My daughter did, I told her we couldn't be married anymore... I was.able to dodge the questions easily. But I'm a single mom again and worried about what my son will ask. Its hard! Just be strong. But try to be truthful.
My oldests father was in and out. We broke up when she was about 1 and he was MIA for 2 years, popped back for a month or so then went MIA for 2-3 years(we moved 1,200 miles away when shr was 4 so popping back was done thru phone calls). When she was in kindergarten or first grade she asked why everyone had a daddy but her:( I explained she had one he just lived far away. As she got older I explained some people just aren't ever ready to be parents and it has nothing to do with the kids.
@mrs_shu is she ok? N my situation he would never kno his dad at all unless he chooses to find him once he's older. But I dont even kno if I should even tell him about his dad at all.
My oldest son I was raped so no my youngest two no possibly cuz theyre 4&5 but I never raised them to be brought up around a man my sisters and my mama always been around so they had their cousins round the same age they have mentioned daddy but only cuz they seen my nephews leave with their dad so now its kind of like we replace that daddy feeling they dont ask or nothing
Not really. She's been diagnosed with a bunch of crap..who knows if she'll grow out of it. He's been back "in" her life since December. Seen her about 4 times, he lives a little over an hour away now btw!! His phone calls have gotten less and less the further his fiancée gets-shes due a few weeks before me. She has a lot of hurt and anger and is terrified if she questions anything about him not being around or isn't on her very best behavior, he'll disappear again. On the occasions she's spent a weekend or even a day with him he's not even spending time with HER. She's a show piece.."yes look meet my daughter!" Last time they were supposed to go to the boardwalk (rides and games) amd went to Atlantic city (casinos) and she spent the whole time just following him and his brother. Her inhome therapist agrees it would have been better of he stayed away but at this point we have to just let it dwindle on its own which sucks!
I'm not a mommy but my mom left my dad when i was one i never knew him i did ask question's though and i always knew who he was. I met him when i was 15 realized my mom did the right thing taking me away from the situation.
@mommykay thanks that makes me feel better. I'm jus really scared cuz he's a good dad to his first son. I'm worried that my son will question that an ask y I didn't fight harder or y his dad didn't live him the same. Do u ever feel that way?
I understand where your coming from completely. Im sure when hes older he'll know and understand why you did what you did. Do what you think is best mommys are usually right!
Sometimes yes i do but my dad hasnt tried with my sister myseld or his 2 other children yet he cares about his step children that i never understood. But I never once blamed my mom forkeeping me away she was just protecting me.
@mommykay thank u so much. It's jus so hard. I hurt everytime I think of him. I dont get men. Y produce kids u dont want? Am even if u didn't want them how can u not love them? I hope I'm strong enough to handle this but thank u so much for sharin wit me. U definitely helped.
My daughters father was around until she was 6 month then disappeared for three years. Came back wanting to get to know her and stuck around for a month. She knows him as her father but didn't get attached. I'm lucky because I have a really tight knit supportiive family. One day at her preschool a little girl asked "where's Alyssa's daddy?" Before I could say anything alyssa says " I don't need a daddy. I have uncle georigie" my brother. I cried the whole way home. You're strong and you and your baby will be just fine!!
@sweetsurprise omigod that's soo cute u jus brought tears to my eyes! My son gas my dad an my uncles an cuzins. There definitely wont b a lack of good men n his life. I jus always wanted him to have the family he deserves.
unfortunately my son really doesn't have any male role models, his dad is a d-bag only comes around every so often for a minute my son doesn't even know him. my dad is the only other man in my life and he's so caught up in his own drama since remarrying when i was 6 mon pregnant that he's hardly ever around which sucks i really miss my daddy he raised me by himslef and we have a really good relationship. however my son does have an abundance of women in his life lol between all my aunties, my best friend/his godmother, sister, and myself he is being raised the right way to respect women and not be like his asshole dad thats for sure. but i do wish h had at least one good man in his life because he is a boy after all an he won't always come to his mama for EVERYTHING
@adriens_mommy I understand. Even tho my dad actually both of my parents r goin to help raise him my dad is older. I kno he most likely won't b around to see him out of childhood. As far as the other men n my family I kno they will b around but they won't b an everyday figure. It'll really jus b me an him. I have no interest or plans on ever bein wit another man for the rest of my life. I feel bad cuz I want him to have a dad an I dont kno if I'm good/strong enough.
Me and my sons father were together till he was 4 and then he moved away for 2 years after we broke up and seen our son once when he was 6 supervised and said that was not good enough so he hasn't seen him since and now he's 10 1/2 years old. I seen him at my work a couple months ago and he wanted to see our son but I had heard he did drugs and from the looks of it I know its true and im not letting my son around that! But my son does ask to see him once in a while and in the begining i told him it wasnt safe and now i just say i dont know when or where he lives which is true, but i do know he lives close to us and he has no family out here so i wish he would just move back! My son has my boyfriend who has been there for my son for 5 years now, a stepbro his same age, a sis thats 3 and another sis born next month.
@jsmyonlylove you are definitely strong enough. And families come in all sizes and shapes. You want what's best for your son and that's what matters. I would much rather her dad stay gone than keep coming around only to let her down and break her heart. And you never know someday you might meet a man who loves your son as much as he love you. It happened for for me and my daughter is now 6
i know how u feel i have absolutely 0 interest in opening up to another man, f*ck relationships, i been hurt too much by my sons father over the last 6 years I'm just over it. id rather be by myself and focus on my career and my son. sounds lonely but i work 60 hrs a week i don't have time or energy to care at this point lol. maybe when us girls stop hurting inside, stop thinking about it, and stop looking the person were really meant to end up with will show up and sweep us off our feet? highly doubtfull tho at least for me I'm sure. can i ask what happened to your bd?
goodluck. I grew up with my dad and Ryleigh has a wonderful daddy but I just want to wish u the best of luck.. not sure why bd isnt in the picture but maybe the daddy will change and step up and be in the childs life..
@jsmyonlylove every situation is different but persuing? Probably not. Stepping up and being a part of his childs life is something he has to do, no amount of calling and asking and even begging will help or change things. If he decideds to step up that's great as long as he understands its a forever thing, not just sporadically over the years whenever its "convenient"
@mrs_shu ur rite. He says he wants to b around the best he can but he's made no effort an he says he can't b the same dad to my baby as he is to his son but I guess I should jus let go.
@jsmyonlylove then he's a jackass. Even if he's being honest saying that, shame on him! Kids aren't stupid. Despite what we tell them to make them feel better they always know the truth.
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Her inhome therapist agrees it would have been better of he stayed away but at this point we have to just let it dwindle on its own which sucks!
@adriens_mommy can I inbox u the answer to that question?