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crazyhmommycrazyhmommy
edited May 2011 in Parenting
My first daughter, 13 months old, was very mean to our youngest,3 weeks old Hope, at the beginning. It was horrible, she'd steal her sisters bottles, blankets, pacifyers everything. But now she tries to feed her and give her things, the thing is, now she tries to play with her and pats her so rough, I think it was better when she wouldn't go near her lil sis she was less dangerous. Now we have to make sure Hailey didn't and doesn't put anyrhing on Hope ordoesnt try to sleep with Hope. She tries to crawl into Hopes bassinat. I know she doesn't mean any harm but still. Iim lost cause I can't get mad at hailey cause she's trying to be nice but I can't have herdoing those thing, I need advice,

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  • hiannaaahiannaaa
    You have to try to explain to her how fragile her sister is. It's probably going to be hard since she's so young though. :/
  • crazyhmommycrazyhmommy
    That's sooo true I'm going crazy, cause I don't know how to go about it @hianna
  • crazyhmommycrazyhmommy
    @praying4our3rd. I just get mad easy sometimes and I don't want to cause I know she's still a baby too, how'd you deal with it when you would get mad, I can't take a break from it anymore cause my hubby just got a job, first in two years
  • magcawmagcaw
    Breaks are a thing of the past once you have two kids. :) My son was 2 when my second was born and he was SO excited. He would tell everyone that the baby was his, and if anyone tried to get near him he would freak out. He also wanted to hug him so much that I was afraid he'd smother the baby. It was rough for a while, but they get on to it. You just have to be extremely vigilant. If you feel like it's too much, try giving your 13 month old something that will distract her for a while--play dough, markers, paint, a movie, whatever gets her attention. Or put the baby aside for a bit and focus on your older daughter-cuddle with her for a little bit or make a special treat and share it with her. Taking them both to the park can be really good, too. The baby will be in the stroller and not moving, and you can let your older daughter play on the equipment for a bit. Picnic lunches are awesome to take the playground, too. If you get really mad and need a minute, put your older daughter in her room/crib and tell her you'll be back in a minute, put the baby down, and just sit for 5 minutes. Turn on the timer and take a few minutes to breathe and regroup.
  • crazyhmommycrazyhmommy
    @magcaw breaks really are a thing of the past I should. Have figured that now. I try that dometimes but me 13 month old screams at the top of her lungs cuz wen I was workn he spoiled her.
  • magcawmagcaw
    Lol @crazyhmommy mine did, too, so I sat on the porch when I needed calm. I figured his screaming isn't going to kill him, but if I didn't have a few min of peace then I probably was. :) When he was 6+ months I would him in his highchair and pull it to the door of the bathroom (in my old house the bathroom was on the first floor) so I could shower, and with my second I would put him in his crib with toys so I for the same reason (bathrooms are upstairs in our new house). There are certain things that I simply wasn't willing to give up, even if it meant 15 min of pissed off crying from my babies. Imo, my sanity is very as important to their well-being.
  • magcawmagcaw
    *just as important to their well-being as making sure they're fed and clothed.
  • crazyhmommycrazyhmommy
    Lol @magcaw that's what I'm thinking lol. My 13 m.o. takes a ahower with me because she crawls outta her play pen already, I don't even get my shower to myself:(
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