Last names....(lengthy but please read i would really like some feedback)
Ok so a little background info. I broke up with my bd a few months ago. I asked him to quit somking weed and he had no intrest in doing so therefore I left him. Well he has done nothing for our son at all no diapers no clothes no nothing. His family has contributed alot and im very greatful for all they do. but for me a DAD or FATHER would be the one making these types of purchases instead of spending what little bit of a check he has on weed.
Well since we broke up his mother mind you HIS MOTHER pointed that her son has done nothing for this baby which I already knew but she thought up the notion of giving the baby my last name. I have a daughter from a previous realtionship and she has my last name. and his mom thought that it would be easier for me to just keep them both my name.
Well i guess in the heat of an arguement his mother told her that I had decided to give our son my last name. my reasons are because he has done nothing whatsoever for him this entire pregnancy. and to me if im going to give my child your last name there needs to be some sort of long term commitment which he does not want because im not worth giving up weed.
So im a high risk 8 month pregnant women with a 2 year old and he has threatened me spit on my car and has gone balistic over this whole last name bit. Told me to change his middle name and that he refuses to be on the birth certificate because i am not honoring him. He told me that he will do nothing for a child that does not carry his last name. amoung so very hurtful things that i would rather not put up here. it has been a very stressfull week for me and its only wed. I guess im asking you other mommas if im being completly unreasonable.
Well since we broke up his mother mind you HIS MOTHER pointed that her son has done nothing for this baby which I already knew but she thought up the notion of giving the baby my last name. I have a daughter from a previous realtionship and she has my last name. and his mom thought that it would be easier for me to just keep them both my name.
Well i guess in the heat of an arguement his mother told her that I had decided to give our son my last name. my reasons are because he has done nothing whatsoever for him this entire pregnancy. and to me if im going to give my child your last name there needs to be some sort of long term commitment which he does not want because im not worth giving up weed.
So im a high risk 8 month pregnant women with a 2 year old and he has threatened me spit on my car and has gone balistic over this whole last name bit. Told me to change his middle name and that he refuses to be on the birth certificate because i am not honoring him. He told me that he will do nothing for a child that does not carry his last name. amoung so very hurtful things that i would rather not put up here. it has been a very stressfull week for me and its only wed. I guess im asking you other mommas if im being completly unreasonable.
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And he doesn't have to sign the bc for you to be able to get child support, so it doesn't hurt you and just makes him look like a fool.
The sad thing is even before this all happend he had no plans on paying child support