@one5one I know lol he's thinking of emailing his dad-chicken shit lol there ain't NO way to hide it..I'm not due till nov 4 but am big enough to get away with telling strangers I'm due at the end of summer lol
@one5one I'm definitely having him deal with it. I'm not a fan of his dad to begin with so if an email will diffuse the initial anger then great. Plus if he makes the 'wrong' comment I'm not gonna sit silent!
The entire side of my husbands family.he doesn't talk to them. I didn't really announce to my neighbors either. They were looking at me all weird when I was showing but I think couldn't figure out if I was growing a gut or pregnant. At 8 months they were confident enough that I was pregnant and started saying congrats.
Haven't told my mam. She's an alcoholic and I really can't waist any more of my time on her, haven't seen her in way over a year. While I was in labour with my son she came up to the hospital really drunk (her auntie told her I was in labour but warned her not to go near me in the state she was in) and came into my room and grabbed hold of my leg and was telling me to push (wasn't time for me to push yet) i started crying telling my midwife to get her out but had to end up phoning my dad to come get her (he can't stand her either). Then when my son was 2 week old (and my bd first day back at work) she came round throwing stones at my window! Then when my son was 1 (not long after his first birthday) we were playing in the garden when I herd the phone ring ran inside to get the phone came back out and she was sat with him in the garden stinking of alcohol (surprise surprise it was her that rang the phone to get me away from Harley) so I ended up having to drag her out of my garden because she wouldn't leave. We moved away after that (only like 20 mins away) but don't think she knows where I live and she ended being evicted from her house so I know what area she lives in but not exactly where and I couldn't care less. My sister says she hasn't told her and she's the only one thar talks to her anymore (which I don't think she should but that's her choice) not even any of my mams family talk to her any more. The waister isn't having anything to do with my babies
I'm not sure if my neighbors are that bright to catch on. Though the kids asked because I was cleaning outmy shed & had a high chair in the hallway. I said no. @ashthurs
@mums_the_word I'm sorry your moms got a problem with alcohol. My mom had the same issue & a heroin habit. I'm happy she was at least sober the night I went into labor. She dies 15 months later from an overdose around xmas. I've been thru the same crap with my mom too. But it wasn't bad after my daughter was born. She'd call the cops on me & bf just cuz she was drunk & mad. & other things she'd do too while drunk. But if your mom can't change. Better off for you & your family to stay away from her.
@Beatrice1436 yea I'm not one to make a huge announcement either. I felt a lil odd if I'd have went around saying Look at me I'm preggy! Only a handful of coworkers knew. And I just told a friend about it a month ago. I'm 27 wks.
I told my parents and his parents and our siblings. Everyone else found out on FB when I updated my FB picture at 13 weeks. My husband's aunt was pissy that she didn't get told personally...in person, lol. But I think everyone knows now.
it's no secret im pregnant. between it being obvious and the fact that our town is rather small. it's a suburb and everyone knows everyones business. we, of course, told my friend who was living with us at the time, my sister, waited about 3 months and told my kids, then hubby told his parents and my parents and i told my brother. other than that it was spread by my mom's fat mouth. she doesn't know what to stop so she tells the entire freakin universe everything. i would be ok if people still didn't know i was pregnant. but it is what it is and i am just bitter with my mom all the way around. she thinks shes perfect and she was a fabulous mom, is a GREAT "Nana" and she's a nurse so she thinks she deserves to know everything. ugh, i just want to hit her in the face and tell her how crappy of a mom she was/is and she sucks as a grandparent, and just because she's a nurse doesn't mean hoohaa. [-(
@survivormommy3 maybe moms just blabbing cuz she's proud. But you know her better than I do. Some people just act & think they're better than others because they have $$$ or education. I hate that!
I haven't told my side of the family. I told my mom and dad and that's it. My mom I'm sure has told people. I told my good friends so my 4 friend that are super supportive and one that is going to be in the hosptial room with me.
Bd told everyone he could on his side but then he walked away. So there will be no involvement from them. He wants to be involved but he is not the kind of person u want involved in a child life. Drugs, drinking and parting...not exactly a good example of a father or just a p?ain decent person. A lot more to it but don't want to get in to it. Not a good person to have a around! In one word: TOXIC!
@one5one I did my best for years to assume i misunderstood her. but she literally told me this pregnancy that I don't deserve to have a shower because no one would want to come, no one cares and no one will show up. She's one of those narcissistic people and wants to play victim then when she's called out she says she's being disrespected and played like a fool. i have talk to my brother and sister about this, my sister lives in texas, and all of us live in ohio, so she isn't subjected to as much. but she is fully aware of how she is. and my brother is so sick of her being a "show Nana" it's stupid. If around people who matter she will treat the kids (her grandkids) as if they are the cutest and most precious thing ever, but once out of sight she treats them like crap. I have never had maternity pics done and decided after my now youngest i would force myself to enjoy this next pregnancy because it's a blessing and all i did before was hide- thinking that's what i should do since that's my mom basically told me i should do. well, my kids- 5 and 6 yrs old were so excited about the maternity pics (and everything else baby related ) she glares at my son and says "it's just a picture of your mom and her big belly. it's not like she wants them for you." I was so pissed I nearly flipped on her. I seriously told her to keep her comments to herself and to just smile if she can't say something nice. effecting me and effecting my kids are TWO different things. vent over
yea...it just comes up in conversation. ...there's so many pregnant friends right the only response i get "your pregnant too" so its not really acknowledge...
they all know about her but we are gonna try to not tell them about he birth for as long as possible. Hubbys biological mom is a pill popper and covered in scabs from what looks like staph infections and we dont want her holding the baby. She told me seh was getting a whooping cough shot....um...she better not even think she's gonna babysit!
@lilbabythree nope he doesn't sound like winner that's for sure! I don't get why he'd brag to people bout the baby then leave! What an a-hole. @survivormommie3 wow! I have an aunt who told my kid ima hoarder because there's boxes in my place waiting for pickup from charity & that her dad my hub is lazy! Well kid knows better but its not right! To tell kids bad things.
@Beatrice1436 that's pretty inconsiderate! Oh you too? They should say something nice or not open their mouths. @amyduh why woukd she freak out? Maybe it'd be a shock at first but to go to tge hospital? Wow! Overdramatic! You should've told her then. She'd have enuf time to calm down. Better tell her soon or you'll have the kid & she'll be in the looney bin! Lol @Mama_busy_bee gross! Scabs? Maybe she's picking at herself because the pills or she could be doing drugs like meth. That causes you to pick at your skin. Eww. Have you told her its cuz of her scabs?
My father in law doesn't know but he and my husband seem to only see each other once every ten years or so. We r debating on whether he deserves to know about his first grand child.
My friend and i are preggers but i told everyone..she on the other hand is 15 wks and hasnt even told her family.. the only family memeber shes told is her sister.. her dad makes stupid comments so she wants to wait until she has her own place to live to tell her parents.. i feel bad for her parents though.. id want to know if it were my daughter..
Yea id want to know too. My hub before he was my hub & I were arguing & he told my mom. That's how she found out. I didn't tell her. But she was happy nonetheless.@kritten_octoberbby hopefully your bff can get her own place before telling.
I told the father of my baby I was pregnant when I was 3 wks ( Im 31 wks now) but he freaked out & told me I HAD to have an abortion & turned into this horrible person when I said I didnt want to, I realized me & the baby didnt need to be around him & I havent talked to him since. So technically I told him but he doesnt know Im still pregnant.
@one5one thanks, yeah hes a LOSER!!!!, he was even tellin me how he knew of this one place that did abortions as far along as 7 mos & pressuring me to go everytime I saw him& so I completely stopped seeing him & that was back in January so he doesnt even kno Im having his son. But its ok, its def better this way.
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Bd told everyone he could on his side but then he walked away. So there will be no involvement from them. He wants to be involved but he is not the kind of person u want involved in a child life. Drugs, drinking and parting...not exactly a good example of a father or just a p?ain decent person. A lot more to it but don't want to get in to it. Not a good person to have a around! In one word: TOXIC!
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@survivormommie3 wow! I have an aunt who told my kid ima hoarder because there's boxes in my place waiting for pickup from charity & that her dad my hub is lazy! Well kid knows better but its not right! To tell kids bad things.
@amyduh why woukd she freak out? Maybe it'd be a shock at first but to go to tge hospital? Wow! Overdramatic! You should've told her then. She'd have enuf time to calm down. Better tell her soon or you'll have the kid & she'll be in the looney bin! Lol
@Mama_busy_bee gross! Scabs? Maybe she's picking at herself because the pills or she could be doing drugs like meth. That causes you to pick at your skin. Eww. Have you told her its cuz of her scabs?