Is it ok to be upset ?

babyjoshiesmom

So this is my first baby and he will be here soon. Im so excited, but I just found out that my BD'S sister is pregnant. She already has two and before I got pregnant she was always saying how she doesnt want anymore and how she is done having kids since her youngest is now 7. Now she just told me she had been trying for a girl since I got pregnant with my lil boy. Ugh... Im a little upset she is trying to take my first time mommy joys .

bummy87

u can be upset. I kindof feel bad im preg when its my sisters first but I couldnt help it. by the time im finished though shell be telling ppl so its not 2 bad

jcmommy

Yes, its ok to be upset. But in the end its all about you and that lil baby that will be so precious, you'll not worry about her and her kid.

babyjoshiesmom

@bummy87 I wouldnt be upset if I new she was trying before I got pregnant. I feel as if she did it because I got pregnant. Congrats on your baby and enjoy your pregnancy

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bummy87

thanks yeah it sux but 1 good thing is ur baby will have a friend

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babyjoshiesmom

I dont let on that it bothers me, I smile and talk to her about it. Im gonna be the bigger person. Im going to have my little one and he will make it all better I already know. Thanks ladies

Mimii36

I wouldnt be mad. Im sure she not trying to take your shine. But my sil is about 24 weeks & im 12. I felt bad because she came over to let us know what she was having & I had just came from my first doc appt. She comes in & sees the papers on the couch & says " I came to share big news with yall & instead the bomb is dropped on me." She wasnt upset but I felt so bad. I didnt want her to feel like I was trying to take anything away from her.

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Oh emmm gee, I personally would be pretty not mad or upset but a little irritated that this girl who has been yaking in my ear saying she didn't want no more kids all of a sudden pops up pregnant. I was like that with my bff. After I got pregnant she decided she wanted one too! She's 2 months behind me. Its my first baby too so you know us first time mommy's go nuts! Her excuse was "it'd be cute & fun!" What theee effing hay right?!? I told her! "Tricckk! You stealing my thunder!" But me having my sense of humor she took it as a joke. And I'm not mad I just feel like hey its shayshays time! I wanted a baby for sooo long! And she hates kids!!! Waaaaah!

jessm22

I get you there ny hubbys cousin was prego when I was with my daughter and we were like a month apart well when I went into labor she decided to induce so now they are like a week apart and all his family ever talks about is brandys baby its like hey I have a baby too what about her? Oh and dis I mention after she found out I named my baby Isabella Marie she went and named hers annabella Marie? Yeah and I got told not to be mad well screw that shit I'm pissed his family has bacicly forgotten about her so I say be mad be very mad it is your right

2boysn1girl

When I was pregnant with my first my older sister who already had 1 kid and refused to have more got mad cause my mom was paying a lot of attention to me...my pregnancy wasn't easy...well anyway she decided to get pregnant again just because I was! Then tried to say Hey husband tricked her but we all knew she did it for the attention...then tried to tell my mom that I wasn't really in labor that I was lying...well I was and I have a niece who is 3 months younger then my daughter...and when I found out I was pregnant with my son she said I planned it because of my niece which isn't true I bawled when I found out I was pregnant again at 17...well now I'm due 5 days before my nieces birthday with my 3rd baby and she says if I have my baby anywhere around my nieces birthday she will beat my ass and have nothing to do with the "thing" growing inside of me...I say don't show it cause it will start problems but yes you have a right to be upset...some people just have to be the center of attention so let her have it and just be happy with your baby!

BabyRosalee

My SIS was 13 wks when I got pregnant.12 wks later I told her about my baby and that I had had a mc 8 mons earlier. We r not that close and was so scared shed be mad. I've always wanted kids and been the more sensitive, free spirit. She always wanted the big white wedding, honeymoon and big house. I never wanted marriage. But when I told her everything, she was only sad I hadn't told her about mc and baby right away, confessed her bf wouldn't marry her and was mad when she got preg by accident. She was so happy about my baby and the pregnancy made us much closer. Then she announced her second pregnancy when I announced my engagement. In fact I inadvertently planned my wedding 2 wks before her due date. Then she was mad for a while. He still won't marry her but she is happy now I'm having a boy so well each have one of each. And our kids r the best of friends. It's up to us to keep them close until they're old enuf to do it on their own, no matter how we may fight. It's inevitable that these things happen. We r just so close in age. U can't help how u feel but u can help how u handle it and its best to be supportive and hope its returned if not u r still the bigger person.

babyjoshiesmom

@jessm22 that is too much I don't know how I would react to that. She could of chose a different name.

jessm22

@babyjoshiesmom Exactly what I said but o don't get a say aparently so when relitives from out of town come in they think I'm her they completely forget my baby and I exsist