what the fuck!!! Seriously??? **update**

edited May 2011 in Pregnant
my freaking husband might be hiding something from me and i can't figure it out!!! it is deeply disturbing me... we talked on the phone then like an hour later i get a text from him "No not now" what the heck does that mean!! he was suppose to be sleeping then when i called him he was like what what happen like he was trying to fake that he was sleeping!!! what the heck!! he just told me something that just made me doubt him a whole lot and now this! he changed all his password to everything and i can't log in to nothing of his. i don't want to assume anything but what the heck! this has become sooo suspicious again!! if he really is cheating then i don't know what to do. After all i done for him and he does this to me! what the heck! sorry but that is what i could only really say now because my mind is thinking sooo much about everything that i a sooo lost and confused! i don't want to jump to any conclusions but damn! i don't want to get messed over twice! ladies i need some advice to talk to him, i tried all the talking but it is not working... i need some help!



Update--- so u couldn't wait till the morning day light... I called him and we discussed EVERYTHING in detail and finally I got to him. He have me his pw and I told him, we need to stabilize out marriage if you want us (baby & me). He said he is sorry, its just thst he feels that I give him a lot of pressure with the whole assuming thingy and the very nosy, curious attitude that I have been doing. I told him, because you started to act strange and I need to know what you are doing. Ladies don't get me wrong, I trust my man and I don't snoop around his stuff unless it is very neccassry but other then that, I could careless. He promised me that when he comes back he will make everything up for me, so lets hope. I feel better now and less worried. I did check his stuff and if course nothing. I asked ginn about lastnight and he said that ge text me earlier and that was a late text, it got to me late so yeap no worries now. Thanks ladies so much for your kind words and everything. I always have the support if my pregly friends. @paganmom & @blissmarie23 & @mommabee13. Yoh guys helped out so much!
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  • i don't want to think that he is cheating on me, that will just break my heart. I can't cop with sadness nor stress... oh my god! this really can't be happening!
  • Calm down... breathe.... and hit the edit button to fix the profanity ...

    Also, confront him, in a calm way, about everything you just said on here
  • I been following your threads and I'm sorry :( I hate sneakiness! What did he tell you, if you dont mind sharing
  • This is your second or third post that makes me think he could be running around on you. How long have you all been married?
  • If you think he's cheating chances r ur gut is right. Suspicious (spelling) behavior is usually the best indication of something wrong. You know your husband and if he's faking sleep etc. Trust your gut confront him. Stress isn't good for the baby and worrying over something only causes stress. Good luck mama. Hope for you and the baby it turns out to be he's just acting retarded.
  • Keep it cool until you get all the facts, i have been cheated on and one thing i know is just play it cool...wait until you catch him then hit him with it... he just might be... and honestly womens intuition is almost always right...don't let him say its your hormones..or that your acting crazy...good luck sweety...i know how hard it is when your always wondering...
  • If you think he's cheating chances r ur gut is right. Suspicious (spelling) behavior is usually the best indication of something wrong. You know your husband and if he's faking sleep etc. Trust your gut confront him. Stress isn't good for the baby and worrying over something only causes stress. Good luck mama. Hope for you and the baby it turns out to be he's just acting retarded.
  • What do you mean by you don't want to be f'ed over twice. Has he cheated before?
  • @blissmarie23 i know and i just hate posting things up like this, he finally gave me his password and now i can't login to anything. I really don't know now... we been married for 4 yrs and i just can't believe this...

    @mommabee13 ok so here it goes... he is in the army, he went to korea for a year up there and when he was up there he cheated on me but i didn't know it. We weren't doing so well at that time and he did what he did and he knew it was wrong, i on the other hand, stayed and was a very very good wife to him. Through out that whole year he was up there, i kept asking him what was he doing cause he goes on for weeks without calling me, SO when he came back down i finally asked him and he told me more lies which i knew he did, he of course came out with the truth so i forgave him but i never forget so that is why the trust issues are still on thin ice because it just never went away and this was like 2 yrs ago. So he tells me these stories how he acted up their and i of course believed him then just like 2 hours ago he told me they were all lies!!! so i am in such doubt and such fear cause i don't know the man i married, now i get this weird text and he is acting all dumb about saying i am just getting more annoying with this! hello idiot! you lied to me countless times but i forgave your dumb butt and stayed with you and now suspicious again... i just hate the word cheating...
  • I think you deserve better than this guy. He hasn't been very nice to you and he has cheated overseas and possibly here. If he were committed to changing his relationship with you after him cheating then he should be willing to do what it takes to let you know that he is trustworthy. I would cut him loose.
  • @paganmom i don't know, i don't want to believe but reality hits you hard and fast.
  • @blissmarie23 i know, he use to be such a great man and now i'm just like who is this man that i married? he is not the same person i knew before, Ugh i hate doubts!
  • Im sorry to hear that....I would be so heartbroken if my hubby wasn't faithful. I don't know what I would do
  • @ mammanouchee...I know what you mean about reality. I have had too much of it lately. Trust yourself and sleep tonite. See how you feel in the morning. Then if you want investigate. You will know what's right. I hope it turns out well for you. There is enough of us alone out here already. I am here if you need to talk.
  • Just curious, where is he supposed to be sleeping at? Are u not at home with him? Am just kind of confused...
  • Sounds like my ex...lies and lies than makes it seem like your fault cause they're pissed that they got caught...honestly(which no one wants to hear) but you might have to cut your losses. Tell him it needs to change now or your done. I had 2 kids ,a house, 8yr relationship...and he wouldn't change so I just left..now I'm pregnant with a girl and living with my current bf and couldn't be happier with him
  • @paganmom i can't sleep, this is too much! i can't get this off from my mind. Im trying not to cry but i can't help it... it hurts to much just to even think about it and then boom here it comes in a heart beat. I want to get to the bottom line of this but i have no access what so ever. I hate how this is ending up... i just wish to b away...
  • @blissmarie23 i hate that too. It just breaks my heart deeply, i can't even mend my own broken pieces no more. Oh man! i am soooo disturbed by this... ~X(
  • @mommabee13 i always think of that... i hate being in denial...
  • @babygirl716 he is in the army.
  • Believe me I totally get it. I realized how he was about 2yrs in and stayed 6 more hoping things would get fixed.
  • @mammanouchee do you guys have a bank account together? If so, do you have online banking? You can find out a bit more info if you check the bank account, I tell you this because I was cheated before and I found my answer that way. Maybe you can too.. The truth always comes out, one way or another!
  • @mommabee13 i am so lost, you think you know him but really you don't.
  • @semperfiwife we don't, i know stupid me.
  • I know hun :( its hard to get advice about this from people(my friends family and I even saw counselors that time me to leave) cause in the end your the one who gas to say enough us enough.
  • Time=told...stupid phone!
  • @mammanouchee...I am so sorry honey. I wish I could make you feel better. I know how I feel everytime I find out about the next lie my babys father has decided to tell me. I hate to say it but mine is in the navy and he lies continuously.
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    @mommabee13 i think i need that. i had a bad childhood, in fact my childhood was taken away from me. I never spent it as a kid. I grew up so fast cause of what happened and i never trusted men in my whole life after that...
  • @paganmom men, always lie and never faithful. I'm completely shattered... enough is enough right? I keep telling myself, no this is not real, not let me just wait until he calls me back but something just keeps telling me that he is, I should not let my fear take control.
  • I'm sorry but once a cheater always a cheater. My ex army husband did the same thing. When I was questioning my therapist said a women's intuition is strong. Trust it. Then ask yourself are you truly deeply happy in your relationship from an outsider doesn't sound like you are. Sorry for the non sugar coated truth
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