finally told my parents

NovemberMommy

So i am 21 years old and 16 weeks pregnant and i barely told my parents yesterday...with my mom it wasnt what i expected..i was expecting some screaming and possibly cursing, even though none of that happened her words were very hurtful and even more because she doesnt like my bd...as for my dad it was a little worse his words felt like stabbings straight to my heart...i need some advice...my mom and dad said that i could leave the house, move in with my bd, until i was married and that i couldnt see him either...i really dont feel ready to be married me and my bd had thought about moving in and seeing how things went before making that comitment but now with this i dont know what to do...im stuck between my family and my bd...what should i do?

rockinmomma

This is just my opinion but I would stick with your family for now. They will get over this initial shock and could be an invaluable resource. I'm sure they wont keep you from bd for long. I really don't know how you're family is though. Good luck!

Proudmommy8789

this isnt the stone age! just move in with him! they will get over it on day! im married but my grandmother makes a big deal that i didnt get married in the church. i told her to stop or i wont come around anymore!

Siyahsmom

All i can say us do what you think us best for you and your babt. If you feel like mving in with your bd take the chance your parents will come around

Kate_K

You can move in but can't see him? Doesn't make much sense.
But, honestly you are old enough to move in if you and he agree.
You will probably lose their help but start applying for everything you can.
But don't completely cut bridges with them. Chances are high they will mellow and renew the relationship.

billysgirly

I agree with @rockinmomma.... your family may be upset but they will get over it sooner if you side with them....

headersue

I think you need to give your parents some time to adjust to this news. Iam sure they were not expecting this and they were probably not expecting you to be well in to your 2nd trimester before you told them. My younger sister is 21 and she is pregnant also. My parents were less then thrilled, but no she is 25 weeks and they have come around. I wouldnot say they are excited by any means, but they know there is nothing they can do about it, and they are being supportive. If I were you I would hold off on moving in with your bd, just give your parents a little time, I am sure they will come around.

vtmamajuju

Your family will always be there, even if you may not get along with them now. I had major issues with my family when I was growing up, but now that im grown and married with kids, I see what an asset they have been to me. Don't write off bd, but defin don't write off your family.