makes me sick

mommyof3JAC

How do y'all feel about ur boyfriends watching porn and beating off behind ur back and clearing the history then lying saying he didn't clear it. It magically got cleared on his own. I feel like throwing up. I knew it would happen cuz I don't show him anything but the waist down so I'm sure he's been fiending to see some tits and flat stomachs! Instead of my breastmilk jugs and flabby stretch marks but fuck this shit hurts my feelings!

Junebuggbabie85

Yeah hiding it is not ok at all!

Crisjoe

Which bothers you more, doing it behind your back or lying about history? Grant it, both are hurtful. I despise lying! Im not feeling attractive at this time either, he should make you feel more desirable...looking at porn and lying wont do it. Sorry.

LilSugarsMomma

Porn, really? I would rather my man watch porn than go cheat on me with some random girl. He can't catch an STD by his hand and pass it on to you, nor can he get his hand pregnant. So honestly, I wouldn't be mad about either.

BigBelly

I think I would be more mad at the lying!

Fate

I love porn. My Hubster masturbates daily.

momma_erica

I don't care if mine looks at porn. When I was younger I did but now it doesn't bother me. Men are visualy stimulated where women are more emotionaly stimulated. I guarantee u he isn't watching it thinking oh I wish I had her its just to get the visual. I don't however think its ok to lie or sneak. He probably knows u will get upset & don't want to deal with an argument, and what man wants to say yeah I was beating off...lol!! I am going through not feeling as attractive as pre pregnancy & not being ad confident as before about my body too. It's hard I know but u have blessed him with a beautiful new baby & that makes him look at u with more love than u may know (or than he may express). No porn star can compete with that!!!

Fate

@momma_erica I just fell in love with you.

tinka1326

I have found that my fiance is doing the same thing on a daily basis. The difference is we hardly have sex because he isnt interested or is always tired. I have lost all the baby weight and am blessed not to have stretch marks. I am bf our daughter so the boobs are off limits... Im almost at breaking point... I want my sex life back...

momma_erica

@Fate lol thanks

Mimii36

@Fate mind does too! Lol. It doesn't bother me at all! But he doesn't hide it either. I can go to his history anytime and it will be there.

jennalynne87

Mine does and idc. But he doesnt hide it. I know about it. It bothered me when we first got married but not anymore.

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I would rather him watch porn than to be out cheating...maybe he lies about it bc he's ahamed

LilSugarsMomma

I agree with @tootie08 its kind of an embarassing thing to be caught doing, and to admit. I doubt he's looking at it because of you, its just a guy thing and guys are perverts haha. Although I don't mind them, I would rather my dude be looking at porn than be up at the strip club.

2ndtimearound

I know logically why men do it and that i should be ok but i cant help but feel hurt if my man is turned on by these skinny big titty women. It makes me feel like he wishes my body was like that. Luckily my husband doesnt look at porn too often. He said that when he was younger he did and felt like it was addicting and chooses not to do it anymore. Though sometimes we put it on when we're getting busy.

ceegsmommy75

It's porn, it's more fun to hide when you watch it. HOWEVER, if he knows that it hurts you, he's wrong to hide it from you.

Heather3girls1boy

@mommyof3JAC are you ok with him watching it? Maybe you guys could watch it together

duskbydawn

I personally never had a problem with it until my hubbys porn escalated into him going onto craiglist for women and sex hook up sites..so its like porn only started his addiction but wasn't enough. And I have him whatever he wanted All the time. Still wasn't good enough. His reply, was that he got from porn what I could never give him. That's why I now have a problem with it.. and Its not like we don't have a unique wild sex life. Just that I guess my body isn't his dream body.

I've also had my first childs father tell me.he watched it because he got bored of me, after being together for 3 years. So its hard for me to accept porn.And why should a man need to look at other women to get aroused besides their own partner? Arnt they good enough for them? But each person is different.

duskbydawn

I give props to the women who have enough confidence and.trust to let their husbands do so. I just have many issues with security and confidence after what all has happend.

Mrz_Jackson

@duskbydawn I totally agree I feel my man shouldn't have to look at sumone else if he does then he doesn't need to be wit me !

newmommyFeb2012

My husband and I only watch it together. Its a form of foreplay and during we play with each other. In the end we end up watching each other more than the videos. If he went behind my back I would be devestated and so upset. Luckily for now it doesn't interest him and never really has to watch it alone. We also decided that we would make a promise to each other to only watch it together because our feelings. What I mean is my feelings about him watching other women without me and his feelings about me watching/looking at other men by myself. I look at it this way, if he watches it with me he's not as interested in watching it behind my back and I like to keep my husbands computer and phone full of videos and pics of myself. :-) He loves it. Its kinda funny cause at nine months pregnant I still get dressed up and make a nice dance/strip tease video for him and its def not cause I like the way I look. Its all for him. :-)

ripKaydence

I didn't like my husband looking at it so..... I made my own!!! Lol

sehra4177

i agree with @newmommyFeb2012 i do the same...we watch together then i don't feel like its behind my back. We also then use it for foreplay...i feel like no matter if he hides it or not you are not gonna stop it bc odds are he has been watching it for years. The way i feel is if he is gonna do it join him. I don't feel these women are any better than me...plus my man is mine i am not with 5 diff guys in a day. I have two beautiful kids and one on the way with him...i think too if you incorporate what he does/likes into your sex life it may even get better.. ours did:) i do understand tho it could escalate but just keep talking to him about it communicate

mommyof3JAC

@ripkaydence that's what I'm talking Bout! LOL. But this is the problem... I'm so insecure! I'm 26 he's 23 I know he'd rather look at a tight sexy body than my nasty shit. U know. I wanna be a freak and do crazy shit! But I just am not feeling myself. Then for him to lie about it and keep denying it hurts my feelings. I told him like just tell me!

MyLove2

Well hun I think he's looking for something more the just a shy lover maybe he wants more from you in that field. He's gonna go find a way to see tits and everything else one way or another. If you don't want him to go behind your back and do things like watching Porn and cheating and whatnot I'm guessing you'll have to give him what he's wanting from you. I know it's hard sometimes specially if you just had a baby but If he actually loves you he's not gonna make a huge deal about things like stretch marks and not so right boobies. Maybe talk about it with him maybe that could help. After all loves a two way street.

mom924

We watch it together. Lying and hiding anything in a relationship is unacceptable.

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megaroo

I hate when he lies abiut it and hides it because i would love to watch with him. So there no point in lieing and hideing!

0utlaw_Sphinx

I watch/look at/read more porn than my husband does. I know he watches it and it hasn't ever bothered me. I think it depends on the individual and the relationship. Some people see it as hurtful and that is understandable especially when the offender is hiding and being dishonest about it. That makes it seem even more shameful for you. Others see porn as an extension of cheating. I would suggest you sit him down and talk to him about porn. Ask him why he watches it and if there are certain aspects of sex he is uncomfortable sharing with you. My hubby at one time deleted a window he had open when I wandered past. I called him on it and asked what he was so worried about. Turns out he was interested in bondage and was uncomfortable in how to go about bringing it up. If he was upfront about his porn would you still find it hurtful?

caroline8_p

fkn ditto! @LilSugarsMomma lol!

I do not care if he watches and beats off.. just dont do it when Im in the room, it pisses me off for some reason, lol. Makes me feel bad because *I* do not care for it right now, so he gets none.