I should try to make it work with me babys father even.though I do.t know if its gunna work.i deserve to be happy and I deseerve a man thats gunna treat my son right and I know I havrnt known thus guy for ling but I know he will make us happy and feel wanted unlikr my bf. What do u girls think I should do
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Okay I'm gonna tell you my opinion from personal experience. I got pregnant at 17 and it wasn't working with my boyfriend and I met this other guy. We were just friends to start with he told me all the things I wanted to hear ex. "I don't care your pregnant I like you for you and a baby won't change that, and well I will be.there for.you and your baby no matter what..... Blah" it was nice to hear cuz my thought was yeah right who wants to be with a 17 year old pregnant girl. That's a lot of baggage. But I ended up dating him. And he never was mean about my kid but I ended up losing that baby at 6 months but I could tell also he.didn't really want to play daddy role to a baby I already had. We are engaged now and expecting our first baby together and we was scared at first and kinda hateful but mostly scared now he.is so excited and can't wait till we have our little one. But our situations aren't the exact.same cuz me and my fiance now don't really fight but. Personally I say give daddy a.chance to be a daddy it might get a lot better.. just my thoughts . Sorry this is so super long hope it helps a little
I'm not saying that if any of these are no to go to the other guy. What I'm saying is when a woman is pregnant she needs love and support comfort and to know that she is not alone in this. And if he doesn't show that then you need to think about what is best for your life and your baby. I'm not saying jump into a relationship with new guy bc he is willing to give you the moon. I'm just saying tell this guy that you like him but that right now you need to take things slow and focus on you family and see what happens with your guys.
My bf isnt very caring for me or the baby. But im not quite sure he knows how to be I always complained that he nevet showed me that loved me but he always told me hes not good at showing that stuff. He will tell me loves me all the time but it is just vety hard to velieve when he hardly ever wants to hangout with me or never does anything romantic or out of the ordinary.. I do feel very alone I this pregnancy. He does come to dr app with me but at the first ultrasound he wasnt very happy about it. He wasnt ok with the fact that I was prego yet and I think the only reason y he came was to know for sure that I was ay our second ultrasound he was alot better and we do talk about it spmetimes but its only for like a min and then.hr trys to change the subject and he never aaks me how im feeling or rubs my belly or even ecknowledges(sp?) That im prego. Sometimes he will b like wow ur getting big but thats it. And this new guy I was very straight foward with him and I did tell him everything how I want to take it slow and he even said that is fine I can wait. And I know some of u say he could be a mellaster I guess thats always something to look out for even though he seems like he wouldnt do that and Im not gunna let him meet my son for a long time. I just dont want to pass up a good thing.