bd vent! why me?

bjsmommy

So my baby daddy got me stuck in the house with my 2week old newborn by myself on this 4th of July and he's been gone all day since 9am.I hate when men act this way.he hasn't called to check on us or answer his phone I feel stupid.I got a feeling he's cheating cuz my 6 weeks are not up what do I do??

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Throat punch

MikeandRonAdopt

I think he deserves a few throat punches... Thats horrible.

txmoorekat

Take a nap so that when he gets home you have enough energy to kick him in the balls as hard as he deserves!

It's seriously inconsiderate of him to do that. Did he tell you what his plans are? Why do you think he's cheating?

I hope it's just a case of a guy being an a$$ and hanging out with the guys.... Still sucks, but not as much as if he's cheating.

bjsmommy

I know its stressful and make me feel unloved

ChelseaMarie

... I just asked my boyfriend what you should do and he said it sounds like he's cheating.... Does he do this often?

bjsmommy

@Txmorekat the nap sounds like a good idea and he didn't telle his plans I think he's cheating because I went through his phone while he was sleep and he talks to girls and its pics of girls in his phone and btw do u think I was wrong to go through his phone? ?

MikeandRonAdopt

You obviously had reason to go through his phone so no, it wasn;t wrong.

If you're not shady then you dont give your other half reason to be suspicious....

bjsmommy

@Chelseamarie I have that same gut feeling but no proof. What would you do?

ChelseaMarie

No it was not wrong to go through his phone especially if you found obvious signs....... You need to have a talk with him.

bjsmommy

@mikeandronadopt I know he makes me feel guilty and threatens to leave me for privacy resons.but yea

ChelseaMarie

My ex boyfriend cheated on me several times and those were all the same signs, when he gets home I would sit him down and just say that you know he is cheating and see what he has to say. The worst part of this is if he's going to leave you and your baby at home he's a heartless selfish son of a bitch. And if he cheats once most likely he will do it again

MikeandRonAdopt

I agree with @ChelseaMarie ... I'm waiting years and have paid tens of thousands of dollars for what he is going to just walk away from and come back when he feels like it (fatherhood I mean). Want me to smack him around for ya?

txmoorekat

I can't say if it was wrong or not to go through his phone. I've never felt like I've needed to do that with my husband. I think you need to have a discussion with him about what's appropriate behavior for a grown man with a family. Trust your instincts... Whether he's cheating or not, he shouldnt be disappearing for the day without regard for his SO or his child.
If I were in your position, I would have a firm discussion about what is acceptable. If he can't live with my rules or at least compromise, then maybe he doesn't deserve to be with you.

mommyof3tobe

Sorry babe... a lot of these men are just terrible for example my bd as well! I realize their only gonna do what we allow. So let the dummy move on to a woman that will allow it! My bd told me straight up to accept him or forget it, and he was talking about all his bull!!! Smh

Máthair

Normally (not always ) when someone is obsessed with having privacy They are doing something that they don't want people to know about. I'm not talking about leaving the living room to go read in the bedroom, or locking the bathroom door or something like that, but when they have threatened to leave you because of lack of privacy (assuming you don't follow them around the house like a lost puppy taking in their every move) chances are they are hiding something. My ex ( years ago) once flipped out at me because I asked to use his cell phone (that I brought and paid for) because my battery died. Turns out he was cheating again.

Your man might not be but definitely ask him what's up. Who knows he might of been called into work. But pictures of other women in his phone, 8-| yeah.... who knows might be innocent.

If I was you I'd give him a taste of his own medicine and take your baby to your parents house or somewhere and spend the night.

bjsmommy

@mikeandronadopts lol yea slap him around he needs it

ChelseaMarie

..... How'd it turn out?