If u want to move u better do it now because once the baby is born its illegal to move states without the father signing a for and giving u permission. If I were u I would leave u need to look what's best for your child if he hasn't come around to help yet most likely he wont at all.if he loves u and his daughter he will pull himself together get a job start helping and act like a man. If he can't do that I would move even though it might be hard u need your family's help n love more than you need a pot smoking dead beat.
I went thru the same predicament wit my son's father...I was all about giving chances and letting him be apart of his child's life. It ended up being a huge disappointment because at the end of the day he was selfish and I had to always do things his way. I lasted up to a 1yr playing the game of "family". I honestly wished I would have not been so horomonal and so blinded by love.. and would have realized I needed to move on and do what was best for my son. It was emotionally draining and physically tiring for me and my son. No child deserves to endure that! So wit that being said be a smart cookie , take charge of your life and put your daughter first at all times!! Maybe you'll be sad and lonely for a bit, but you realize what you did is the best decision for your child. Start fresh and put the past behind you
Leave!! It sounds as if he isnt going to be an actual father anytime soon. So being worried about the baby missing out or depriving him his rights probably wont be that relevant anyways...not to say that he wont eventually get his stuff together, i hope and pray he does! For your little peanut, but right now, the very best thing for you and the baby is to be in the most positive situation as possible. If he really cares, he will find a way to be in the babies life. Plus, having strong family support behind you is a huuuge blessing. For the both of you. It sounds like the baby will be plenty loved:)
just do what you feel is best. thats the only advice i can give you. i grew up without my father & it didnt bug me much. only thing that sucked is my mom was in & out of jail so i didnt have either parents. if you leave the birth certificate unknown father wise. he will not have any rights to her regardless. dont even bother putting him if you dont want him involved. my dad isnt on mine.
Not to sound negitive but you should save yourself a lot of wasted time and hardship. You need to do what's good for you and your baby. If you are going to have better opportunities and your parents will help you go. Sounds like your bd needs a reality check ...if he really wants to be part of your baby's life he will get his shit together and prove it.
I would say go. Having support is just one less worry for you and baby. If the daddy wants to be involved, he can get a job and save up some money to move down there if he's serious. You need to give your baby the best start possible.
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if you leave the birth certificate unknown father wise. he will not have any rights to her regardless. dont even bother putting him if you dont want him involved. my dad isnt on mine.