lying to me?

briAnewmom

Pretty sure my fiance is lying to me about watching porn. Like he only uses lotion on his ya know when im not home and I send him pics. Literally 2 yrs that's all he's used it for. Well today he used my lotion and spilled it on my makeup when I was gone and he didn't clean it up. So I asked him if he used it he's like no I hate lotion. So I said well there is fresh lotion all over my stuff and my nice new dry towel is wet and he didn't shower today so I kno he didn't use it to dry off. Anyway he starts yelling at me telling me im stupid blah blah. So I think he's doing it without me. I don't like porn it makes me feel gross to know he wants to see naked girls other than me and it hurts worse because I feel unattractive this pregnancy. Am I wrong on this?

Mimii36

I dont mind my bf watching porn but thats just me. If you dont like him watching it & he knows it then youre not wrong at all.

briAnewmom

He's lied to me before about it but I thought he was over it. Apparently not.

Mimii36

Then yes I would be upset also.

briAnewmom

I don't get it we have a healthy sex life.

Babynewyear2012

@brianewmom I agree!!!!! My problem with it is I can not have sex. I am on pelvic rest for the remainder of my pregnancy fue to my cerclage. I looked at my bf phone and he gets on some site everyday but lies when I adk him about it! It isnt like I leave him without....i take good care of him. Why do they have to be so stupid!

briAnewmom

@Babynewyear2012 im sorry. It freaking hurts my feelings and he doesn't care then he thinks im stupid enough to believe him. Really? Im not stupid. I told him not to even touch me anymore. He wants to do this crap he can touch himself all he wants.

newmomma13

mine lies to me all the time about porn and girls... i mean where are all the decent men in the world!!!!! lol

Babynewyear2012

@brianewmom He tells me I dont look at porn. Why are you going through my phone. My response is simply, if you arent looking at porn then I didnt go through your phone. I was so angry my entire body was shaking! So disrespectful!

mrsrocketfield1221

[-( i'm sorry that he's being so dumb... i tru;y hope he realizes he's hurting you and smartens up. i'm sure you are absolutely beautiful so don't you let him bring you down!!!!

briAnewmom

@newmomma13 men are stupid. And in turn think we are stupid. Like when I was taking care of him after his stroke while working 18 hrs a day I came home at 3 am the end of my shift he's got the laptop under the blankets his hand under a blanket and when I got mad he's like was not! Oh ok ur dicks just hard cuz u like me when im pissed? And a few months ago I was working out come out and I hear the laptop slam. He's hard and he's all no I wasn't using the laptop. So when I reach for it he grabs it and says I was looking at a surprise for u.ok and ur hard because? Bullshit! @Babynewyear2012 wow. Like ur dumb or something. Saying no when proof is right there? Idiots!

briAnewmom

@mrsrocketfield1221 thank u.. im really tired of being hurt. If I were to lie to him it would be the end of the world. He doesn't even care about me anymore since I got preggo.

newmomma13

lol yea sometimes when im walking up stairs to my house i hear him walking fast to the restroom and then he comes out wih the computer... like i know what the f ur doing u retard lol then leaves all types of evidence in the history lol

Babynewyear2012

@brianewmom I ask him the other day if he thought I was still pretty since on bedrest and not able to have sex. He said yes...kind of wonder if that was a lie too. It hurts bad! Sorry it is happening to you too! Freaking Men!

briAnewmom

@newmomma13 mine set his history to automatically delete when he closes a window oh ya im much less suspicious now. @Babynewyear2012 thanks... sorry girl I hope he smartens up!

MommmyX3

Your fiance sounds just like my husband. And I feel the same way you do about it. It kills me to know he would want to get off to any other girl than me....especially with how insecure I feel right.now. A couple weeks ago I found porn downloaded on my husbands phone. It even had the dates they were downloaded and everything. I showed him and he STILL denied it. He said someone else must have taken his phone and downloaded it. Thats just stupid. And its the same website he always used on the computer when I was pregnant with our last daughter. I hate men!!

newmomma13

lol wow thats funny i just wish they would be honest with us i mean we are carrying their child like treat us with some respect!!!!!!!!!!

mrsrocketfield1221

girl, this is when he should care most. you're holding his own flesh and blood... you may want to think about the way he's been treating you and acting towards you if it is ongoing and you're fed up. you don't want to be miserable and just stick with him because... maybe you need some time away for him to smarten up? i don't know...

briAnewmom

@MommyX3 im so sorry... I hate em too! They say they care but they don't. And that hurts just as much as him watching it. When we first got together mine told me he doesn't like fat girls so naturally I stayed skinny and in good shape. Now im preg and he treats me totally diff and it makes me so mad!! They are all liars and pretend they are honest. I like when I call him out on it he jumps to calling ME stupid!

mrsrocketfield1221

i know everyone's saying men need respect BUT... and i say this as a pregly friend... some of you that are being fully disrespected or cheated on need to respect yourselves and not allow for this to happen/go on/continue. =this is to the girls being cheated on and treated crappy not everyone!!

Babynewyear2012

Oh yeah....he ask me not to have a facebook because that is what makes woman look for other men. Seriously did you really just say that...smh!

mrsrocketfield1221

@brianewmom -ur still skinny & pretty silly!! he's a loser if he thinks otherwise. dont let him make u feel that way... please!

mrsrocketfield1221

just wanna say also, they're not ALL liars, there's good mixed in with the bad... just be careful of who you keep in your life!! ;;)

briAnewmom

@newmommy13 I know right! I didn't do this by myself! He always said when I got preg he'd do this and this and this not only does he not do anything he promised he does less and the only time he acts like im preg is when he uses me as an excuse not to do something for someone. I just did our daughters nursery bymyself and im in my seventh month. Then he gets pissed cuz I ask him to rub my back yesterday cuz I painted for 9 hrs straight and had to go up and down the step ladder all day. Assholes. We have to go thru all the stuff of pregnancy and them? Wow. @mrsrocketfield1221 we've broken up like four times in the past. He begs me back cries blah blah and then I come back and the new him lasts a month maybe

briAnewmom

@mrsrocketfield thank u for the support and ur right. Im letting myself get treated this way. @Babynewyear2012 omg really? Facebook makes us cheaters? U know that zoosk dating site on there? He added it on fn when we were broken up trying to get a girl. Couldn't even find one ha! U shoulda told him that if u wanted to cheat U don't have to use the comp u can get a real live man

Babynewyear2012

Mine is generally a great man! He has this one bad habit that I hate but he was doing it when I met him. He has to do everything since I am on strict bedrest and works 10-12 hours a night. I just wish he would realize how it makes me feel.

mrsrocketfield1221

ohhhhh girl. that doesn't sound good. i think you need to really take a step back and think about what you want for your future. if he's unable of changing... is this how you want to raise your daughter? cause i'll tell you what, you'll be doing it on your own if he's like this now! my closest friend is now in the middle of a separation bc her a$$hole husband was the same way and finally after being there for her when she was upset... she realized on her own he'll never change and they'll never see eye to eye and now that she left she's much happier. not saying you have to leave him... but take the time to really think about it and try to step out of the direct situation and look at the bigger picture. you deserve a good guy who will make you and your daughter happy!

mrsrocketfield1221

@babynewyear2012 i'm glad he's a good guy... just dumb with the porn! lol luckily that's all you have to deal with!!

briAnewmom

@Babynewyear2012 im sorry! Glad he's great otherwise! @mrsrocketfield1221 ill consider it for sure. I can't believe he's doing this after all I've done for him and because he's wanted me to get pregnant for over a year. I told him I need to evaluate if I can take all this anymore. Cuz Idk if I can

KalikoJenie

I believe men lie about watching porn for a couple reasons. One being they are embarrassed. I mean if I were caught doing that id be hella embarassed, or maybe they don't want you to feel bad they are pleasing themselves instead of having you do it. Regardless of what medium of stimulation the get via movies, magazines, their imagination most men know they aren't going to get girls like that, especially if they want some kinda dirty fantasy acted out in his head. Most guys who watch porn watch it because they fantasize about really kinky things their spouse may not be into, or because he is too scared to ask her if she would try. I think that in pregnancy he may not want you to feel uncomfortable by having sex, especially if you are high risk or he doesn't want to harm the baby (even if we do know better) if he knows how you feel about porn maybe he is hiding it out of respect for you.. sorry if my thoughts are all over the place. If you feel he is doing something wrong, tell him that you want to understand why he feels the need to do it and is there something you can do to have him just ask you to help him out instead of looking at porn because it makes you uncomfortable.

Babynewyear2012

@mrsrocketfield1221 @brianewmom My thought is that is has to be an addiction! I know my man has a tendency of addiction because he used to be on drugs (not possible now because of his job and I will not allow that). I honestly believe that it is something hatd to stop for them and they lie because they know we get upset. The mentality they have is crazy, they think we will not get upset if they dont admit it cause we are to dumb to know the truth. Hello dumbass that makes it worse!