what would you do?? LONG

momofabeautifulbean

My sister is getting married next Saturday (the 8th). I'm due on the 13th and I'm in the wedding as a bridesmaid. My sister thinks I should ask for a c-section tomorrow when I go for my appt so I can be there. I've had a c-section before so I know how much pain I will be in. Is it worth the pain so I know for sure I will be in her wedding? I did lose my mucous plug yesterday but no contractions as of yet. I'm torn because I want to be there but I know the pain to follow a c-section.

lilbit01_209

Were you going to try for a VBAC?

charliebby1116

I don't think so but that's just my opinion...

momofabeautifulbean

@lilbit01_209

Yes a VBAC was my plan. I would love the experience I never got to have with my first daughter. I think the bonding that happens immediately after is amazing and I didn't get that experience the first time around. She thinks I'm being selfish but she doesn't have kids and doesn't understand

Roxy

I personally wouldnt do it

MerandaGarcia

Honestly sounds kinda selfish for your sister to even suggest something like that... I'm sure you love her but do what's best for you!

blessedbe_x3

I wouldn't do it. I understand your sister wanting you there. But to me your health (so to say ) is more important. Not all that but there's so many more risk with a csec then natural, even if it is a vbac, that I just wouldn't want to risk it.

lilbit01_209

I wouldnt do it. A VBAC is better for you and your child and even if you did the csec you would just barely be out of the hospital in time for the wedding... She is being selfish and trying to put you in undue stress and danger for her comfort. I would say NO but be prepared if she bitches that you shouldnt be in her wedding then. I was the matron-of-honor 3 weeks after my csec and I was in a great deal of pain. My csec was unexpected so it wasnt the brides fault but I had to sit a lot and was very limited. I couldnt imagine 2 or 3 days after.

momofabeautifulbean

When we found out the due date 8 months ago I told her she could find someone else if she wanted to so she knew for sure that she would have all of her bridesmaids. She seriously just made me cry because she is making me feel like shit for not doing the c-section

momma_erica

Your sister is being selfish. She knew u was pregnant & when ur due date was, she could of picked another date or another lady. Don't let her guilt trip u into giving up ur experience. One day when she has kids she will understand ur choice

blueberrysmom

She's insane. I would not even consider it.

Ourlittlenugget

I agree; your sis is the one being selfish. Wait til it's her turn to give birth and see how she feels when someone asks that of her. You take care of you and your baby first and foremost!

momofabeautifulbean

Thanks ladies. It takes a lot to bring me to tears and she did. I go to the dr on Monday and she wants to strip my membranes but I'm afraid it will put me in labor later (like closer to Saturday) than anything else.

adri805

Ummm ur sister needs to back off. So she expects u to get a c sect n wut, u wouldn't b in pain?? U would have to stand up front while.they read the vows n all that...I don't think that would b good for ur cut. Is she not thinking? Probably not, not tryna b mean but she's clearly being a selfish bride. Don't let her ruin ur experience just so hers can b perfect. That's not fair

Mimii36

Umm hell no! (sry for the language)

tinka1326

She wants you to get major surgery that is medically unnecessary... That sounds like a selfish child to me not a grown adult about to enter into a marriage.

CynthiaY

Tell her your doctor said no...

RTMommy

Wow. Now THAT'S a bridezilla. She's absolutely out-of-her-mind selfish. She wants her sister to have MAJOR SURGERY so you can be there for her wedding? They'd ridiculous. Don't even let her guilt you. You gave her completely reasonable alternatives and she chose not to listen. If you want a VBAC, you have much better chances after only one c-section. Don't feel bad for doing what is best for your child ans yourself.