glad she has someone to lean on. I'm neither against or for abortion because it's not up to me to dictate how others live. I was almost in this situation, after one of the times I got raped I thought I was pregnant and abortion was on my mind I'm just thankful the test came out negative. I hope and pray everything works out for the best for you friend.
I'll pray for your friend. I hope all went as well as possible and she can get on and heal. I had a friend in collage that was raped, her parents pulled her out of school prevent her from getting an abortion. In the end she commited suicide. A few of us got letters, and it was because she could not handle the"thing"she was "holding in her". I don't think abortion is an answer for sleeping around, but in some cases it's more humane.
I dont believe in abortion BUT if my bestfriend got pregnant & decided on abortion no matter what her situation was..i would support her decision. It seems to me that her mind is made up & shes not asking for OPINIONS..she is asking for SUPPORT! & thats what youre giving her. Youre doing the right thing..even if your friend is not. Youre being a FRIEND!
I dont know how I feel about abortion, but either way you are a fantastic friend. Thank you for being there for her when she needs you the most I'm terribly sorry for her situation, and I truly hope the somehow everything manages to fall into place for her and she can find happyness!
@sunshinelove just thought is ask how everything went? Your friend must be in emotional turmoil right now and I'm sure you've had a really tuff day too. Hope all is well and you've both given yourself a little down time. Traumatic day. Best wishes out to you both xxx
Just thinking about you and your BFF and sending blessings of healing to her. May you feel strength to help hold her up! I am thankful she has you with her today.
I think unless its your body, your life, your child, you have no right to judge. I think abortion in some situations is over used and not properly thought out, but the people choosing to go through with it are the ones that have to live with those decisions. I had a friend that had an abortion at 5 months because she changed her mind, it was something I really really struggled to accept and not judge, but had to keep reminding myself that her choices in this life are her own to deal with. I dont know if I personally could go through with an abortion, but to those that have had to make that hard decision I admire their strength. Much love to you and you friend and I hope for her sake she doesnt regret her choices and its something she can eventually put behind her.
UPDATE!!!! The pregnancy turned out to be in her fallopian tube! they stupid planned parent hood is making her reschedule and jump threw freakin hoops and go threw absolute hell to get it terminated. BUT if she did not go in today to get this abortion done, they garenteed that she would be dead with in weeks. SO in the end, it is LITERALLY ending a life, to save a life. I haven't read all of your replies yet, I don't know that I am going to cuz no matter what was going on I will always support what she decides to do, weather or not anyone thinks it is right or wrong, unless you have been in this horrid situation, your opinion means nothing. My opinion means nothing, all I care about is HER well being. Since I am not the one who has to make the decision, I leave it up to her, and stand by her side. Cuz thats what good friends do!
I had a tubal pregnancy & didn't find out til I was bleeding cause the tube burst. I had to have the tube removed & it hurt! Glad they caught it before she had serious problems! Hope she heals quickly. God bless you both!
@everyone my appologies for my rudeness in my update, I was really afraid of reading everyone's posts I was afraid of more judgement towards her and I was in no mood to hear it after all we have been threw today! THANK YOU for all of your kind words, and support, even those of you who don't believe in abortion have been very supportive in the matter for the most part. Tomorrow, we are going to get her on oregon health plan as an emergency situation she should have insurance with in hours, and we can get this thing taken care of. She is only about 5 weeks along tops, but the baby is growing in her tubes and will kill her if we don't nip it in the butt and very soon! I dont wanna lose my best friend by anymeans! She already scared me once with a scuicide attempt after suffering ppd fairly bad. Im not willing to risk it again, so Imma be jumpping threw hoops for the next few days to get her situated and everything done. Adrian is due in a week and 5 days.... this is going to be hell, imma keep my eye on my own baby very closely to make sure he isn't stressed, and since I am the peace keeper in all situations, the comic relief more or less... this is going to be a strain, but she would do the same for me!! thank you for your best wishes and prayers!!! please keep them up cuz this is turning into a very difficult situation, more difficult than what we originally thought it would be!! THANK YOU LADIES!!!!
I think you did a wonderful thing. Especially being pregnant and sticking by her. Abortion is emotionally hard not because of the choice to do it but also the hormones that are in your body makes it difficult to deal with it too. She will need you and your non judgemental ways and screw everyone else. Its a hard thing to do the last thing she needs is people piping in their 2 cents making it even harder. And I'm glad that its going to be easier since its a tubular pregnancy. Well emotionally easier physically she will still be in pain. Good luck to her and to you for dealing with everyones bad attitudes.
@sunshinelove I had to stop reading the replies because they were pissing me off. I just wanted to give you kudos for being a good friend. I am against abortion but I understand that there are some situations that warrant it. Having been raped before I know the trauma of that and if I had gotten pregnant I would have most likely had an abortion as well even knowing that it's amiracle that I'm pregnant know all the health risks of a methhead sperm donor but the constant reminderfor ten months of that awful thing that happened to put a woman in this situation would be unbearable. And I'm glad they caught that it was eptopic early and can save her life.
Wow I hope she is ok in the end. That's horrible. Everything happens for a reason is the way I look at it. Had she not went today your right she could of been dead and left one child already here without a mother. Very sad. Again hope all goes well I wish her the best of luck!
Thank God they did catch it. My friend was 5 MONTHS pregnant with an etopic pregnancy and actually survived the rupture. Lucky for her she was around people with limited medical training. (Military) Our friend who was there said she just collapsed and he watched her stomach suddenly get 'big' and he knew what happened. She lost a tube, but luckily didnt loose her life.
Ive had a tubal pregnancy and it ruptured at 8 weeks thank God I was at a Dr appt when it happened and They rushed me by ambulance to the hospital. If they hadn't I would probably be dead as well I had ALOT of internal bleeding. Hope your friend is alright and gets it taken care of soon!
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@jennys3rd bravo =D>
I dont know if I personally could go through with an abortion, but to those that have had to make that hard decision I admire their strength.
Much love to you and you friend and I hope for her sake she doesnt regret her choices and its something she can eventually put behind her.