Just how immature is it to throw things in peoples faces...long
I know its usually wrong to do this but hear me out.....
My BF and I have had to come a long way (as far as putting aside all of those little games couples tend to play) since I've been preggo. Being a female, my journey has come a bit qiucker than his if you know what I mean. We both tend to go to my Mom for advice when we disagree. She's great. She honest, blunt, and doesn't take sides. I'm her daughter and if I'm wrong she's all over me just as she is him.
That being said, I tend to throw thing in my bf's face. For example, he's notorious for being late. I've had instances where I've been left waiting in the cold or heat for an hour or more just becaude he didn't leave the house early enough to get me. He almost missed our gender u/s because of this so he's been trying to make an effort. I'm coming in from out of town and my bus was late so now he has to wait over an hour for me. He sounded annoyed about it. Instead of me saying thanks for getting there early to get me, I said well now you know how it feels to have to wait.
Another example is him ignoring my calls. If my bfs mad or annoyed with me he won't answer my calls. If he's at work he'll call back hours later. The other night he was ignoring my calls and just so happened I had gotten into a car accident and was in l&d. He felt so bad he's been making an effort to answer all my calls or call me back in a timely manner. Today I called him. He called me back twice but I was working and missed his calls. When I did talk to him he was annoyed that I didn't answer the phone. My response was, well now you know how it feels to think you're being ignored.
When I told my Mom about this she said that I was being immature, self righteous, and I need to acknowledge his effort and leave it at that. I don't think its anything wrong with showing him how it feels when the tables are turned. Its not like I'm being spiteful on purpose.
This is both of our most serious relationship and now we're adding a baby to the mix. I'm trying not to keep slipping into that single and dating mentality. This settled down, grown folk stuff ain't easy.
My BF and I have had to come a long way (as far as putting aside all of those little games couples tend to play) since I've been preggo. Being a female, my journey has come a bit qiucker than his if you know what I mean. We both tend to go to my Mom for advice when we disagree. She's great. She honest, blunt, and doesn't take sides. I'm her daughter and if I'm wrong she's all over me just as she is him.
That being said, I tend to throw thing in my bf's face. For example, he's notorious for being late. I've had instances where I've been left waiting in the cold or heat for an hour or more just becaude he didn't leave the house early enough to get me. He almost missed our gender u/s because of this so he's been trying to make an effort. I'm coming in from out of town and my bus was late so now he has to wait over an hour for me. He sounded annoyed about it. Instead of me saying thanks for getting there early to get me, I said well now you know how it feels to have to wait.
Another example is him ignoring my calls. If my bfs mad or annoyed with me he won't answer my calls. If he's at work he'll call back hours later. The other night he was ignoring my calls and just so happened I had gotten into a car accident and was in l&d. He felt so bad he's been making an effort to answer all my calls or call me back in a timely manner. Today I called him. He called me back twice but I was working and missed his calls. When I did talk to him he was annoyed that I didn't answer the phone. My response was, well now you know how it feels to think you're being ignored.
When I told my Mom about this she said that I was being immature, self righteous, and I need to acknowledge his effort and leave it at that. I don't think its anything wrong with showing him how it feels when the tables are turned. Its not like I'm being spiteful on purpose.
This is both of our most serious relationship and now we're adding a baby to the mix. I'm trying not to keep slipping into that single and dating mentality. This settled down, grown folk stuff ain't easy.
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Two wrongs do not make a right... Now, that being said. It sounds like you might need to sit boo down and have a real heart to heart / reality check that there is about to be a baby in the picture and tell him that he needs to start being a little more responsible and attentive.
Now that I think about it, I suppose that would be considered being self righteous. That's the one thing I adimately denied being. Uggh, I hate when my Moms right.
We are ALL works in progress hun. We all have things we can improve upon.