question....

barnchicks_1

So I'm due Oct 3rd which isn't too far away... I just don't know what to do with my husband. He has distanced himself from. Granted I work 2 jobs so our time together is limited. There is hardly any communication between us and its not because I ain't trying. He makes plans to go do things by himself or with his friends when I'm home. We had a few problems before with him being on porn sites. Well now that we have no computer we have been using the internet on our phones. His is his mine is mine. Well last night mine wasn't working so I asked for his... well to my surprise I find while bunch of porn sites on his phone. Ido if I'm over reacting but I thought we were past this. Any suggestions as to how to deal with this? The last time this happened was about 10 months ago and I packed my bags and left for a few days.

Damiens_Mommy

imho guys are going to look at porn and i don't think there's anything wrong with it. it doesn't make me feel inferior or anything like that. he might get off to porn once in a while, but i know it doesn't match what he and i have when we go to bed together and i know he loves me with all that he is. guys just like to whack it and porn is usually their medium of choice when they do, no biggy. lol

as far as him distancing himself from you, maybe he's just a little scared atm... your lives are going to change immensely soon and he might just be holding on to having a little more freedom while he can. i would just sit down and have a chat with him. think logically while you talk to him, letting your emotions get the best of you (which i know how hard it is not to let them take you over while pregnant...) will only make him retreat... @barnchicks_1

RizzyChicky

Is he like a major major porn addict? My bf looks at porn too, and it used to bug me a lot, but I've accepted it over time. I know he loves me & porn is just porn. It's not like he neglects me & makes it all about porn. I'm wondering what is tha MAIN issue why it bothers you? Is it bcuz he doesn't make effort or time for u?

jess8d

I love looking at Porn.. same for my husband. Plus sex is a no go for us... it hurts me.... but the distance part.... y'all need to communicate... im really bad at not doing this with my hubby.... so sit him down and talk to him.... he's scared, maybe... new dads go through a lot of crazy feelings just like us...

Mimii36

I dont think anything is wrong with porn as long its not an addiction. My bf watches porn & so do I.

preggointx

I think it can b a problem over indulgence of porn suggests deeper sexual meanings psychologically I would leave for a few days again not just because of the porn but to show that the relationship is in need of some attention

barnchicks_1

The biggest thing is that he lies about it. I don't care if he looks at porn but don't lie about it especially when I find it on his phone. Times before we would go weeks with out hardly jwords to one aother and I was the one accused of cheating. he has told me before that he uses me sex and not with me for a relationship. I just don't want things to go back to the way they were before. I took a few days off from work because he asked me too for his birthday and not one of those days did he spend time with me or want to. We have been to consoling before which helped things for a little while. I just don't want to be freaking out for nothing. I know I'm not prefect no one is. He is the one in our relationship who wanted to have kids. I don't want to have my child go up in two different homes with two separate families.